How do you validate that what you’re doing is enough?

r/

I work hard. I show up. I try to be better than the examples I had. But still there’s this voice in the back of my head that whispers, “You should be doing more.”

More for my kids. More for my partner. More for work. More for everyone.

How do I feel proud of myself without feeling guilty for it?

Comments

  1. AgencyNo758 Avatar

    If you’re showing up and giving your best that is enough sometimes “do more” is just guilt talking.

  2. Heartless_Kirby Avatar

    i do my best and that is enough. Everyone who thinks i should do more is welcome to do ‘the more’ instead of me.

  3. Sustainable_Twat Avatar

    Ask yourself, “What exactly can you do more?”

    Sometimes, in life, you need to learn to put your own needs first. It’s admirable that you care about others but in taking care of others, you don’t want to neglect yourself.

  4. UnknownYetSavory Avatar

    I need external validation. I know it ain’t the ideal, but doubt is the devil that haunts me, and if my self worth isn’t 100%, then I’m not longer confident it’s not actually 0. A very “first or last” self image. But I lean heavily on outside accomplishments. If I zoom out a bit, I’m doing pretty damn well. Could be little things, could be big, but every example of my success is ammunition to chip away at that devil’s charisma, and hammer him down with the same doubt he used on me.

  5. Homely_Bonfire Avatar

    The result fit what I want to achieve with my actions. Nothing more needed.

  6. yesiknowimgreat Avatar

    You don’t. Just keep showing up. That’s the trick to life, nothing else matters

  7. No_Salad_68 Avatar

    By the results.