I just have two. One of which I would never, ever get back together with. The other I would consider it since it was situations in life that caused the break up.
2 are a hard no. 1 I’ve never thought about because he lives on the other side of the world (he is coincidentally the only one I still maintain regular contact with).
The most recent one I think about off and on – I loved him more than I’ve ever loved anyone else, but I know I am genuinely better off without him. Everything about my life has been better since we split, but the connection was so damn intense.
I had plenty of flings but 2 are what I’d consider to be “real” exes. I would not get back together with either.
The first one never loved me, just the idea of me. He is also a liar and a cheater among other things. The second is a cheater and threatened to have me arrested. He’s since comeback to try to talk to me and start over but after threatening to ruin my life to hide his infidelity I just have no interest in even the slightest bit of communication with him.
Luckily I’ve matured past this bullshit and have found a man that adores me in every capacity and I’m loving him right back.
I’ve only had 2 or 3 but the most recent one I sure do wish I could get back together with. I think she’s happier this way, though, so that’s selfish of me.
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2 hard no.
1 I would have but he is married now with 2 kids and I am happy for him and his wife. He was sweet and kind and just what I needed in a hard time.
But now, I am dating just the sweetest man who has gone above and beyond I dont know how I deserve him!
I have two exes that were significant. No, I would not get back with either of them. I broke up with the first one because he didn’t confide in me when he was going through something significant and I understood he didn’t see me as serious.
My ex husband is a dissmissive avoidant who treated me badly and I’m very happy I’m out of the marriage.
I have three significant exes but they were all from long ago because I took a decade-long break from dating. So I never think about getting back together because we’re all completely different people by now. Also the two I’m still on good terms with live in distant places, and one is married. The third ex was not a good person back then to the extent I doubt he’s a good person now, either. We’re not in touch.
If my current bf and I break up, I could see wanting to get back together with him. He’s an excellent person and the issues we have that I can imagine splitting us up would not necessarily be impossible to address. But overall I think once a relationship is over it’s over for good. Barring serious effort and change from both partners it’s just a recipe for disaster.
A handful of significant ones and a lot more that don’t matter. No to all. They are exes for a reason. I don’t see the reasons why we broke up being resolved.
3 maybe 4? One randomly spoke to a month ago, hope he is doing terrible hate him. The other is the dad of my kids and I would NEVER go back to him. The other is a guy I dated after I left my kids dad and no he wound up being an incel. The 4th was someone I really wanted but him leaving was a blessing in disguise so no wouldn’t want him either.
No. I am an avoidant and my feelings for someone have pretty hard boundaries when rejection is involved. I’ve worked on my attachment style overall, but I don’t feel like that part needs to be worked on.
Total 4. 2 significant, and 2 idk what they were, just went on dates and that’s it. But the 1st one is the most significant one. It took me 7 years to get over him. And no, I would never go back because now I know that I deserve to be treated well and that I deserve to be with a man and not with an immature, jealous brat. He still tries to talk to me, I said no. Not today:)
2 are hard passes, and 1 is questionable. We’d have to work on it for sure. 1 I still consider the ‘one that got away’. I’m good without him obviously but I still wonder!
I’d say about 5 that lasted longer than a couple weeks. It was on/off for all of them, but they were significant in some way or another. Actual real, emotional relationships. I used to a lot, but not anymore. I’m happily engaged and think about my exes, but not to get back with them. Mostly just looking back.
0 exes I have been in the same relationship for 7 ish years.
And depends on the reason, but I would consider going back to her. Since I think our breakup reason would be something about us wanting different things right now
2 will never be considered again. The other 2 I am open to. The first one, I ended it because we were long distance and I was emotionally unavailable. He was a great guy and I screwed it up by ending things via text message. We’ve talked since and he’s forgiven me but he’s currently engaged to someone else. He’s not allowed to speak to me which I understand.
The second one, we just ended things 2 and a half weeks ago. When we first met I was very clear about not wanting children and he was on the same page because he believed he was too old. We were together for about a year and 9 months and he realized he might possibly want kids. We amicably parted ways but held each other crying for a few hours after our decision. I told him that should his decision change that my door would be open for that again. He faintly shook his head so I’m not sure that will happen but I’m still in the phase of stupidly hopeful.
No, I wouldn’t get back with any of them. I’ve never got back with anyone once we’ve split. It’s pointless and delays the inevitable. We broke up for a reason.
I have 2 exes.
One taught me what I don’t want.
The other taught me that healing is better than recycling.
