Just a general question. I believe in full transparency in a relationship. I don’t believe the other person should have to ask for it. I think as a token of trust you should offer it up. How far into a relationship do you think it’s ok to share it?
How fast in a relationship should you share your phone passcode?
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IMO, only in an emergency or when they need it and then change it again. Full transparency in a relationship is great and encouraged but you also don’t really know if your partner could end up being abusive and then sharing a passcode becomes a major problem.
Is it mandatory to share phone passcode?
Before you live together.
Never
It’s okay to share it whenever, but it’s never mandatory. If you don’t trust your partner without having open access to their phone, you need to work on your trust issues.
Not everything needs to be shared, unless youve massive insecurities.
My GF and I don’t have each other’s codes, but it she needs to used my phone, I obvs give it to her.
.. Never?
IMHO, never. We’ve been together 18+ years. She knows mine but only because sometimes I can not make the motions (limited motion in my dominate hand from damage).
She wants to see my email? I’ll open it. She wants at my messages? Have at it.
My watch unlocks the phone mostly so she can open it if I am within a few feet.
Same with hers. (Same phones, same watches)
Yeah I think it’s weird if you don’t know each other’s passcode. What’s to hide? If you’re doing nothing it really shouldn’t matter. And, don’t go looking for things once you have the passcode. That’s trust.
Never
Like…. Never! Wtf are you thinking??
i didn’t make it a blatant: this is my passcode here!!! just at some point i was unavailable to log into my phone (driving etc.) and i just gave it to him
never
Only after you are married.
I don’t believe in looking through each other’s phones. If you need that to feel like trust is intact, trust is not intact.
Never.
I’ve never shared mine or asked for my partner’s even in long term relationships. I think I’d expect something like that if we were married/ planning on getting married. Because then we’d become tied financially/ materially and our phones hold a lot of important info we’d need in the event that something happened to the other.
It’s not something I think should be mandatory – but if you ask, your partner should have no problem telling you their password on the spot, even if they change it later. If I ask a dude his password for something quick and casual and he hesitates/ takes his phone from me that’s a major red flag. Usually means there’s something on his phone in that very moment that he doesn’t want me to see.
So you should be able to ask without issue – but you shouldn’t have their password at all times. They shouldn’t have to tell you if/when they change it.
Personally I wouldn’t share it but if I had to it would be when trust is fully established not before
As soon as you are on your dying last breath and her phone is dead and there is no charger within 400 miles
DNR
A token of trust would be to NOT expect or ask for another’s passcode OP. You sound a little unhinged.
Within the first hour of meeting
Been married 25 years we still don’t. In healthy relationships people respect boundaries.
Personally I find this question and practice to be a red flag, and extremely immature and toxic. If you don’t trust someone you shouldn’t be with them. Period.