Like let’s say you’re single and have been going on dates with several girls. You never slept with anyone. From all your talking stages, which girl do you have the hardest time getting over and moving on from ? Is it the girl that you were the most sexually attracted to?
How does sexual attraction correlate to the girl you had the hardest time getting over ?
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Maybe, or the one that I felt the best connection with.
But definitely not to a girl I wasn’t attracted to.
The opposite for me, personally. It’s the woman I ditched for a more physically attractive partner. I was young and stupid and cared about that more back then. To this day I miss the way her personality gelled with mine and I haven’t met another woman with the same chemistry so far.
I don’t think you can definitely answer this, for me it depends on my age, experience and generally where I am in life.
Not really dependent on how „nice“ the girl was, but how happy I was with myself.
-> clearer mind = faster „getting over someone“
She was the least attractive one. I felt like conversation just flowed effortlessly with her. She put me in the friendzone and i was happy just being friends. The thing that made it hard to get over her was how fucking evil and two faced she was. For like 2 years she was normal and charming and then one day a switch flipped in her brain and she just became such a vile piece of shit. Made me question did i ever really even know her.
It’s random tbh
Whilst I would say I’ve seen girls who I’ve deemed to be more attractive than her, the reason why it was difficult wasn’t her looks, it was the connection and time we shared.
Im speaking from a very small personal dataset of two girls, where I had sexual relations with only one. My heart longs more for the other girl honestly, I felt we complemented each other so well just by being together. Although for the longest time (even now) my mind keeps reminding me of how ‘good’ sex was with the first girl, I dont really have any desire to do it now.
The girl I had the hardest time getting over definitely influenced the type of women I’m attracted to in two ways. I found myself more attracted to women outside of my race and much more aware of/less likely to ignore red flags or deal-breakers
It took me a while to get over the first woman I had sex with. It took another, wilder, woman to get over the first one.
The one that was the easiest to talk and have fun with
Of the three women I have struggled to get over and still miss I was highly attracted to two of them, but it isn’t the sex or how they looked I miss. For example one of them I never even had sex with because we were just friends and she was married and I was not that attracted to her (she was hot just not my type) and the other was just a friend I fell in love with. Instead what I miss was the feelings when I was with them, talking to them, just being around them, and things like that.
I have no issue getting over someone after a breakup or divorce. I have only a hard time if it was taken by death.
Rather the one the most compatible. Because she was great all around and I made the wrong choices.
If nothing happened, then it’s pretty easy to move on from any of em. It doesn’t matter if I’m very sexually attracted to her if I’m not feeling like she’s not that into me, and I’m not going to be a dancing monkey for a cute girl ever again.
My “one who got away” was actually a woman I was not that into physically. She was fine, sort of a plain-Jane, girl next door type but a lot of her features just weren’t my thing. The one time we fooled around she was also a bit of a dead fish in bed. The things that drew me to her were her brains, personality & sense of adventure.
Whoever has connected with me the best. Looks eventually disappear, personalities are forever.
It doesn’t. The first one was the hardest just because it hadn’t happened before.