how close are you to your fellow guy friends? I know with girl friendships they tend to be more physically close compared to male friendships. I (19m) am very comfortable around my male friends. We tend to fool around a lot and act in ways some May consider ‘homo’ as a form of bonding and humour. We don’t feel awkward about platonic physical affection and this can confuse people who don’t understand the depth of our friendship. I won’t go into any particular details, just painting a general picture.
So I wanted to ask the men here how their dynamic with their guy friends looks like and if there are any similarities to mine.
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how close are you to your fellow guy friends? I know with girl friendships they tend to be more physically close compared to male friendships. I (cishet male) am very comfortable around mine male friends. We tend to fool around a lot and act very homo as a form of bonding and humour. We don’t feel awkward about platonic physical affection and this can confuse people who don’t understand the foundation of our friendship. I won’t go into any particular details, just painting a general picture.
So I wanted to ask the men here how their dynamic with their guy friends looks like and if there are any similarities to mine.
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I’d need to have friends to answer this question
32 years old – 15 year friend group of 7 dudes.
Sounds pretty similar to mine in general. We talk about some deep topics to get support or perspectives on different life items.
Affection: plenty of hugs goodbye and plenty of “I love you”s being said.
Moments after the deep talks we are flaming each other no differently than we did a decade ago.
My best friend knows I love him. We were there for each other over the past 35 years (both in our 50s). When my kid got sick at age 6 and almost died, he was there. When she got better, we celebrated her good fortune. When I got divorced, he comforted me.
I like to hope I’ve always been there for him as well. God knows I’ve tried. When he fought through kidney stones, i brought him gifts to lift his spirits. When he battled cancer and shingles at the same time, I was there in the hospital holding his hand.
We were both caregivers to our aging parents around the same time. When we lost his mom, then my dad, then his dad, then earlier this year, we lost my mom. I don’t know if I’d have made it without his emotional support.
I would literally take a bullet for him. I’ll still call him every name in the book. Roasting is part of our dynamic and he gives as good as he gets. Often far better in fact. But I love the little shit.
The more years that pass the more they disintegrate.
i struggle with displaying anything affectionate n i haven’t known anyone for long enough to be that comfortable but by god i crave that shit
We’re mostly hanging out in discord, since we all live apart now
My male friendship are great. All of them are based around business.
Have 6 buddies that I have known for 25+ and some of those are even longer. We are there for each other through the good times and tough times. I feel so lucky that i found them. We stay connected on a text chat and the dad jokes and mom jokes keep us all laughing together.
We hug now and then but thats about as far as physical affection goes. Id do anything for them without question though, they got me through some stuff.
Although my decision-making is less “safe and legal” around my BFF, we are as close as twins. I would easily and without a second thought step in front of a bullet for him, and he would for me. We tell each other we love each other and hug upon meeting up. I doubt others would see us as homosexual. I find him repulsive in a sexual manner. And really don’t see what women see in him. Now his brother…I’d do him.
We mostly hang out in discord and play league of legends together. And similar to you our friend ship is really great even month without talking to them and I join in it was like high school again. And yeah same here as well our conversation is pretty gay hell they are more gay than me an actual queer. But again it was nice we started bonding with video games and still doing it today
I hang with my buddy who lives in a different city once every three weeks. My other friend’s gf has a baby dude June 14, so any minute now. I won’t see him for a while I don’t think.
We’re close to the point that our wives might not be surprised if we turned out gay (not really).
I just chill with my best friend and have a great time with him. Have a laugh or fun conversations.
I did last night have a dream where someone told me that my best friend unfortunately passed away and I remember crying in the dream and feeling distraught my the news. Only to wake up and be thankful it was just a dream and his perfectly okay.
I generally love my best friend (platonically). One of the best things to happen in my life was meeting him.
There’s a strong silent agreement to have each other’s backs when needed and I think we understand each others toxic male quirks and can work around them.
Like, I lied to my one friend(who is also my very hardworking boss) when his dad died that I could use more hours so if he wanted to take more time off he could. I did not need said hours, I just knew his borderline self destructive work ethic would throw himself back into his job before he was done mourning. We’re close enough friends that I know how to help him chill the fuck out and not feel bad about it.
Same friend picked up on when I was having issues with my wife and gave me a safe place to talk and feel like the world isn’t ending without making me feel insecure.
Hugs and stuff aren’t weird and they’ll say they love me now and again and vice versa.
I’m glad to have healthy male relationships with these guys. More men should foster platonic bonds like this I think.
My best guy friend lives 500miles away. We text daily, call occasionally, share creative ideas routinely, share notes about dates we go on.
We use voice memos a lot to have asynch conversations.
We talk openly about hard things. There is a very important trust that we both value.
I’m 44m. He is 38m.
We’ve been friends for 10-15years.
I’m also from Italy. So I hug my friends often. We do similar “gay” things joking around.
We openly talk about our feelings and relationships.
I have a few I play video games with.
Play rec sports with.
I’m 47. They’re mostly around 42 to 45.
Just meet up and shoot the shit, talking about anything.