Been in a bit of a weird spot mentally lately and haven’t really wanted intimacy/sex for a while. I’ve been offered by men and women but it just seems like it’s a lot of effort and not a lot of reward (because it seems so meh)
How long did it take for you to get out of the rut? What did you do to make yourself feel better and being more open to intimacy again?
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Been in a bit of a weird spot mentally lately and haven’t really wanted intimacy/sex for a while. I’ve been offered by men and women but it just seems like it’s a lot of effort and not a lot of reward (because it seems so meh)
How long did it take for you to get out of the rut? What did you do to make yourself feel better and being more open to intimacy again?
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Like a day, tops.
Maybe your hormones are out of whack?
Well over a year now. I don’t see it as a rut, I’m actually quite happy this way. If something changes I’ll cross that bridge when I get there, so far it feels quite fulfilling.
Your case might be different tho, seeing as you wanna get back in there but seems like it’s too much work, rather than a deliberate choice to be solo.
I only really think about sex when I am in a relationship.
My sex drive is entirely tied to emotions. I’m basically asexual if I am single, and sex rarely crosses my mind.
So quite a while. Months maybe without sex crossing my mind once during long periods of being single.
I don’t really want sex unless I also want the person so I would never want random sex with someone I didn’t know just for the sake of sex.
35 years. And yes, I’m 35.
A few years ago when I was “HUSTLING” and not taking care of myself, I had almost zero drive. Figured out I was way too stressed from trying so hard and always felt exhausted. I changed a few things, made my mental and physical health a priority and I am now always ready for it. Another thing that helped was to discuss what I really CRAVE in sex and my kinks with my girlfriend. I also made sure to fulfil her desires and it seemed so natural after that.
I run hot and cold, for periods of days or weeks. Truthfully, I vastly prefer it when I run cold, and the fact that my sex drive has shot up now that I am trying to lose weight and be more active is one of the main reasons I didn’t want to lose it in the first place. Ah well.
Like the refractory period after.
I think at most a say but thats rare. Thats only when im really depressed
31 years. I’m currently 31😇. No big deal if you are an Indian Hindu…