I’ve thought about going back — but only on the really lonely days.
Then I remember: if it ended, there was a reason. And that reason is probably still there.
1 ex bf. And I did think about if for a while but eventually realized he was not the one for me and there was a reason I broke up with him in the first place
2 from high school about 10 years ago. Nope never. Why? Because I really only dated them because they asked me out and being the shy girl, I was flattered and thought I had to say ‘yes’. So it was stupid on my part, but it’s called “young and dumb” for a reason, right? Just not a lasting match. Especially since they both wanted kids and I do not.
Still hoping my child-free, wanna-live-on-a-homestead single man is still out there, somewhere.
I’d say five. One in high school, one in college and three as an adult. High school and college would be an immediate no. But I’d be willing to spin the block with the other three.
1 hard no. we were waaaayy too different even while dating and he ghosted me on my birthday the same time my old best friend ghosted me as well (coincidental, they didn’t know each other). but while we were different, we did get along well he just was too in the streets for me gave me way more anxiety than i already have.
One proper one.
Absolutely not.
I went back, I was 17 bless me. Just lost my Grandad and had a moment of weakness and called him. He came, he comforted, he took advantage of a sad girl.
He went on to do drugs and beat the shit out of me until I was strong enough to leave.
He still pops up in my DMS from time to time asking me to leave my partner and he will help raise my kids.
Raise this, man 🖕🏻.
Two, because I married young and stupid. One ex-husband and one post-divorce ex-boyfriend. I dated a lot between marriages, but most never got to “we are in a relationship.”
I would never consider getting back together with either of them, even if they went to therapy, worked on themselves, and said all of the right things. They both had very toxic, abusive traits (though in different ways) and I would be too worried those traits would recur.
I would put more hope in the ex-boyfriend’s recovery than the ex-husband’s.
I do have an ex-“it’s complicated” who would probably be the first person I would look up if I were ever single again.
1 ex husband, 2 other long term ex- boyfriends. I’m married to someone else now, so no about getting back together with any of them. Even if I were single, hard NO on the ex husband, and both boyfriends.
13 lol… maybe more?? Ive been dating for so long. Of course Ive thought about it! Even have sometimes! Hell, Im with a guy I broke up with right now! Eventually, though, so much time has passed that they dont even know me anymore.
3 serious ones. I only count the ones of 1+ years.
No.
Though the guy I’m seeing now is technically my ex, we didn’t make it past the 1-year mark on the last try. I’m crossing my fingers we’ll make it this time.
4 serious ones, the second one I oddly think of often as we still have mutual friends and now that I’ve grown up a bit i wish we had met at a different time.
I have 2 exes.
I would NEVERR get back together with them. I don’t even understand what I saw in them. When I think about them It’s like it wasn’t me in that relationship, it was another version of me. (English is not my first language, sorry if its broken)
The first ex, I didin’t even liked him. I was not attracted to him, would make excuses All the time for not being intimate with him. He was a friend first and it was a bad time in my life and thats it. Big mistake.
The second ex, does not meet my standards. I got bored of him. I wanted romance, flowers, chocolates, something. Even though I said I would Love gifts and details HE NEVER gifted me anything. Even in my birthdays he would come with no gift and would say ‘’sorry I didn’t have enough time to but it’’ that is only ONE of the things that were wrong in the relationship.
For example, he would let me get home ALONE (public bus ride) at nights and didn’t even send message to know if I had arrived well.
I dont miss him, he never gave anything to miss 🤷🏻♀️
As Taylor says, we are never ever ever getting back together.
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I just have two. One of which I would never, ever get back together with. The other I would consider it since it was situations in life that caused the break up.
Literally too many to count.
Ball park 30? And absolutely the hell not lol they are ex’s for a damn good reason.
4 significant ones.
2 are a hard no. 1 I’ve never thought about because he lives on the other side of the world (he is coincidentally the only one I still maintain regular contact with).
The most recent one I think about off and on – I loved him more than I’ve ever loved anyone else, but I know I am genuinely better off without him. Everything about my life has been better since we split, but the connection was so damn intense.
I have two really. One of them is dead and the other one is married to someone else, so no I haven’t really thought about getting back together.
I had plenty of flings but 2 are what I’d consider to be “real” exes. I would not get back together with either.
The first one never loved me, just the idea of me. He is also a liar and a cheater among other things. The second is a cheater and threatened to have me arrested. He’s since comeback to try to talk to me and start over but after threatening to ruin my life to hide his infidelity I just have no interest in even the slightest bit of communication with him.
