I am in my young 20s, and haven’t had a chance to fall or be in love. I have stayed single all my life, and I could just imagine falling in love. But what’s it really like? Do people see the world in a new way?
How does it feel to fall/be in love?
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Yeah it blocks out the rest of the world.
intense. I’m not a fan.
It takes a lot of your focus and you want to act a lot towards that person.
You feel a lot of empathy for them and want them to be at their best.
You feel affected by their actions that drive them towards you or away from you.
It can be a good or a bad feeling depending on how it turns out.
I’m 28 years old, I’ve been in love twice but I’ve never been in a relationship, I didn’t appeal to either of those two people.
20? Rookie number. 26 years. Even I don’t know the feeling
Single all your life? You’re 20! Chill out. You’re in a marathon. Oh, the places you’ll go, the people you’ll meet. Because it’s true.
My perception of it might be skewed bcs of the after events but when I was blinded by the toxicity it felt warm and bubbly. If you listen to Lauryn hills song, “nothing even matters” ft D’Angelo. That’s what it felt like.
My husband of 31 years kissed me on our first date and I swear it felt like I floated into my house afterward. He asked me to marry him 2 weeks later❤️
It hurts. In a weird way. You automatically know that if it doesn’t work out you’ll be crushed infinitely, and you are crushed, when it doesn’t. But you pursue them anyway because you can’t even look at them without getting butterflies, and losing your ability to concentrate on anything else. They fill you with dread. You know deep down the odds are stacked against you, but this person …. for some reason she just resonates with you like no one else ever has. Her hair, her nose, her hands, her attitude. Its like nothing you ever felt before. You sexually crave them all hours of the day. You want to bury yourself in their skin. You want to be a part of them. Their farts, their armpits, their feet .. they don’t bother you, because they come from the most beautiful thing you have ever seen. You would eat it all up if you could.
Its a dangerous game to play, and she broke my heart multiple times. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Plus, we have a daughter, so I definitely wouldn’t trade it for the world.
It’s wonderful and it has shaped my whole life. It’s hard to talk about it without being clichéd or sounding smug
It’s nuclear. It can empower you to reach great things efficiently, but it can also destroy you to dust.
It feels like anything else intense does, but there’s a security to it. When you’re truly in love you know that you’re trying your hardest to improve their life while they’re doing the same for yours. Love isn’t infatuated or obsession. It’s seeing a human for all the flaws they have and realizing all of your own flaws, but putting them aside and working on them together will make both of you better. Love feels like it’s pushing you somewhere whether you like it or not, and it’s pushing you to be better for the person you love, as much as for yourself. If you don’t know what loving yourself is though then it’s really hard to love someone else. It took me a couple years before I was even able to give love I hated myself so much.
This is my experience with love
There are stages to being in Love: the initial stage is emotional, ups & downs, one’s heart really does “flutter”. It’s not the Sex, although there is that, but it’s the knowledge that another human being loves you back. That connection begs you to be together as much as you can as you discover each other.
Then you both start to “peel away the layers of the onion”. In other words, a deep relationship requires complete transparency and honesty. That’s super scary because you’ve never shared so much with another person. There will be hiccups here, things you can’t accept about the other. You’ll both discover your boundaries. If you survive this phase, you’ll really start not just “being in Love” but “Loving” the other person. I’m a 74M and love my wife more than I can find words for.
The power of love is a curious thing
Make a one man weep, make another man sing
Change a hawk to a little white dove
More than a feeling, that’s the power of love
Tougher than diamonds, rich like cream
Stronger and harder than a bad girl’s dream
Make a bad one good, mm, make a wrong one right
Power of love that keep you home at night
You don’t need money, don’t take fame
Don’t need no credit card to ride this train
It’s strong and it’s sudden, and it’s cruel sometimes
But it might just save your life
That’s the power of love
That’s the power of love
First time you feel it, it might make you sad
Next time you feel it, it might make you mad
But you’ll be glad, baby, when you’ve found
That’s the power makes the world go ’round
And it don’t take money, don’t take fame
Don’t need no credit card to ride this train
It’s strong and it’s sudden, it can be cruel sometimes
But it might just save your life
They say that all in love is fair
Yeah, but you don’t care (ooh)
But you know what to do (what to do)
When it gets hold of you
And with a little help from above
You feel the power of love
You feel the power of love
Can you feel it?
Hm-hm
It don’t take money, and it don’t take fame
Don’t need no credit card to ride this train
Tougher than diamonds and stronger than steel
But you won’t feel nothin’ ’til you feel
You feel the power, just feel the power of love
That’s the power, mm, that’s the power of love
You feel the power of love
You feel the power of love
Feel the power of love
time slows down
depends on who you fell in love with. and keep in mind that love comes in a package with heartbreak, you’re gonna get hurt or hurt that person one way or another, it’s inevitable.
the pain is not worth it if you ask me
Joyful mixed with disbelief and skeptism
Imagine unknowingly being in something which can either make you or break you for a while. But its just so damn good that you have to try it.
