So I (26F) met a guy on Hinge (21M), and he made it clear he just wants a “playmate”. I’m also not looking for anything serious.
HERE’S the problem: I’ve NEVER been on a date. Not even a first kiss.
He’s cute and I don’t really wanna drive him off and he seems fine with it if it just ends up being a hang out instead. But IF I’m enjoying my time, should I go further? How much further…? Any advice?
Please be kind. I know, I know, 26 and never been on a date is strange, it’s my new year’s resolution to go on my first date…which I’m trying to make happen.
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A playmate might not be the right fit to ease into dating. They’re in a hurry to get to one thing
But does he expect a sex date?
Maybe thats going to fast for you. Maybe you dont think so but its pretty overwhelming.
It’s not strange, don’t worry. Don’t put pressure on yourself over this, you could be 45 or 67 and it would still be not strange.
For the other part, we can’t decide for you. It will all depend on how you’re feeling with him, if you feel like taking a step further or not, if you feel safe. All things that you only will know.
But, don’t push yourself into doing something you do not want to do because you feel like it’s ‘what I’m supposed to do’. Put your feelings and safety first before any type of social expectations.
Be safe and have a good date !
“Playmate” is some creepy terminology. Don’t get murdered.
Whatever you feel ready for is what you should accept/expect. There’s no rules.
First off, there’s nothing “strange” about being 26 and new to this seriously, be gentle with yourself! If you’re having fun and feel safe, only go as far as you genuinely want to. There’s no rule. A kiss? Great. More? Only if you feel truly ready. Trust your gut you don’t owe him anything just because you’re there. And if it just stays a chill hangout, that’s okay too. Your pace, your choice.