I’m curious as to how many people come across men they are genuinely physically attracted to. Not lukewarm about, but 100% attracted to like you
I’m curious as to how many people come across men they are genuinely physically attracted to. Not lukewarm about, but 100% attracted to like you
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It’s very important to me but rarely happens tbh
It is somewhat important. I want to be attracted to man, but it’s not that deep anymore. Experiences showed me that the rawest, animal attraction never went the long way.
I come across exactly zero men that I feel that way about.
This is because I am a lesbian, not because I am over 30.
Attraction is always important no matter the age. That’s what draws you to someone initially.
I’m 35 and I think raw attraction is very important. Still feel this way about my partner of almost ten years, especially when he changes something about himself like hair, beard, clothing or weight (he does a manual job all through summer and gets pretty hench with it, then slims down a lot over winter). Not really attracted to strangers, but that’s been true for me whenever I’m in a healthy relationship, even back in my teens and twenties.
Yeah, I have real and raw physical attraction at 38. It’s not always immediate and it’s not always strictly appearance-based, but I still categorize it as “physical attraction” because it pulls me to be physically closer to someone and want them to put their hands on me.
I’m currently finding myself very physically attracted to someone I have known for 6 months and didn’t feel this way about until now. But damn, sometimes you suddenly notice people are kinda hot and start looking at them differently… 🥵
I’ve been deeply attracted to men before and I’ve found that I don’t necessarily have a type the way I thought I did in my early twenties. It’s not so much about looks anymore the way it used to be. I feel like at this point, I’m way more attracted to their personality, values and morals.
I’ve experienced the intense physical attraction with a few men and they ended up being completely opposite of what I would have liked in a person. Not to say that all good looking men are like that. But it taught me to really not focus too much on looks.
Yes, but it’s not just their looks. Kinda cute + great personality + chemistry will equal 100% “raw physical attraction” to me.
40s and it’s very important to me. If I’m getting involved with someone, or even just sleeping with them, I want to be super into them and have that be returned.
I’m not talking about like they have to look like a model or whatever, I find more unconventional looks attractive, but within that framework, that element is important.
Also, reminder that queer people exist. Not everyone dates/sleeps with men. I am bi, but we do have lesbians here also.
It’s really important BUT it’s different now. Being in my 30s and knowing what I want has totally changed what I find physically attractive now. Someone’s personality and how they carry themselves can completely change how I view them. The most gorgeous man on earth could be in front of me but if he sucks im instantly turned off. Physical attraction is no longer enough.
My attraction to men waxes and wanes.
There are hot men, but to me, looks are neither here nor there. I prioritise other things.
Very important along with emotional intelligence, definitely why I’m still single. Haaha. Never settle ladies
Attraction is deeply important and the old adage that women can grow to find attraction needs to be tempered—it’s actually my own personal belief that more men should allow attraction to grow. Anyway, yeah do not underestimate physical attraction’s importance if you are a woman. You NEED to be attracted to that man physically no matter how great the personality.
Chemistry is important, it’s just not the only box that has to be checked.
Well I am demisexual, so once I am emotionally attracted I think they are the most beautiful person in the world LOL
My ex had a lot of flaws but it was almost like he wore a real life filter until I stopped liking him. He had acne, but I never noticed until he pointed it out because I liked him so much
Now, he is meh to me. I still want him back due to attachment issues though 😅
Very
I live in a big city, it’s extremely infrequent, but it does happen. Infrequent due to me having high standards/particularities, but, there are exceptionally attractive men.
Physical attraction is very very important, but they also have to be intellectually exciting or I get bored and move past them very fast.
Important. I’m gorgeous, so I want someone who is also gorgeous. He can hit a majority of my standards, but if I’m not sexually attractive to him, then he isn’t for me.
I think attraction is ofc subjective, sometimes I like when a guy dresses well or has a coolness about him
When I visited Europe there were so many attractive men who were super good looking in a humble sort of way. In the city I do see a lot of good looking guys but come across like they could be arrogant. I guess energy plays into your attractiveness
50 here. Raw attraction is very important to me. It’s how I feel about my current partner. He has many great qualities, but wanting him physically is important to me. I look at him and think “hot damn!”
Physical attraction can grow with time. At least that’s been the case for me. Being attracted to his personality can increase his level of physical attractiveness to me.
I find that I am so physically and sexually attracted to a guy then after two years it feels like they are not like that towards me
It’s not important to me. People can’t help how they look. I’m considered decently cute but I think appearance is the least interesting thing about me. I don’t really like super conventionally attractive people, they seem shallow and like we wouldn’t have much to talk about. My male friends agree on this and think hot girls are boring lol. Plus really hot people are worse in bed IMO
Yes. I’m attracted to my husband. I also experience attraction to other men (we are poly). However, it doesn’t happen super frequently because I need to get to know a person before I want them sexually. If I had to put a label on it, I would say I’m demisexual. A man can be “my type” so I can tell right away if there’s the potential for attraction. But I don’t get the “I want you in my bed right now” feeling until I get to know them as a person. And boy, some men are out there actively becoming less sexually attractive by their personality alone.
Rarely, but yes, it happens. I wouldn’t commit without this as part of my foundation.
I’m 40 and physical attraction is very important, but my tastes are different than most women’s. My current partner is a huge bear of a man (2.10 m and 200 kg) and I went weak at the knees the first time I saw him. Most of the women who know him are scared of him (he looks like a bruiser and kind of acts like one, as in pretty unfriendly and with glaring eyes). He is however the most straightforward person I know, respectful and able to actually listen to what he’s being told (it’s amazing how rare that is).
I tried dating people I wasn’t attracted to but never went anywhere romantically.
