I find that men seem easier to please the older they get. Yet, most people say older men are more desired due to being more emotionally and financially stable. Wouldn’t that translate to having higher standards?
How have your dating standards changed as you’ve got older?
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My access to quality women has improved tremendously, while my tolerance for nonsense is now very close to zero.
They’ve gone up but also I stopped dating altogether.
Well women found me ugly, so I started working out. This changed my life and now I need a woman with a simular view on physical avtivity and who’s fit too.
How old and how old looking are you talking about? Yes, a 45 yr old dude with 10% of his hair left, a gut and making $60K a year might not be as picky as he used to be.
From 25 to 35 I became far more demanding of physical standards.
Older men tend to be wiser, and wise men understand that it’s completely futile to put high standards on women.
Young men have high standards on women because they are under the delusion that a woman will meet them.
As men get older, this delusion wears off and the expectations go back to where they should have been in the first place.
I am a lot more confident today that I was when I was 20. I want someone who wows people and am no longer afraid to shoot my shot with anyone, where I would have been to timid in the past.
When you’re young, you mostly want to date a hot girl — makes you feel good, lil ego boost and all. At my age now, I’ve just been around the block enough to know when a woman will drive me crazy in the long run and it’s an instant pass. I know exactly what I like and who I’ll jive with and I don’t have time/energy/inclination to chase someone that isn’t going to fit that criteria.
Older men are less willing to jump through hoops, though you may not need to do any more for them.
Their standards dont usually change much but they aren’t usually as willing to become obsesses over another person. They become more set in their ways and used to living a life. Sex isn’t new and it’s nothing to pretend to be someone else for.
So yeah…. They’re just as easy to get. You’ll just find that on average they are willing to deviate from their routine less.
No dummies, and no unserious women either.
When I was younger I was all about growing with my partner. Even if were weren’t established. The idea of going through that journey together seemed fitting and romantic.
Right now. The idea of having a partner in crime sounds great and it’s still something I would like. Right now im trying to focus on upgrading myself and attracting others with that energy. I would say one of the main things I look for is emotional intelligence and humility. My tolerance for BS is very low, and I dont invest unless the chemistry is real. I let them know who I am and what I’m about and if it doesn’t mesh well, I leave.
I honestly like how things are now.
Im 46 now. My standards have risen significantly over the years.
Started from zero success with medium standards, to “this shit ain’t for me” after a couple decades (so no standards anymore).
I guess it also translates to having been around the block a few times and getting a few good looks at what’s out there
First off, not all of us older dudes are fully emotionally and financially stable. At 40, i’m starting at zero basically. Headed back to school, working on my health, and trying to become better off financially by getting my degree. Dating is definitely different for me now that I’m older. I have matured quite a bit in the past year and I’m a better partner because of it. If I were to go back into the dating world, I’d have non-negotiables I’ve never had before. Communication being the most important one. The other day my gf and I had a fight, my dumbass fell back into old habits, I got mad and ignored her for a couple days. I realized I was in the wrong, I apologized, expressed I shouldn’t have acted that way, however, I did need that space and I should’ve communicated this to her. She accepted the apology, acknowledged I needed space because I was upset. She then said we could talk when I was ready, we did just that and things were settled. Let me tell you…that is not easy to find, someone whom listens and validates your feelings is not a common thing, unfortunately. But also, having a person like that checks me, it reminds me I cannot be petty or let my pride get in the way.
Went from having standards like “needs to be fit like me” “have a job” “have a car” “a nice person” and with this i had very little success in dating so I dropped all standards except “no fat chicks” and after that I gave fat chicks a try….. now I have fully given up, unless a girl throws herself at me I dont bother with women at all lol