I read a lot of comments in posts saying how they wouldn’t want to go back to their 20s again and that life has been better in their 40s.
I don’t know, maybe it’s the brain changes and life experience. Maybe less anxiety, panic, and overthinking.
But I definitely just want to skip my 20s and be 40 right away.
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I read a lot of comments in posts saying how they wouldn’t want to go back to their 20s again and that life has been better in their 40s.
I don’t know, maybe it’s the brain changes and life experience. Maybe less anxiety, panic, and overthinking.
But I definitely just want to skip my 20s and be 40 right away.
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Money is nice
Being old enough to still be attractive (def more than in my 20s) while no longer giving much of a damn about other people opinions or trying to be cool… Just more comfy in my skin
Some how more okay with my problems and simultaneously more motivated to fix them.
Being fit helps… Most 40yo men look like dog crap so the bar is low
more responsibilities, more self-confidence, more purpose, more know-how, more money.
also i get laid more (ymmv)
Dating is more frustrating (though sex/hookups are easier), but I also feel like things roll off my back more easily and I don’t lose sleep over shit like getting ghosted after a first date.
I spent my 30s married, so not sure what those middle years are like.
Life is way better in my 40’s!
In my 20’s, I was still going to college, trying to prove myself at work, moved out, got married, and went through all the struggles of all these transitions simultaneously. Although my wife and I were younger, we have taken the time to adjust to living together, worked on communication, and recently, Ive taken less time away from screens to make her feel like she is more important than them.
We have a healthy, happy, thriving marriage with a beautiful little girl! It wasn’t that way in my 20’s.
In my own case it has been vastly better.
My twenties were dominated by PTSD, anxiety issues, and isolation. They were not enjoyable.
Twice as good.
As it should be after 20 years of practice.
Well I’m not even 3 months into my 40s but so far my 40s look like they will be way better then my 20s. But every decade of my life has been better than the prior one. Had a shit childhood growing up and have been fighting to make a better life for myself ever since. 40s seem like the decade it’s all gonna pay off.
Without question, the 40s are better than the 20s. It’s nice being married, having a family, having financial security, etc. I wish I could run as fast as I could in my 20s, but everything else is much better.
Married for almost all of my 20s, divorced and dating for most of my 40s….so much more sex in my 40s!!!!
Socializing is harder because so many people have kids. People rightfully realign their lives around them, but it means that the people you might hang out with a few times a week become once a month friends, and it’s hard maintaining meaningful relationships like that.
I’m not quite 40 yet but knocking at the door. And one thing I can say for certain is all the unwanted advice you get in your 20’s from the people in their 40’s suddenly makes a lot more sense, as it’s seen through their eyes.
I see someone in their early 20’s clearly making mistakes, and obviously so to me because I was there and did the same, you offer them advice free of charge on the lessons you learned going through the same situations and their like “thanks boomer, I know what I’m doing” pretty much the same responses I would give at that age.
All you can really do is roll your eyes and be like “god, I was that stupid once.”
> I read a lot of comments in posts saying how they wouldn’t want to go back to their 20s again and that life has been better in their 40s.
This does not surprise me, because the average Reddit user is quite wealthy and living somewhere in the western world. Life is better for them because they’re richer, financially stable, and probably have attractive Asian/Latina wives, who they have regular, high-quality sex with.
But in general, there are few things more valuable than youth, no matter how many material comforts you drown yourself in.
Definitely less anxiety, panic, etc. but there is still some of that. I’ve been as depressed in my forties as I ever was in my twenties. Mostly bc it’s a lonely existence, especially if you’re single. Feels like no one wants to touch you after 40- physically or mentally.
I would recommend getting married before 40. Just find a life partner. Someone you can trust. It doesn’t even have to be an intimate relationship. Seal the deal and get on with the rest of your life.
Just turned 49 and I can honestly say that each year of my 40s has been better than any year of my 20s. And it’s not like my life was bad in my 20s. I had a lot of really good times. But being older and wiser, having a better paying career, knowing myself and acting accordingly, andhaving cultivated the best relationships of my life, there’s just no comparison
I have had a kind of second rebirth in my 40s. Lost a ton of weight, got fit, got serious about saving and career in new ways…. Just kicking myself I didn’t do it sooner.
My 20s would be a nice vacation but I wouldn’t want to live there.
Financially 40s is better and having kids around is great. That said I had way fewer worries in my 20s and it was a lot of fun; was also nice for fitness to be less effort than it is now.
More money and I’m actually healthier now.
I’m 49. I would not want to go back to my 20s, because I was still entrenched in my conservative Christian beliefs. Those beliefs make my 20s and my 30s (and my teens and preteens) absolutely awful when compared to my 40s.
Don’t get me wrong, if you had asked me in my 20s and 30s, I would have told you my faith was amazing and the best thing in my life. I couldn’t see how deceived I was until I started to truly heal.
And healing was the key. I had a rough few years deconstructing, leaving my faith, and the rebuilding myself from the ground up (my faith had been my entire identity), but the result has been astounding.
I experience true joy, feel real happiness, peace, contentment. My life is truly beautiful and I feel that every day. My 40s were amazing, and I have a feeling my 50s will be even better.
A big part of this is that I’ve made it a point to heal, grow, and learn from life. There are plenty of people in their 40s and 50s who have not, and I’m not sure they’d say the same about these decades.
But if you learn from life, your 40s are going to be better than your 20s.
my body is definitely ….. more fucked than in my 20s. Like, it takes longer to heal from things than it use to. I’m more scared/mindful to do certain activities now than before. For example, I probably wouldn’t play competitive basketball out of fear that I’d fuck up an ankle and limp for a month or something. It’s not worth it when I still need to be physically functional to do dad/husband stuff on the day-to-day.
I do have more money now… that’s nice.
Basically, better in some ways, worse in others. Overall, just life doing what life does to us.
Totally depends. I am 45 and recently had a VERY big change in employment that has lowered my salary a bit but the upshot is the change will probably lead to a higher income if I play my cards right. My wife is also recovering from cancer and last year was awful (4 months of chemo and surgery afterwards). In general, I think my 40s have been similar to my 30s. There is just a lot of pressure and stress. My wife and I both agree that although we love our lives and our children, things were definitely WAY less stressful and simpler when I was in laws school and she was working back inour mid 20s. Not better but definitely less stressful and simpler.
They are each great. If I could have my knowledge(and income) now in my 20’s that would be the best.
20’s were great for taking risks. Go backpacking a foreign country. Move to Hawaii and teach surfing to vacationers for a year. Join the military for the free college because you have no clue what to do in life. Go home with that woman you met at the bar 37 minutes ago. Etc, etc.
40’s are great for: having more money in the bank account each week than bills to pay, having a stable partner who has the same life goals as you. Laughing at the 20’s, did we really look that young. Stopping all those bad habits you picked up throughout life now that there is a good chance you have more days behind you than in front of you. Eating good food without worrying so much about the menu prices. Etc etc.
I thought life was exciting in my early 20s with my wife. I swear 53 now and it feels like getting a due over of our 20s but with a lot more experience!
20ties were great, 30ties were even better, now in the forties my ADHS finally caught up to me and turned into depression and make my life living hell. Nobody takes a +40 year old neurodivergent person serious. I would change everyday. I am currently in the process of founding my own company because work became unbearable, wish me luck
Mental health is a lot better, body is a lot more worn out.