Luckily I’ve matured past this bullshit and have found a man that adores me in every capacity and I’m loving him right back.
Three, One is dead (died while we were together) the other 2 two never.
I’ve only had 2 or 3 but the most recent one I sure do wish I could get back together with. I think she’s happier this way, though, so that’s selfish of me.
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A lot. Hard no to all exes
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2 hard no.
1 I would have but he is married now with 2 kids and I am happy for him and his wife. He was sweet and kind and just what I needed in a hard time.
But now, I am dating just the sweetest man who has gone above and beyond I dont know how I deserve him!
I have two exes that were significant. No, I would not get back with either of them. I broke up with the first one because he didn’t confide in me when he was going through something significant and I understood he didn’t see me as serious.
My ex husband is a dissmissive avoidant who treated me badly and I’m very happy I’m out of the marriage.
I have three significant exes but they were all from long ago because I took a decade-long break from dating. So I never think about getting back together because we’re all completely different people by now. Also the two I’m still on good terms with live in distant places, and one is married. The third ex was not a good person back then to the extent I doubt he’s a good person now, either. We’re not in touch.
If my current bf and I break up, I could see wanting to get back together with him. He’s an excellent person and the issues we have that I can imagine splitting us up would not necessarily be impossible to address. But overall I think once a relationship is over it’s over for good. Barring serious effort and change from both partners it’s just a recipe for disaster.
3 and yea right after when I was heartbroken with the first in hs cause I was childish. But not ever for the other two.
1- Who’s counting? Not me.
2- Not even for one fucking second lmao
A handful of significant ones and a lot more that don’t matter. No to all. They are exes for a reason. I don’t see the reasons why we broke up being resolved.
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3 maybe 4? One randomly spoke to a month ago, hope he is doing terrible hate him. The other is the dad of my kids and I would NEVER go back to him. The other is a guy I dated after I left my kids dad and no he wound up being an incel. The 4th was someone I really wanted but him leaving was a blessing in disguise so no wouldn’t want him either.
Four total but only three serious ones. No I’ve never thought about getting back together with any of them.
Five one’s of any length. Two of them, I’ve thought about. One of them I would if circumstances were right, but they won’t be and that’s ok.
Total 4. 2 significant, and 2 idk what they were, just went on dates and that’s it. But the 1st one is the most significant one. It took me 7 years to get over him. And no, I would never go back because now I know that I deserve to be treated well and that I deserve to be with a man and not with an immature, jealous brat. He still tries to talk to me, I said no. Not today:)
Bunch of flings and fwb, but only two long term relationships. Fuuuhhhhhhkkkk no! Im happy for the memories but glad they both ended when it did.
3 true exes and unfortunately i did spin the block and realized why i broke up with them in the first place.
And no. Im still friends with one of them but i detach very easily.
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1 & he’s legit crazy. like stalker crazy so no 😭
I’d say about 5 that lasted longer than a couple weeks. It was on/off for all of them, but they were significant in some way or another. Actual real, emotional relationships. I used to a lot, but not anymore. I’m happily engaged and think about my exes, but not to get back with them. Mostly just looking back.
0 exes I have been in the same relationship for 7 ish years.
And depends on the reason, but I would consider going back to her. Since I think our breakup reason would be something about us wanting different things right now
4 serious ones.
2 will never be considered again. The other 2 I am open to. The first one, I ended it because we were long distance and I was emotionally unavailable. He was a great guy and I screwed it up by ending things via text message. We’ve talked since and he’s forgiven me but he’s currently engaged to someone else. He’s not allowed to speak to me which I understand.
The second one, we just ended things 2 and a half weeks ago. When we first met I was very clear about not wanting children and he was on the same page because he believed he was too old. We were together for about a year and 9 months and he realized he might possibly want kids. We amicably parted ways but held each other crying for a few hours after our decision. I told him that should his decision change that my door would be open for that again. He faintly shook his head so I’m not sure that will happen but I’m still in the phase of stupidly hopeful.
1, and no. He accused me of cheating on him with his step dad… solely because we sat in the same room together
Too many.
No, I wouldn’t get back with any of them. I’ve never got back with anyone once we’ve split. It’s pointless and delays the inevitable. We broke up for a reason.
I have 2 exes.
One taught me what I don’t want.
The other taught me that healing is better than recycling.
I’ve thought about going back — but only on the really lonely days.
Then I remember: if it ended, there was a reason. And that reason is probably still there.
