I prefer to call my husband My Person rather than The One… the latter just carries too much cultural baggage and sounds a bit woo to me… but anyway, two. Ex-husband and ex-girlfriend. Any other brief connections I had were definitely not actual relationships, just some mutual feelings and hanging out a bit.
I’m going to assume by relationship you mean something more thing flings, young love, & boyfriends of the week. I would say 4 before I met my first “the one” but things didn’t work out with her, then I met my husband about a year later.
I am only counting relationships that had a profound emotional connection. I had a few other guys I went on several dates with but it never really went anywhere. And I was lukewarm on them.
Highschool relationship that lasted two month. Possibly doesn’t count as it was a very immature relationship.
highschool sweetheart that lasted through college and a year beyond
Situationship that I kept running into for like 7 years whenever I was single.
Guy I met at 24 who I dated for 5 years and ended up being super abusive
3 month whirlwind relationship that came out of nowhere and then dumped me on my ass
So, 5 before my husband. And my husband is definitely the one.
Assuming the current one is the one one: 4 serious 1+ year relationships (1.5, 1.5, 2.5, and 6), a handful of shortish flings, and a lot of booty call / ONS
My husband is not “the one”, he is my person though..
BUT serious relationship? I only count 5. Not that I only dated 5. I had like multiple men who referred to them as my boyfriend. But it wasn’t too serious so I don’t count them 🤣
I like the theory that there isn’t a “one” for any of us, but the person we round up to one.I don’t think that’s a static value through our lives and even in a relationship. The best case scenario is you start with a good value, maybe a 0.7 or so, and grow together where both your value for one another infinitely approach that one. None of us are perfect and especially not on everything that comes down the pipe, but hopefully those common points helps you weather through the rough patches.
I (30F) am on my 5th one and I am hoping that I’ve finally found my person. It feels different this time and I am confident that he would be a really good partner but I’ve been burned so many times that it’s hard to believe that I am right this time.
I don’t love the term or phrase, whatever, “the one.” However, I had 3 boyfriends before I started dating my husband at age 31. I dated a bit as well, but three actual relationships.
Five. I met my man when I was 20 and we have been best friends ever since. He is an amazing boyfriend and father. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. This is the first relationship that I’ve ever truly felt heard, respected, and loved.
I’m in my 40s and have had been in at least 15 serious relationships since high school. I was married for 13 years from age 23-36. After I divorced, I dated a few guys who fucked me over, so I purposeful stayed single for 2-3 years. Went back to the dating scene just for shits and giggles, and stumbled upon my person. He was just different. I think that time alone working on myself helped.
One. It was just a short 3 months teenage relationship at school though. Had a few hook ups before and after that that never became something with feelings attached or a relationship.
Met my husband at 21 right after starting university, and been together ever since.
Second, not counting flings where the objective was for each of us to get off and go our separate ways. Even still, wouldn’t say he’s ‘the one’, just someone I found that matches my level of crazy and we both agree that people are strange, lets spend the rest of our time together because its better then being…out there. That’s hard enough to find. Plus he’s a good cook.
1 serious relationship only. The rest of them ended too early with no signs of commitment.. Stayed single for a long time too.. Loved that part of my life I had so much time to myself.
I don’t believe in the one. Seems like a silly notion because in my opinion people are fluid and there’s so many factors. So none for me there is no one for me I guess.
I went through a ton of pitiful “relationships” when I was younger. Some of them didn’t last more than a week, but when I grew up a bit I got into more long term relationships. I went through one 7 month relationship, super toxic. Took a break. Went through another relationship, he cheated on me, lasted roughly 4 months. Took a break. Decided to work on myself, went to the gym ONE TIME and met my husband.
2 official. unofficial / situationships too many too count. met him during my “not really in the mood to date” season. realized i had been searching for him the entire time.
Technically none. I met him online when I was 16. I saw one picture of him and fell hard. I even told my mom when I was 16 I was going to marry him one day. Fast forward a couple years and we broke up. I ended up in a really bad relationship with someone else, finally got out of it, and reconnected with my online boyfriend. We finally met in person when I was 20, moved in together 3 months after meeting, got married 3 months after that. We have been married 17.5 years.
