For context, my gf and I went to a convention and she was in a sexy cosplay. Her friend, my acquaintance, was flirting with her infront of me. I wasn’t bothering me at first because she was in a sexy outfit and I knew this guy asked her out prior to us dating. She told me she he has approached her in the past.
As the night went on and some drinks started flowing the acquaintance started to poke more at her and touch her a lot infront or me. I was DD so I didn’t drink but I started realizing that she was flirting back a little bit. After seeing a couple interactions I knew I would need to speak to her about it.
On the way home I thought about bringing it up but didn’t. Because I didn’t want to end a good night on a bad note. I still feel like I need to say something. How do I approach this conversation?
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You should never accept the person you are dating entertaining the attention from another person. It is disrespectful and in my opinion, it is cheating. You should have said something at the moment it was happening. Never accept being disrespected
How long have you been together?
I don’t know what you’re waiting for to talk to her about how she was flirting with her friend.
Why are you hesitant or scared to talk about it?? The longer you hold it in, the more she will think it was completely fine to flirt back and she will normalize it and might do it in the future. If anything is bothering you that involves her, then immediately bring it up