How do you let go of the shame of how you were treated when your self worth was low?
How have you forgiven yourself for how you let people treat you before you saw your own value?
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How do you let go of the shame of how you were treated when your self worth was low?
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Probably an uncommon answer, but I just let it go one day. I got tired of dwelling on how weak of a person I used to be before I found myself again. I couldn’t move forward being anchored to the past. And I refused to jeopardize my relationship by not evolving as a person. I just wish I could’ve done it sooner
I stopped beating myself up when I realized that version of me was just craving love, not pain. I didn’t lack value—I just hadn’t learned how to protect it yet. Now I treat that old version of me with the same compassion I’d give a friend.
I realized my acquiescence was part of the problem. If I had gotten a backbone earlier, I would have been enjoying my happy, single life sooner. I look at this as a lesson learned.
I was a different person then. And she did nothing to require forgiveness.
I don’t think I ever had to, i was too occupied w how fucked up it is to treat another person the way i was treated
By addressing it through a process I learned by reading Loving what is. I had been in therapy and doing so much better for 2 years found this book and for the first time in 25+ years truly started to love myself by understanding past traumas and focusing on what I knew then and giving myself the grace of how I handled them.
After a serious monologue I saw the drivers that sort of made sense in decisions I had made, and I can only have sympathy for that. I can’t judge my past self, but I feel a little sorry. It’s best to learn about that and make sure I know better in the future, and also to build a confidence to stop to have a temperature check the next time to make sure I don’t repeat weak reasoning but make true decisions.
I decided to stop hanging onto those thoughts and to move forward for myself.
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I haven’t yet. I am trying to understand how I accepted such bad behavior. Was I that desperate to want to be accepted by people with negative intentions? Maybe
Love empathy towards people u let urself get crushed to protect someone else
it came from a place of love. i was innocent. i believed in “when i wouldn’t do them dirty, they wouldn’t either” haha. guess i was too naive. i always saw the good in people and never second guessed their intentions. but now i’ve learned my lesson, the fucking hard way. that irrespective of how much you love or value a person or a bond, you still need to have boundaries, you should never let someone walk over you. i did what i do the best, gave the same love and grace to myself that i give to everyone and yes i forgave myself. now my self respect comes first. no matter what. and i’m just happy that i’m becoming the best version of myself everyday <33
Sort of. I certainly can see that I was groomed and live-bombed. I haven’t forgiven myself for being afraid to leave. Not afraid of him, but afraid of being on my own, raising my kids on my own, not having a partner to work through things with when life gets hard, not having his income as a safety net as I get older and our economy gets worse.
“I stopped blaming myself for not knowing what I didn’t know. Growth isn’t pretty, but it’s real.”
I act like it didn’t happen💗 Onwards and upwards!