For me it always feels like I have to try and convince girls that they should like me. I’ve never really experienced a girl who just liked me for me being myself.
How many guys out there just naturally get attention from women?
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For me it always feels like I have to try and convince girls that they should like me. I’ve never really experienced a girl who just liked me for me being myself.
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That’s where you goof in my experience. I don’t know why but as soon as I stopped trying to get women to like me, it’s when I naturally got attention from women.
I think it’s something about how we come across both intentionally and subconsciously.
Top 10% men.
This comes naturally from having alot of female friends to talk to. My thing that seems to get alot of positive attention is acting like the ice has already been “broken” and just jump into friendly conversations. Be inquisitive but also a little aloof.
I have plenty of women that are nice to me, none that are interested in me though.
That’s your problem. They can sense you’re trying to prove something instead of being secure about yourself.
I’ve just always been myself and I have a tendency to get absorbed into a friend group of mostly women. A common through line with all of them has been them telling me they feel safe and comfortable with me. I guess I just don’t really give off “I just want to fuck you” energy.
Henry Cavill
should never be convincing anybody of anything. let it just flow naturally. if a woman cant see you for you then why convince her you are? youre basically subtly ‘coercing’ them to stick around and that, my friend, is where youre losing.
Dude I’m basically invisible to women lol
What sort of attention? I get giggles and smiles. A barista my age kept asking me tonnes of questions and chatting, even with a line behind me. She stopped making coffees just to chat haha. That was nice but I felt embarrassed for holding up the show.
Older women though, man they straight up tell you how thirsty they are. :/
One random woman told me she loved my eyes. I hang onto that compliment.
My oldest friend of 20+ years has always been that dude. I could never figure it out. Turned out, he’s just louder and more outspoken than me. Girls did like me. I just didn’t know it because I wasn’t talking to them as much.
i am beeing looked at, which is nice, but that doesnt mean i dont have to convince them, nor that i am liked for beeing myself
It’s easy for me. I’m handsome and I know it and I know how to make people laugh.
There’s different ways to get attention from women. Women are scared of rejection probably more so than men. They won’t target you unless they’re confident they won’t get rejected.
There’s probably only one dude that’s in my friend group that doesn’t need to try. Been like this since a teen and he’s 30 now. He will just sit in a bar and women from age 21 – 40s will just flock to him.
Funny thing is he’s kind of socially awkward in a way, like jokes go way over his head. That doesn’t seem to matter though since he’s been naturally chiseled since middle school. By knowing him all these years I guarantee if he didn’t have the looks, he’d have a hard time.
Definitely not me !!! lol.
If you have to try and convince them, they will not like you.
My hunch is 10% of men can succeed with women by being approached & taking a passive role, If not 10% then it’s even fewer. Everyone else, including really attractive & successful men still have to make the majority of move & do a majority of the work.
I’ve only known one guy who just attracted women & had women happy to be around just by existing. He was a model working for Prada & ilk.
I had two attractive women give me a walk by compliment when I was sitting outside waiting for a ride about 8 months ago, but it’s a rare event & I’d still have to do a lot for it to go anywhere.
Being older and having a good job sure helps. I will get approached, and they figure out how to get me to tell them what I do, and thats it. Instantly in the game. I’m taken and don’t respond, but that has sure helped.
Airport bars seem to be a good place for that. FWIW
I get a lot of attention, but it’s all at my job. And I try not to shit where I eat, tho it’s happened twice now at this one 💀
Not me. Of course.
You can never convince somebody to like you, all you can do is make them laugh and hope that they want more
Quite often, but they’re not appealing for one reason or another.
I do and I find it weird.
I do. And it’s SO annoying!
Humor. Having a positive attitude. Etc
Drives my wife nuts. We will go out somewhere and she will get ignored by the sever, where I’ll be on my second drink order and she hasn’t gotten her first yet. I’m not a 10 but something about me I guess. I think it’s because I’m always smiling and laughing.
Lol yes but exclusively from middle aged to elderly women. For some reason 50 year olds are always telling me I’m attractive and trying to get me to dance with them.
The ones my age are too intimidated I guess (at least that’s what I tell myself).
What do you mean by attention? Like the time of day or wanting to fuck
If you arent rich, good looking or both you are going to get 0 or close to zero results even if you have a good prersonality or humor.
If it continues like tgis for a while, go all out or. Just try to accept you are undesired and you will be better after
I wish
I ended up volunteering with a non-profit that served a big community. After a while, I was voted into a leadership role and was a bit surprised how much attention it resulted in. Also worth noting, the day my volunteer term was over, that attention evaporated.
I’ve had women approach me and have had instances where women gone out of there way to ask for my number or confess their attraction to me. It happens but its not a lot. I’ve even been cold approached on the street once and had a Macdonalds cashier write her number on my receipt when I never even asked for it once.
I will admit at my job there is this older woman who everytime she sees me. She is looking at me with a big smile on her face. Even when I’m not looking, I catch her in the corner of my eye looking at me smiling. It’s a bit awakard but she’s done it so much that I honestly think she may be attracted to me. Add the fact when I was once serving her at my cashier. She asked me if I’m single and when I said yes. She just smiled at my answer. After I talked to her for a bit whilst serving her.. she now starts saying hi to me whenever she sees me. She’s old enough to be my mother so I ain’t interested in anything but I think it’s so obvious to me that she is attracted to me.
I have other situations whilst working in service where women customers have hit on me but it is at a much smaller rate than what I see happen with my female coworkers. I never had a issue with women approaching me. I grew up in a all female household throughout my whole childhood and most of my friends growing up were girls. So I don’t have a issue talking to women.
I always have a little but I took some lessons from my gay friends about how to hang with women and started getting a lot more attention. Not giving a fuck and having fun is pretty much the key after meeting the basic grooming and self-care requirements.
Goes both ways, I have not once been approached by a man. Plenty look, none approach
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