Three. My first went for 5 years before we broke up cuz she cheated on me. My second was for a month or two long distance before she broke it off because I really dunno why. She told me she was caught stealing at work and possibly going to jail amd didmt wamt me to have to deal woth it but idk if that was true or not. The third I was with for around a month or so before she dumped me because she didn’t like my mental health issues.
Currently I’ve been married for a little over a month, before then we were together 5 years. So happy with my wife ^.^
My husband was my first real relationship. The next closest was a weird long distance COVID relationship for a couple months. Beyond that, mostly first dates. It was such a relief to meet my husband. I knew on the first date.
Once upon a time I would have answered “two” but a few years later and I’m now saying “three”
Hopefully we remain together forever, but who knows whether a few years down the track I’ll be saying “four” – it’s not like I didn’t feel sure last time!
Plus different people define relationships differently. I personally only count three previous relationships due to then being long term ones where either one of us would have felt comfortable making plans for “next year”
I had one boyfriend before I met my husband. We dated from 15-17 y/o. I met my now husband ~3 months after my first boyfriend and I broke up. I was still 17. Husband and I have been together ever since. We’re 33 and 34 now.
One. She was (is) my best friend and I often found myself thinking she would never treat me the way I was being treated by my ex partner but it took a while, and a break up, to realise what that meant.
I’ve been in three serious relationships and have enjoyed numerous flings… still haven’t found “the one”.
The last one I had thought was it (26F and 40M) and still love him deeply but he dashed after a year due to what appeared to be dismissive avoidant tendencies.
Excited to continue to love but taking the back seat for a little bit and will focus on personal growth.
3 serious relationships, not counting boyfriends or dating.
7 years, 5 years, 20 years. You can’t say I didn’t give it the ole college try.
Husband and I have been together almost nine years, and he’s the last. It took me this long to find him, and he’s so wonderful; I won’t find another like him. We are each other’s just-right-level of pixiedust.
Before I met him, I was happy on my own and casually dating a couple of men I got along with really well. But our lifestyles weren’t compatable, and neither was going to turn into a permanent thing as far as I was concerned. With the spouse, it was obvious we were going to be together, all boots on the ground, from the start.
Dating after the advent of dating apps was hard. Trying to find someone who wanted what I want, had similar values, and actually wanted a relationship was surprisingly difficult.
Now of those that were serious (1+ years of dating), 4.
I met my husband in May 2020, engaged in January 2021, married October 2021.
I’m not going to include short highschool flings, cos, well they were never meant to be serious. So, 4. And interestingly, (at least to me lol) we’d previously had a situationship, nothing serious and ended said situationship due to distance and getting into a relationship was only cos I visited his country and him, we met up with vacation fling intentions, but after meeting we realised how serious our feelings were for each other. So we decided to give it a good proper try and here we are 7 years later.
My husband is my first and only. I’d tried the dating scene for a while before him but it never got past the first or second date.
Turns out my guy was right in front of me the whole time (I met him through work.) We were platonic friends for a while before we considered dating – but once we got past the blockers that kept us from dating, we whirlwinded.
“The one” to me has always been the one in front of you. Whether it’s your mom, sibling, or partner. The one you’re present with at the moment. To answer your question though, 5.
First boyfriend at 15 just for the summer, then the next 3 at 16, 17, and 18 but they only lasted a few months. In college I had one boyfriend for all of a month who wasn’t a bad guy but we just weren’t super great for long-term.
I met my now husband towards the end of my freshman fall semester. Been together for almost 7 years now and married for 2!
I had my high school boyfriend, college boyfriend, a lot of college flings, then my husband.
My mom always told me she dated to marry and didn’t date anyone she knew right away she wouldn’t marry. I was the opposite, I’d give any guy a chance at a long term relationship because it can still be a good relationship even if it doesn’t lead to marriage. I just always figured the relationship that led me to marriage would feel effortless and it really did. I got lucky that my husband showed his true authentic self right from the beginning and that he loved me for my authentic self.
