To start I’m 20, never had a job, basically dropped out of college before even attending a single day, don’t have a license, no friends, barely any hobbies… etc. I’m tired of sitting around and just using up my parents’ goodwill, but I don’t even know where I’m supposed to start. I’ve been hitting the gym, and I’m planning on getting a scooter or smth so I can transport myself to a job, but it feels like such baby steps. I want to be a pilot or someone cool and skilled like that, and I want to be somebody with a lot of friends and awesome personal experiences, but I feel paralyzed because I already feel like I missed my chance to start trying.
Is there any way to break out of this mindset? I don’t want to be this pathetic and inactive by the time I turn 21 but I haven’t made any progress fixing it.
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You have to throw yourself into situations you’ve never been in. You have to learn to appreciate novel experiences. You have to be a genuine person that other people appreciate. The only thing in your way is fear of the unknown.
Get into framing houses
Every time you take the „plunge“, life moves forward. Sounds like a shallow advice, but if you really want to break free of that stalling situation you‘re in, you have to change the parameters around you. Take a side job, move out, get to know people, be creative, etc … leave that safe space you‘re in right now.
Right now I read your post and am replying to it.
TL;DR: One step at a time. Or break things down into smaller, manageable pieces.
Ask your parents to kick u out. Or just move. When you actually have to make a living and get along with others no matter what, then you will. While you hide out at mommy’s you always have an out.
I mean if you have a date or want to buy something new or go somewhere, you ask mom and dad for money ?? I always had to work and was never given a dollar whatsoever so I had to learn that young. My bike got stolen at age 8. I was working and saved up and had to buy my new bike. Yard work and deliveries in the neighborhood paid for my bike.
My parents kicked me out after I finished school. My alternative was that I could stay and pay market rent plus food. I figured if I was paying market rent i preferred to live away from them. Easier to have dates at my own place. In your 20s a place to have sex seemed very important.
Having to budget work and pay bills and be nice at work to keep my job. This is adulting. I later went back to Night school but I didn’t move back to parents. I adjusted and made it work.