Hey,guys.
Recently, I’ve been making new friends and met someone who was strikingly similar to me(31M).
It felt as if, in this vast world, I suddenly found a kindred spirit — someone who resonated with the deepest parts of me, a beam of light reaching into the darkest corners of my heart.
But just as suddenly, that light disappeared, and I was thrown back into the familiar confusion and darkness.
Other friends are wonderful, too, but this kind of deeper connection was something I had always been searching for.
I feel like this blow hit harder than any I’ve experienced before.
In the past, I could always stand back up, but this time, I truly feel like I need a little help.
My rational mind tells me to rest, to let the emotions flow, and not to seek out new friendships while carrying this heaviness.
But my defense mechanisms keep trying to avoid the memory, to rationalize the ending.
The first day, I felt completely numb.
On the second day, I tried to guide myself to release my emotions, but every time, my heart pulled back, choosing to suppress and avoid them instead.
Now it’s approaching morning on the second day, and my sleep has been repeatedly interrupted throughout these two nights.
I really want to and not want to forget that light both.
How long does it take for you to move on from such a shadow and truly accept the regret?
Thanks.
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I’m going on 45 years still holding regrets, so I’ll let you know when I get there.
You can hold regret and progress at the same time. Sitting in regret will bring you no closer to peace. Acknowledge the pain but do not let it define your life.