It’s very important. For some, physical attraction grows with affection and time. It definitely doesn’t work that way for me.
With that said, there aren’t many people I experience immediate attraction to, but I am dating someone I felt that for.
Edit: every time I’ve tried to overlook lack of attraction, I’ve regretted it. I can talk myself into liking most personality types and that plays out poorly for me, but I have better instincts and more discerning taste than I gave myself credit for when I was younger.
I find men attractive max 3 times a year. But I’m drawn to a certain type (and it truly generally shows in how they physically present) so there’s limitations. It’s pretty important to me, but only because the type I’m drawn to is more value and personality based.
So I think the issue with this question is that my attraction is never based on looks alone. It’s looks, chemistry, interesting and quick wit, things I don’t find out until being on the date. (I’m married now but back when I did date)
Like when I say some actor is cute, it’s his looks sure but usually his character I’m familiar with as well is playing a role, even subconsciously.
I was having this conversation with my male friend. He said that attractive is very important and they have to be 7s & 8s. I told him that woman useful look for success and unfortunately our kids have to deal with the repercussions 😂🫡. But to me it’s pretty important or you better have some crazy confidence.
Yup it’s super important to me. I come across them but doesn’t mean they are mentally attractive always haha.
I just find it sucks when someone is attracted towards you but how to keep it that way . I can find my self so attracted to someone and keep going like that but how do you keep it coming from the other? I just find it’s hard to. Never finding the one person to be true
I meet a lot of men that I want to climb like a tree. So I do. Men at my age (37) are putting the work in. 6 packs, sexy arms, close shave, styled clothing. And I’m here for it. They are doing well in life, business owners, smart, funny, successful, intelligent. What’s not to be attracted to?
Good kissing and good sex are essential to a real to me so if it isn’t there at the start then I’m out.
I’d rather be alone than settle with someone I am not physically attracted to at any age.
Physical intimacy is the most important thing to me in a relationship, so if I don’t find someone attractive it is a non-starter.
However, whether I find someone physically attractive or not is highly influenced by their personality, values and actions.
It’s been a long time since I’ve been insanely physically attracted to a man, the last was my ex husband and we split 3 years ago.
I dated after him and I wasn’t as physically attracted to him and it ended up not working for that and other reasons.
I wouldn’t settle again without the attraction. But no, I don’t find it happening super easily. I need to find the whole person (personality, compassion, looks, etc) and it’s super rare for me these days…
It’s just as important now as it is/was at any other point in my life so far. I’ve tried to give men I wasn’t super attracted to a chance in the hopes that the attraction would grow, but honestly it rarely ever did. There needs to be some kind of chemistry up front.
To answer the other part of the question, yes it absolutely still happens! It’s much fewer and far between these days, but there are definitely still find men I find incredibly attractive.
It’s very important to me 36F and it has happened a few times. The 33M I’m seeing right now, when I first saw him, I already felt that instant attraction. I don’t think this will change. Most people date others who are in their attractiveness range. Of course the deal breaker would be the lack of connection in terms of personality etc but just looks only, it is the first few qualifier when it comes to meeting someone for romantic purpose. I’m fit and athletic and I’m drawn to men who are as well and sense of humour too. That makes men a lot more attractive in my eyes, when they’re as playful as I am.
It’s very important to me but these guys always leave a trail of confusion after expressing interest in me. Maybe it’s an ego thing.
As I approach 30, I’ve found that the type of men and qualities/attributes I am attracted to has changed. I definitely still see attraction, just in a more unconventional way I guess.
Physical attraction is a must for me in a romantic relationship. It’s only fair to the both of us. Otherwise, we can just be great friends, I have no physical requirements for friendship. But if we’re in a relationship I want to be able to get lost in your eyes, and have that primal draw (along with all of the other important compatibility factors that aren’t physical ofc). All of the men I’ve dated and my husband now ofc I’ve loved their faces, the shape of their eyes, eyebrows, nose, lips, cheekbones. I’ve loved their shoulders, backs, chests…etc. Yeah I don’t settle lol.
I do think on average, women that I see are better looking than the men (I’m straight unfortunately). But living in a city and working downtown, I still run into attractive men almost every day. The other day I was in the elevator with one and he was so good looking I could barely speak haha.
Bruh I’m seeing attractive men of all flavors and it’s causing me to spiral because I am in a long term relationship (5yrs) I just want to run away into the woods and never return 😭 I’m horrible.
Never had this type of feelings of attraction for other men before, so it is no bueno to say the least.
I’m demisexual, so I can experience physical attraction, as in, I think they look nice, but I certainly do not want to kiss them, much less do more, without getting to know them, much, much better. And sometimes, as I get to know them, something about them that’s not physical turns me off, and I lose all romantic attraction to them. I do not find the type of men a lot of women seem to find attractive, at all attractive. I like shorter guys who are typically very smart and kind of nerdy. I’m like people who are fairly outdoorsy and active, but not like to an extreme, just something they enjoy to stay healthy, and I’m not into muscular guys who make it a point to really bulk up. I typically don’t care for facial hair either, though it can work on some men. The main thing is personality though and connection and being able to understand each other. If that’s missing, it doesn’t matter what the guy looks like. On the flip side, once in a while I’ll meet someone who I really “get” and it feels like the really “get” me, and suddenly, they start looking a lot more physically attractive even though nothing about their appearance has changed.
What’s wild to me though is how I learned some people see “hot” strangers and will go have sex with them! I was way too old when I learned this. I thought TV shows just did this as as storyline and for entertainment. On “Friends” when Ross said it was 6 months since he had sex, I didn’t think some people legit think that’s a long time. So I guess I’m never 100% physically attracted to someone in that way.
Yup, unfortunately.