How many dates does it take for you to know you want a girl to be your girlfriend and why?
How many dates does it take for you to know you want a girl to be your girlfriend and why?
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How many dates does it take for you to know you want a girl to be your girlfriend and why?
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My wife and I became exclusive after our first date. We were really crazy about each other. But obviously that wasn’t the case in all of my relationships. I think it just depends.
I don’t know if it’s when I know, but I can say that if it goes past about 3 dates it’s probably going to become a relationship.
I never really had that thought “I want her to be my girlfriend.” Either I want to keep seeing her or I don’t. I’m not caught up in those labels. And I’m never dating multiple people at the same time because it’s just too much work to meet someone.
It depends. Sometimes I’ve known on the first date. Sometimes I’ve dated her for a couple months a few days a week before deciding for sure.
Why is hard to describe. It comes down to a bunch of things, like vibe/spark, comfort, trust, how easily we mesh, and sometimes I can feel enough of what I need right away, sometimes it takes longer to build.
One to know who I don’t want to date. Multiple to decide if we are going to date.
By date three I didn’t just want her number I wanted her in my life. Her laugh her kindness the way she showed up for people? That sealed it.
about halfway through the ‘hey, lets reconnect and try to be friends again’ lunch outing, i knew i wanted to marry this woman.
its not rocket science, when you know you know, the details will work themselves out
There’s no clear answer, and it all depends on personalities, context, and, well I guess, age too.
As a general advice, all of that is a gradual process of joyful escalatoin.
Meeting, liking eachother, seeing that confirmed, moving gradually into next stages and keep feeling confirmation.
There are different stages of dating as there are different stages of being someone’s boy-or girlfriend. When it develops at a peaceful, maybe slow but steady pace, you’re probably doing very well. When it develops too fast, this might be (not always is, some people do fall head over heels in love and stay together) a red flag. When it stalls (again, not always, some people need time) you have a red flag too.
Depends how many dates until she does anal.
One or two, usually.
If she lets me hit on the first or second date.
One.
I don’t do blind dates. I would have known them for quite a while, before we even get to the first date. I already know about her personality, etc. – and have approved of it – before I suggest a date.
The first date itself is only to confirm whether we are sexually satisfied with one another.
Depends on multiple things, I’ve dated someone for a year but we weren’t looking for more, then a switch flicked and we weren’t together for years. I’ve thought I’ve wanted someone to be my gf within 3 dates, then uncovered things 3 dates later that told me I need to relax and get to know people. All of my serious relationships, I’ve been around them in some capacity for at least a year before deciding I want to be with them…
I usually know right away but there needs to be more time together for both parties to know for sure, and to not risk crossing a social boundary too quickly
There’s no set number, just a feeling / vibe.
Sometimes in like ahh yeah I can see this.
Sometimes we are almost there but I’m waiting if I can see a little bit more. I like you, but I won’t commit until I see this one more thing.
And sometimes you can be very pleasant, but I just don’t feel a romantic spark. And I was trying to see if it would kick in but it hasn’t.
That’s a tricky question for a whole number of reasons, both of timescale and also of a man’s mindset in the early dating stages.
I’ll say this though, you should have gathered a pretty good idea of whether the girl you are seeing is GF worthy in 2-3 months.
HOWEVER as the man I don’t think you should go into dating with the express strategy of making this girl your GF. Your job is to lead the interactions; date, have fun, have sex. It’s HER job to evaluate YOU for the position of BF on her timescale. Securing the relationship is HER JOB, not yours. If you try to do this as a guy it just comes over as needy a lot of the time. And basic biology such as Briffault’s Law states the woman (absent violence or coercion) sets the terms of the relationship, not the man.
The man should chill. He’s getting her company and regular sex. If she’s not flying right, he can leave. If she’s not pushing for a relationship after a max 3 months he can decide whether she’s FWB material only or cut bait. But in this way he retains his power.
Remember the old adage. “Women are the gatekeepers of sex but men are the gatekeepers of relationships”. It’s very true but only if the guy plays the game as above. If he pushes for the relationship SHE becomes the gatekeeper of EVERYTHING and that’s not good. Women hate to be in charge of everything. She wants to date a high value guy who SHE has to lock down. That’s how she knows she’s won in the game of Hypergamy. So as a guy you just show up, make her laugh and fuck her well. Leave the relationship stuff to HER.
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Please define girlfriend. I typically dont do long term relationships. I move from place to place a lot now that I’m retired. The longest I’ve been in one place since I retired was 4 months.
I dont date multiple women at a time. Never have. Its more work than its worth.
I guess the answer to your question is. If a woman makes it into my bed, then I’m going to “date” her until she stops dating me. Or until dating her is more trouble than its worth. Or until It’s time for me to move on to another place.
it takes more than just dates, and sleep overs, i gotta really know you in and out
Most men know after 1
Depends on the girl. I’ve dated girls for months without wanting to formalize things. With my current partner, I think I knew after the second date.
The moment we decided to date.
How many times does a man want to pay to take a woman out and be treated like he’s in a job interview to commit to being her slave and giving her all his money indefinitely?
Is this a serious question ?
I don’t think there is a specific number of dates. I’ve had things click right away and I’ve had some relationships take a while to develop. Generally, with more extroverted girls, I can figure it out quicker if things are going to work out. However, its not always the case because sometimes I can get introverted girls to open up and it ends up being a great relationship.
I’ve had some girls I’ve known I want to date right away and after one date, confirmed that I did want to keep it going. I’ve also had some girls where the relationship was great but it took a little longer to figure out if we clicked.
I don’t date them unless I feel they have girlfriend potential. More often than not it doesn’t work out and I get friend zoned or I friend zone them.
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Usually the first one.
3-5
No set number of dates to know, but I can usually tell in about 3 if I don’t.
Well, however many dates until we sleep together. I can’t make that long term girlfriend decision without a full set of data.
One of those data points is how compatible are we in general.
Another is how compatible are we emotionally.
And you guessed it, how compatible are we sexually.
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So however many dates that is. 🤣🤘
One maybe two
One.
It’s very simple; at the end of date #1 I (48M) ask myself a very important question, “Do I want to see this person again?”. If the answer is yes, then I am their boyfriend until this relationship runs its course and they are my girlfriend. I don’t share my woman, and she doesn’t share me.
So simple really. So strikingly difficult for so many people today. Many of you would be happier in your relationships if you followed this very simple advice.
One
I don’t care. No point having any sort of expectations from them. They are unnecessary shit.
Around the 2nd or 3rd date, but I do have the respect of avoiding a step with someone else until I know if one of us wants it to end or if it’s actually going somewhere
I don’t think there is a universal answer.
When my wife and I met, we had both just been dumped by our respective exes and neither felt rest to jump into a new relationship right away. Se we dated for a long time without being officially a couple.
It had nothing to do with her and everything to do with the circumstances of where we were in life at that time.