Curious what guys actually say or do when they want to reconnect with someone they haven’t spoken to in a while. What’s the male equivalent of a “thinking of you” card? How do you break the ice without it feeling awkward or overly sentimental?
Bonus question: What’s an opener you wish someone would use so it wouldn’t result in a one-word reply?
Looking for real-life examples or a general approach/tone.
I’ve noticed there’s a difference in communication styles between my guy and girl friends, and I’ve stumbled a bit in the past so wanted to get some ideas and perspectives.
First time posting so please go easy on me if this has been written about already! Thank you!
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“Hey [Name], long time no speak! You came to mind today when [anecdote] happened. Hope you’re doing well!”
Following. Great question for a first post!
No matter what you say, reaching out to a friend won’t reault in a one word reply….usually
I don’t 💀
I saw or heard <insert relevant thing here> which made me think of you. It’s been awhile. I recently <did a thing>. How about you? What’s new in your world?
“Hey man, how you been?”. Is a great start.
“Dude! It’s been too long, we’re overdue for a catch up. Let me know if you’re free some night in the next week or two.”
Or send a meme or something funny and then set something up once the convo is rolling
I mean just be straight up, did you randomly think about them? Let them know. It’s nice to be thought of. Did something happen or you see something that reminded you of them? Sure that. It doesn’t have to be sappy at all.
“I passed by that taco bell off route whatever and just remembered all the late night tbell runs we used to do, how have you been man?”
something like that
I literally did this a few hours ago to a guy I’ve not seen in about a year.
“Fancy a beer?”
Awaiting a response.
“Yo it’s been a while, come out for a drink/coffee, let’s catch up.”
I don’t like having the whole catchup sesh be over text, feels to impersonal.
A simple – hey how are you!? Lets catchup.
Usually what will happen is I’ll be doing something that reminds me of a friend I haven’t connected with in a while. I’ll then share that thing with them (maybe it is an article or video) and get going from there.
No need to, every moment is unique, had those moments not been treasured in the past with your old friends, make new ones and treasure them, we only live from present to another present
Literally just call them up and start talking. Guys have an inate ability to pick up where a friendship left off no matter how long it’s been.
As long as you were really friends, just say, “Hey bud, what’s going on.”
I have a long distance male friend and I just text him whenever I feel like. We sometimes don’t even reply till days later. Which is fine. We also text at anytime if we need advice or anything of that nature. It usually goes something like this: “bro, miss ya man it’s been too long , how’s life, kids, work? Hey have you seen this? (Insert meme). Then we just go from there. We respectfully text if we can call if he wants to voice chat. This is my favorite relationship. You can walk away but years later they even want to know how you are. Friends are timeless. And you’ll know when you found a real one. Acquaintances are for today.
“Hey man, it’s been awhile. I hope you’re alright! Let’s catch up soon” or something. Friendly and inviting
There isn’t one for me, really. With the exception of a wee bit of pish taking about physical changes, it’s like no time has passed. Just “alright lad, want a beer”, that’s it.
“Dude, s’up?”
Or
“Been forever, man. S’up?”
Or
Been awhile, dude—‘member that place that burned down after [whoever] [did whatever]?”
Edit: I am a human and used an em dash, because it’s human language—apparently using language auto-means some ai shit wrote shit.
A simple text, like “How’s it going”.
Let them make the move first. I’m something like 0-4 on this reaching out myself.
I hope you’re doing well. Anyway, how would you like to be your own boss and make $15000 a month?
Just message them, apologize, I sometimes forget for weeks.
I’ll usually say something like “Haven’t talked to you in a while, just wanted to see how you’re doing.”
Yo yo yo how goes it? Usually followed by a nice nickname like ‘chief’ or something similar or a comical insulting name like ‘me olde chode sniffer’, just depends on who it is and how close I am with them.
“hey man, we should definitely hang out again, how are you doing?” and then wait for a respons.
I’ll send them a Facebook message
I’ve done this like 5 times over ten years though
I try not bother people
Long time bro! What’s been happening?
I… Don’t.
It’s kind of awkward.
With a male friend you just continue the last conversation you had with him, even of 10 years passed since then.
Who has friends?
I send memes or an event that we’re both interested in to see if they would want to go. Either way it starts a convo
I send them memes I think they might like and that gets the ball rolling…