So I’m on dating apps, and it’s going alright..
I’m just wondering how many people should you really be speaking to at the one time before it’s a bit much
How many is too much
r/Advice
So I’m on dating apps, and it’s going alright..
I’m just wondering how many people should you really be speaking to at the one time before it’s a bit much
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As much as you can handle, every person is different.
Personally my Reddit dm’s have been POPPING but I limit to only viewing for about 10 minutes in the morning and 10 at night. So rather than the amount of people I’m focusing on how much time/effort I put into Reddit messages.
So, this is an old fashioned idea but have you tried … one. You know, actually investing time and interest in one person, instead of absently seeking validation from everyone you can get to respond?
How good are you at juggling?
3 is my limit.
If it becomes any more than 3 it becomes really draining and I stop putting effort in with some of them.
Hahaha brooo get waaay more selective… you’ll still have too many, but fuck… that’s the main issue with dating apps for us all I think… okay I have all these pretty women to talk to, but 10-20 actually want to talk to me, I actually want to talk to 8 of them, out of that 8, 5 might want to go on a date, 3 just don’t pan out… then all the others you are only “maybe” about are hitting you up. It’s truly exhausting.
Get super picky (just on the app not saying judgy irl) super specific about what you want. So when you match you know it’s worth your time.
When you forget who you’re texting, too many.
Dating apps are the devil. As a person you should exercise control. But it’s the funny thing about life. You’re new to this experience which is why you’re asking the question I assume. The ones that have been/are living that way don’t talk about or even care. There is no moral dilemma, they just operate that way. It shines light on how our lives truly shape even our moral compass on the shallow basis of perhaps looks or status and how we treat others based how they fall into the compartments we make
Up to you
It depends on you and them. What can you tolerate and are you being honest enough to avoid harming people. I don’t think it’s on you to do anything other than be honest about what you want and what you’re doing. It’s up to other to take care of themselves, but yeah what is too many for you. I think some people would be overwhelmed only talking to two people but if you’re really extroverted maybe you prefer meeting a lot of people.
Depends on how serious it is. The more serious the less other people you should talk too. Although personally 1 to 3 people seems more than enough haha
r/dating_advice
It really depends.
One is enough for any authentic conversation.
I mean if you dont feel drawn to anyone does it even matter?
I’ve been on the apps for a decade and a half. I’ve always talked to 3 dudes at a time max, keep a nice little roster going
You guy’s talk to more than one at a time ?
Once you get 1-3 matches, stop swiping. If you get likes in the meantime, those likes can simply wait.
Focus on knowing and talking to amd dating the person you’re interested in
This won’t make a difference for most men, even though they won’t believe me (note: I’m also a man)
And it would make a huge difference for most women.
Swipe less, date the match
Tbh when you get a detail wrong about them and they say “wrong girl” lol. But tbh I’d get off the apps and start approaching, I’ve gotten more meaningful and long lasting connections out of it.
This is what excel spreadsheets are for.
Probably when you’re confused about who’s who.
Also, I’d really appreciate if you could answer two questions.
How physically attractive would you consider yourself? I noticed on your profile that you’re a gym goer, so my guess is pretty attractive.
How large is the area you live in?
It depends how much time you have and they have. If the one you really like only has limited time I’d still go date other people for entertainment and to learn about myself. Dating doesn’t have to be about sleeping with 10 people a week.
I can’t talk to more than one person at a time , i can’t juggle multiple men. I have life outside of dating , work , home . No way
17 and a half. Don’t ask me how you talk to half a person that’s just how the math works.
Getting randomly banned from those apps is probably the best thing that’s ever happened to me
I met my wife on a dating app, so am positive about them.
Watch how deep you get involved, it gets much more difficult to disengage.
3 or 4 max I would say.
Remember you are dealing with peoples emotions.
3-4, it kinda depends how much y’all communicate 3 with good communication is kinda a lot
More than one is too much. Are you trying to date or just chatting ?
wait, you guys have multiple matches?
Dating apps is not where it’s at. Trust me, it’s alright to meet with people but unless you plan on being promiscuous and plan on putting your own emotions on the line, I wouldn’t even be on dating apps.
They might not break your heart, but you will break your own heart. You will take about a year or two recover from that, I know I did.
I had a great couple of years on bumble, usually 3-4, sometimes more. I took a long break when I realised I was having trouble committing, and when I do come back I’m actually aiming to have a limit of one. It sounds crazy, but the phenomenon of knowing you can go get another is really damaging. If the limit is one, and you’re not feeling it, you cut and move on.
O.O if I speak with one and they dont ghost me it’s a fucking miracle.
Mess around and find yourself in a mess