1 ex bf. And I did think about if for a while but eventually realized he was not the one for me and there was a reason I broke up with him in the first place
2 from high school about 10 years ago. Nope never. Why? Because I really only dated them because they asked me out and being the shy girl, I was flattered and thought I had to say ‘yes’. So it was stupid on my part, but it’s called “young and dumb” for a reason, right? Just not a lasting match. Especially since they both wanted kids and I do not.
Still hoping my child-free, wanna-live-on-a-homestead single man is still out there, somewhere.
I’d say five. One in high school, one in college and three as an adult. High school and college would be an immediate no. But I’d be willing to spin the block with the other three.
1 hard no. we were waaaayy too different even while dating and he ghosted me on my birthday the same time my old best friend ghosted me as well (coincidental, they didn’t know each other). but while we were different, we did get along well he just was too in the streets for me gave me way more anxiety than i already have.
One proper one.
Absolutely not.
I went back, I was 17 bless me. Just lost my Grandad and had a moment of weakness and called him. He came, he comforted, he took advantage of a sad girl.
He went on to do drugs and beat the shit out of me until I was strong enough to leave.
He still pops up in my DMS from time to time asking me to leave my partner and he will help raise my kids.
Raise this, man 🖕🏻.
Two, because I married young and stupid. One ex-husband and one post-divorce ex-boyfriend. I dated a lot between marriages, but most never got to “we are in a relationship.”
I would never consider getting back together with either of them, even if they went to therapy, worked on themselves, and said all of the right things. They both had very toxic, abusive traits (though in different ways) and I would be too worried those traits would recur.
I would put more hope in the ex-boyfriend’s recovery than the ex-husband’s.
I do have an ex-“it’s complicated” who would probably be the first person I would look up if I were ever single again.
2 and absolutely not. I guess the good side of spending too long in relationships that weren’t meant to be.
I have a bunch. I’m still in love with quite a few of them; if they asked me back I’d say yes, but I never would go back on my own
1 ex husband, 2 other long term ex- boyfriends. I’m married to someone else now, so no about getting back together with any of them. Even if I were single, hard NO on the ex husband, and both boyfriends.
2 significant ones.
No, I’m married (celebrating 3 years of marriage this summer) and thank GOD the other ones didn’t work out lol.
2 legit exes. Id never get back with either.
Technically one. Cheated, good riddance. The other two were technically situationships but I personally also consider them exes lol.
Only 1 and no.
13 lol… maybe more?? Ive been dating for so long. Of course Ive thought about it! Even have sometimes! Hell, Im with a guy I broke up with right now! Eventually, though, so much time has passed that they dont even know me anymore.
3 serious ones. I only count the ones of 1+ years.
No.
Though the guy I’m seeing now is technically my ex, we didn’t make it past the 1-year mark on the last try. I’m crossing my fingers we’ll make it this time.
3 official ones
3 dating less official ones/ shorter ‘unofficial’ relationships
I would have lived to reconnect with one of those I dated, but no about all the others
2 major relationship exes and never once considered getting back together with either of them. No regrets.
One, married at 38, divorced at 46. Heck no
4 serious ones, the second one I oddly think of often as we still have mutual friends and now that I’ve grown up a bit i wish we had met at a different time.
Including my husband (as a roommate): just two.
And not really. I don’t like going back to chapters i have already read.
One. And no.
I have 2 exes.
I would NEVERR get back together with them. I don’t even understand what I saw in them. When I think about them It’s like it wasn’t me in that relationship, it was another version of me. (English is not my first language, sorry if its broken)
The first ex, I didin’t even liked him. I was not attracted to him, would make excuses All the time for not being intimate with him. He was a friend first and it was a bad time in my life and thats it. Big mistake.
The second ex, does not meet my standards. I got bored of him. I wanted romance, flowers, chocolates, something. Even though I said I would Love gifts and details HE NEVER gifted me anything. Even in my birthdays he would come with no gift and would say ‘’sorry I didn’t have enough time to but it’’ that is only ONE of the things that were wrong in the relationship.
For example, he would let me get home ALONE (public bus ride) at nights and didn’t even send message to know if I had arrived well.
I dont miss him, he never gave anything to miss 🤷🏻♀️
As Taylor says, we are never ever ever getting back together.
I don’t have any other than my husband. We are high school sweethearts but we broke up for like 5 months once in high school lol
I have one ex. I have considered getting back together in the past.
I have four exes. No, I have never thought about getting back with either of them, we broke up for a reason. Two of them really tried though.