Don’t do it
It’s like having a permanent brain freeze, but you enjoy it for some reason.
Magical. It happens naturally. Don’t try to force it.
Have you always had trouble with this? If so, you could be on the aromantic/asexual spectrum
It felt like citrus, like opening up the perfect orange 🍊
So I was in a relationship for about 4.5 years, when I was 19-23. So end of 2016 to mid 2021. Truthfully, she and I fought a lot about little things in the last year and a half of our relationship which is why we broke up. But during that time when we were good, it felt great. To have someone on your side, to talk to, to do things with, to make you feel special, to make them feel special, to get to know her family and be accepted by them.
I often consider 2016-2019 to be some of the best years of my life. I think being in that relationship played a part in me feeling that way.
Great when it’s mutual and working. It will destroy you when it’s not mutual or it ends. Some people survive it, some people don’t. The rest just stay miserable and married, purely because they’d rather be miserable together instead of being alone.
Once you experience it you’ll have to decide for yourself whether it’s worth doing again. Personally, i prefer to stay single and just hook up. The fighting, drama, manipulation and toxicity of relationships is not worth it to me, even when the good times are good.
it’s like heroin, and just like heroin it eventually stops working like it used to and you run out and get dope sick
Baby don’t hurt me, baby don’t hurt me, no more
For me, I would asleep at night with my heart filled with “warmth”, for lack of a better word. I felt like I was floating 6 inches above the covers. I just completely adored the woman and couldn’t believe my luck.
Like hell pure torture
I like when I’m having a good day and then see people describe something I’ll never have. Happy for all of you though
You feel a deep love for yourself, because someone so incredible decides to share time with you. You feel like the most special and luckiest person in the world.
I always thought i love my wife. But i really learned what unconditional love is at the birth of my son. Man this hits different. From the first moment i saw that little fella i know i would move the world for him.
It feels amazing. For me, i feel like I’m living in my own romantic novel. The world is full of so much more colour. I have a constant warm fluttery feeling from within. I blush just thinking about him and I’m always daydreaming about him.
It’s that feeling where your heart does a weird lil flip just thinking about them. Everything feels a bit more colorful. Music hits different, food tastes better, even boring stuff like waiting in line doesn’t feel so bad if you’re texting them or thinking about their laugh. Being in love though that’s where it gets real good. It’s like comfort meets excitement. You still get butterflies sometimes, but there’s also this calm, like you can just be around them. No pressure. Just soft, easy vibes. You feel seen. And safe. And hella lucky.
It’s like a wise man once said -and I quote-: “When you fall in love, everything’s a waltz”.
It will just happen without even finding.
It will feel like your world revolves around him/her and nothing else. You will find yourself smiling randomly, link any songs you hear to him/her. You become jealous and attentive.
Mostly good feelings. The jealousy part and being apart, not so
I’m asexual/aromantic. I’ve never been in love.
Nothing…
Everything!
Ever see a puppy?
It’s kind of like that.
It’s terrible I only fell in love once with some girl
Who didn’t know what she wanted still think about her time to time
Have you ever had a puppy? That love u have for your puppy that u wanna protect them and make them happy and love seeing the joy in their eyes? That’s how it feels 😅 you just love your partner and want all the happiness for them and would be heartbroken if they’re sad or in pain or having a bad day.
It is one of the most amazing feelings ever. Can also be one of the worst.
It’s euphoric, I don’t think there are enough adjectives to describe the beauty of falling in love. I know for me, I’m on cloud nine, just walking around all giddy. It’s so cute lol.
I didn’t fall in love until I was 27.
I went from being very emotionally deep, but bitter & grumpy, to looking at the life through a whole new lens as I realized she really did welcome everything I was with open arms. I went from being very generally unenthused by life, and dragging my body around from obligation to obligation with a furrowed brow and chip on my shoulder, to always having a reason to smile.
It gives the dark and cold aspects of life a warm, glowing contrast that you can’t imagine until you experience it. It feels like the other side of the coin, a foil, to life’s pain that makes it worth it. Imagine the feeling of a beautiful woman that you adore giving you a tight hug, then amplify it and imagine that feeling following you everywhere. It is so strong that it is 101% a drug. It’s easy to overdose and become dependant on it, too. You have to learn to navigate those waters by first hand experience, though.
I fucked it up the first time, but the lessons I learned through that pain have been a phenomenal guide for future attempts. Every goodbye leaves you wiser, and just a little more ready for the right one.
Good luck out there, brother.
It’s like feeling like you’re home after a long day.
The highlight of life. Falling in love with my husband was magical. And the feeling of love when they put my newborn sons on my chest is the highest high of all.