Like serious relationships? Two before I met my husband. I had several flings in between/before though. Definitely learned what I needed to from those past relationships. They helped me learn what I do and don’t want in a partner. And oddly enough I learned how to stand up for myself from one of my asshole exes lol. He was an asshole, but also didn’t put up with anyone’s shit and I sort of adopted that. He hated when I turned it around on him and started pushing back lol.
I’ve been in enough bad relationships to stop believing in “the one.” I’ve realized that for me, I am “the one.” Anything else is just gravy. I’m with the last person I’ll ever be in a relationship with right now, not because we’re married or have a family together, but because I’ve decided that however and whenever this ends, I’m never doing it again.
I was 31. By then I’d been married once and had had many boyfriends. I tried eHarmony and a month later, we met at Chili’s to have a drink. It’s been over twenty years of marriage. He’s my best friend. I’m very lucky. He was divorced too and we chose to grow together, support each other. My first husband didn’t want to see me grow or achieve success. The right partner makes all the difference.
I don’t really believe in the concept of “the one” but my partner now who I choose everyday is my most meaningful relationship so far and I’ve only had four other official partners.
Three official relationships between the ages of 25 to 30, with big gaps in between each of them. Prior to that I whored around in my early twenties and probably had a dozen varieties of situationships. Met my husband at 30, after a year hiatus from dating to figure out what type of life partner I truly wanted. I knew what I wanted and so did my husband, so when we found each other there wasn’t much hesitation.
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Four. And now I’m single – It turns out I am the one for me. 🤍
Depends on how far back you’re talking. If we’re counting middle school then like 6 or 7.
Zero, IIRC. He was definitely my first consensual kiss.
Have no idea
I prefer to call my husband My Person rather than The One… the latter just carries too much cultural baggage and sounds a bit woo to me… but anyway, two. Ex-husband and ex-girlfriend. Any other brief connections I had were definitely not actual relationships, just some mutual feelings and hanging out a bit.
I had two serious relationships before my guy.
And a few lil college flings.
Zero! My husband was my first. I honestly wasn’t really thinking much about dating/marriage before I met him.
I’m going to assume by relationship you mean something more thing flings, young love, & boyfriends of the week. I would say 4 before I met my first “the one” but things didn’t work out with her, then I met my husband about a year later.
Had a few relationship but nothing that ever felt right all the way through. Still waiting on that feeling.
I am only counting relationships that had a profound emotional connection. I had a few other guys I went on several dates with but it never really went anywhere. And I was lukewarm on them.
Highschool relationship that lasted two month. Possibly doesn’t count as it was a very immature relationship.
highschool sweetheart that lasted through college and a year beyond
Situationship that I kept running into for like 7 years whenever I was single.
Guy I met at 24 who I dated for 5 years and ended up being super abusive
3 month whirlwind relationship that came out of nowhere and then dumped me on my ass
So, 5 before my husband. And my husband is definitely the one.
I really hope the guy I’m with is the one. He is my second relationship.
Assuming the current one is the one one: 4 serious 1+ year relationships (1.5, 1.5, 2.5, and 6), a handful of shortish flings, and a lot of booty call / ONS
My husband is not “the one”, he is my person though..
BUT serious relationship? I only count 5. Not that I only dated 5. I had like multiple men who referred to them as my boyfriend. But it wasn’t too serious so I don’t count them 🤣
My fiancé was my second “boyfriend” and I was his first girlfriend.
One, was with him for one year and met my husband 9mo after we broke up
2 LTR’s and a couple of short flings then i met my husband and it’s been about 19 yrs since then and 17 married 😍
I like the theory that there isn’t a “one” for any of us, but the person we round up to one.I don’t think that’s a static value through our lives and even in a relationship. The best case scenario is you start with a good value, maybe a 0.7 or so, and grow together where both your value for one another infinitely approach that one. None of us are perfect and especially not on everything that comes down the pipe, but hopefully those common points helps you weather through the rough patches.
