We have a 4yo and no family in the area. My husband struggles a lot with sleep, BUT he also has terrible sleep hygiene that he doesn’t really work to fix and contributing health issues he won’t fix. So he ends up going to bed at like 2am and can’t get up in the mornings. He is gone at work like 8-5:30/6. I am staying home with our daughter right now, so every morning I wake up with her between 6:30-7:30.
We try to put her down around 8-8:30. By the time we are done with that and i do bedtime routine like shower, a few products, etc. it’s 9-9:30 and I am very tired and I want to go to bed. I naturally sleep like 9:30-6/6:30 (my body wakes me up without an alarm usually), which I don’t even think is early, but a normal time for a functioning adult who has a young kid.
However my husband is getting sad that we don’t spend any time together, and wants me to do something with him after we put her down, and before I go to bed.
Honestly, I would rather go to sleep. Because if I don’t, I will feel like crap in the morning. Why do I have to stay up? Why can’t he just get up earlier?
I went to bed at 11pm last night to hang out with him, still naturally my body woke up at 6am, and now I feel sick.