How do you tell if your friend’s jokes putting you down are banter or something more unkind?
How do you tell if your friend’s jokes putting you down are banter or something more unkind?
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How do you tell if your friend’s jokes putting you down are banter or something more unkind?
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I’m no expert but id probably question how they are with other people. Do other people get similar jokes thrown at them too?
They get mad when you burn them.
Friends who are comfortable enough to banter with me aren’t unkind.
Unkind people aren’t comfortable enough to say unkind things to people’s face.
If you speak up and say “hey man, not cool” or “hey don’t go there” and they continue
Then it’s not banter. Simple as that
I think it matters less their intention & more your boundary. Whatever your boundary is for “jokes that border on insults” – enforce it.
If they think you’re “overreacting” or being too sensitive or taking it the wrong way – they just aren’t good people and should be avoided.
The only appropriate reply is omg I’m so sorry! I was kidding but definitely won’t do that anymore.@