5 or 6
Zero. Took me by surprise at a young age but sure as shit wasn’t letting that one slip away.
Four, but only two relatively more “significant” relationships that lasted over 1year.
Though I wouldn’t call nor know if my husband is “the one”… He is the person I’m happily married to now though lol.
Two relationships and one fling
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Three long term relationships
Including high school boyfriends, my husband was my fourth relationship ❤️
I (30F) am on my 5th one and I am hoping that I’ve finally found my person. It feels different this time and I am confident that he would be a really good partner but I’ve been burned so many times that it’s hard to believe that I am right this time.
Way too many.
I think 4, but not including situationships.
There is no “the one.”
I don’t love the term or phrase, whatever, “the one.” However, I had 3 boyfriends before I started dating my husband at age 31. I dated a bit as well, but three actual relationships.
2 in high school, 3 in college, 3 after college. Then the one. So he’s number 9.
Six relationships, 4 of them long term.
Third time was the charm 🙂
Five. I met my man when I was 20 and we have been best friends ever since. He is an amazing boyfriend and father. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. This is the first relationship that I’ve ever truly felt heard, respected, and loved.
2 before meeting my forever guy. Getting married next August.
if flings and middle school/high school doesnt count then just one, and thats to hoping the current one im in is the one
Around six and some situationships.. and still haven’t found him. Still hoping ✨
I’m in my 40s and have had been in at least 15 serious relationships since high school. I was married for 13 years from age 23-36. After I divorced, I dated a few guys who fucked me over, so I purposeful stayed single for 2-3 years. Went back to the dating scene just for shits and giggles, and stumbled upon my person. He was just different. I think that time alone working on myself helped.
My husband is lucky number 7
One. It was just a short 3 months teenage relationship at school though. Had a few hook ups before and after that that never became something with feelings attached or a relationship.
Met my husband at 21 right after starting university, and been together ever since.
5 long term ones (6+ months)
Three relationships. Two in high school and one in college. Met my husband my sophomore year of college.
3 relationships. 1 serious one in HS and 2 outside of HS in my 20s.
My current one feels like the one for sure.
Three in highschool, one during college, then met my husband right when I was finishing up college.
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Second, not counting flings where the objective was for each of us to get off and go our separate ways. Even still, wouldn’t say he’s ‘the one’, just someone I found that matches my level of crazy and we both agree that people are strange, lets spend the rest of our time together because its better then being…out there. That’s hard enough to find. Plus he’s a good cook.
Situationships a few, relationships- only my husband.
1 serious relationship only. The rest of them ended too early with no signs of commitment.. Stayed single for a long time too.. Loved that part of my life I had so much time to myself.
I don’t believe in the one. Seems like a silly notion because in my opinion people are fluid and there’s so many factors. So none for me there is no one for me I guess.
I went through a ton of pitiful “relationships” when I was younger. Some of them didn’t last more than a week, but when I grew up a bit I got into more long term relationships. I went through one 7 month relationship, super toxic. Took a break. Went through another relationship, he cheated on me, lasted roughly 4 months. Took a break. Decided to work on myself, went to the gym ONE TIME and met my husband.
One serious relationship and a handful of flings.
2 official. unofficial / situationships too many too count. met him during my “not really in the mood to date” season. realized i had been searching for him the entire time.
6 serious relationships and dated 20+ not so seriously before my partner aka the one and I found each other.
5…..she was just a blind date that has lasted 50 years and 2 months
4 defined relationships, a situationship, a few dates with a few guys, several first dates that went nowhere, and a lot of drunk make outs.
But the answer to the original question is 4 relationships
Went on a “handful of dates” with 70-100 guys.
Had a 3 flings that I thought were going to go somewhere, but didn’t.
And had 5 boyfriends.
Over the course of 7 years of dating before meeting my now husband.
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My “one” is my dog an I’m so happy with this decision.
grok, how do you answer this when you’ve met TWO “the one”s 20+ years apart?
