Tradwife content is rising, but is it a real choice if it hides the risks? Why aren’t older tradwives pushing it too? Curious what others think.
How is everyone feeling about the rise in tradwife content?
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Tradwife content is rising, but is it a real choice if it hides the risks? Why aren’t older tradwives pushing it too? Curious what others think.
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They’re just selling a lie. They’re already not tradwives because they’re making content as a full time job, but there’s absolutely no way they’re doing it off camera.
I think it, like many other things, is over represented on social media and isn’t a reflection of actual society.
I’ve never met any woman or girl who wanted to be a Tradwife. The women promoting this lifestyle on social media are trying to or are being social media personalities as a job.
I don’t like it. They’re selling a lie, and a lot of them are super right wing. They’re advertising a lifestyle where the women give up their jobs and rely fully on their husbands or boyfriends, which is a very dangerous thing to promote.
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It’s a tale as old as time from all sorts of influential media over the generations. It’s another harmful fad with divisive rhetoric that influencers will sell to some of us for a while until they move onto the next thing to earn some money.
Either it speaks to women’s values or it gets women up in arms, it’s a win-win for them as either way it gets reactions and views and works the algorithm and I am sick of it! Social media is poisoning our young girls the same way magazines and TV and radio did before that. It’s all about controlling us and exploiting us.
Because the older ones knew they weren’t living up to their full potential, they had no other choice and their lives were wasted within the 4 corners of a home as an unpaid slave/servant to their families who wouldn’t look back once they left the nest. So no older ones in all honesty would advocate to waste their lives like that. Again purely my views from personal experience.
Not liking it either.
Pushing for young women to forgo their education and rely solely on a man’s income… that’s just plain dangerous and makes for a shitty situation if the man turns out to be abusive, or leaves, or what-have-you, and the girl ends up with no job, no skills (apart from the very real skills of a real stay-at-home wife/mother, which sadly aren’t paid for and are not applicable to « real life »), no nothing.
Every older woman I’ve seen on the internet who used to be a tradwife says that it’s dangerous and that they found themselves with nothing after their provider left (or they left their abusive provider). Most of them came from very religious, closeted backgrounds where it’s instilled in girls from a very young age that all they should aspire to is the traditional wife status.
I’m not beating on stay-at-home wives and mothers – my own mother is a stay-at-home mom ; she and my dad made that choice after the baby-sitter they had hired for me turned out to have been a violent crazy person who whaled on me regularly. My mom accomplishes SO MUCH. She took care of the house – cleaning, cooking, child-rearing, but also finances and everything administrative about having a home, while my dad worked his ass off to provide for a family of four. There is inherent pride to being a stay-at-home wife and/or mother. But my parents took their precautions – for example, the house is in my mother’s name. So that should their marriage fail, or should my dad’s business fail, she or they would still have a roof over their head.
Anyway, back on topic – the tradwife life presented by these influencers is a dangerous lie. They’re young and have their own business creating content. Their husbands or boyfriends clearly rake in the money as well judging by their lifestyles. They’re selling a rich world, not a real one. In this economy and society, two people living off one salary doesn’t look like that 90% of the time. So no, being a stay-at-home wife or mother isn’t iced coffee and pilates and homemade bread. It’s a grind.
Growing up I didn’t know any women who worked. My parents are conservative and all my mom’s friends are also conservative. I was raised with the expectation that I would be a SAHM and live with traditional gender roles. So I feel pretty knowledgeable about what it is like being a trad wife.
The grad wife content is selling a complete and absolute lie.
Risk of abusive and financial abuse aside (which is a risk for anyone relying on another persons income)
Tradwife content is selling a world where magically you can cook from scratch without dealing with toddlers somehow playing quietly on their own, and babies napping peacefully. Where moms of small kids actually have time to do their makeup and hair, clean their house, organize activities while also breastfeeding.
Unless your husband is making enough for you to hire a nanny, and a housekeeper, then youre not going to live the instagram life being promoted.