5 but that’s from 2007 until I met my person in 2020
My husband was my first relationship
Zero. My fiancé is my first real relationship.
Two. One was 2 years serious, and one was 1 year exclusive but fun.
Technically none. I met him online when I was 16. I saw one picture of him and fell hard. I even told my mom when I was 16 I was going to marry him one day. Fast forward a couple years and we broke up. I ended up in a really bad relationship with someone else, finally got out of it, and reconnected with my online boyfriend. We finally met in person when I was 20, moved in together 3 months after meeting, got married 3 months after that. We have been married 17.5 years.
Three. My first went for 5 years before we broke up cuz she cheated on me. My second was for a month or two long distance before she broke it off because I really dunno why. She told me she was caught stealing at work and possibly going to jail amd didmt wamt me to have to deal woth it but idk if that was true or not. The third I was with for around a month or so before she dumped me because she didn’t like my mental health issues.
Currently I’ve been married for a little over a month, before then we were together 5 years. So happy with my wife ^.^
zero 😮
I was ugly and a nerd.
My husband was my first real relationship. The next closest was a weird long distance COVID relationship for a couple months. Beyond that, mostly first dates. It was such a relief to meet my husband. I knew on the first date.
One thankfully but that ONE almost ruined me sheesh
I had 4 relationships before I met my husband.
Always a tricky question.
Once upon a time I would have answered “two” but a few years later and I’m now saying “three”
Hopefully we remain together forever, but who knows whether a few years down the track I’ll be saying “four” – it’s not like I didn’t feel sure last time!
Plus different people define relationships differently. I personally only count three previous relationships due to then being long term ones where either one of us would have felt comfortable making plans for “next year”
There have been three maybe four, but no “the one”, or I’d rather say, you always think it’s “the one now”.
I’m not sure.
There were several guys before I met my current partner.
two real ones and a couple situationships that crashed and burned 😅
3 serious relationships before finding my forever!
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My first boyfriend was when I was 18. We dated for almost 4 years.
From 21-22 I just spent time being single and having fun. I had a few talking situations that never went anywhere.
Then my husband and I started dating, and three years later, we are now married.
One previous. Stay picky is my advise lol
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One and done.
I had one boyfriend before I met my husband. We dated from 15-17 y/o. I met my now husband ~3 months after my first boyfriend and I broke up. I was still 17. Husband and I have been together ever since. We’re 33 and 34 now.
5 ( with sex haha) two without sex as a teenager dunno how to count
None
One. She was (is) my best friend and I often found myself thinking she would never treat me the way I was being treated by my ex partner but it took a while, and a break up, to realise what that meant.
I’ve been in three serious relationships and have enjoyed numerous flings… still haven’t found “the one”.
The last one I had thought was it (26F and 40M) and still love him deeply but he dashed after a year due to what appeared to be dismissive avoidant tendencies.
Excited to continue to love but taking the back seat for a little bit and will focus on personal growth.
3 serious relationships, not counting boyfriends or dating.
7 years, 5 years, 20 years. You can’t say I didn’t give it the ole college try.
Husband and I have been together almost nine years, and he’s the last. It took me this long to find him, and he’s so wonderful; I won’t find another like him. We are each other’s just-right-level of pixiedust.
Before I met him, I was happy on my own and casually dating a couple of men I got along with really well. But our lifestyles weren’t compatable, and neither was going to turn into a permanent thing as far as I was concerned. With the spouse, it was obvious we were going to be together, all boots on the ground, from the start.
Two first was two years seventeen till nineteen. Next was seven years nineteen till twenty five. Current twenty five till thirty nine.
Two 🙂 One in high school for 1.5 years, one in uni for 2.5 years. Met my husband close to my graduation!
Two
11? I keep feeling like I’m forgetting people. But at least 11.
A lot..
Dating after the advent of dating apps was hard. Trying to find someone who wanted what I want, had similar values, and actually wanted a relationship was surprisingly difficult.
Now of those that were serious (1+ years of dating), 4.
I met my husband in May 2020, engaged in January 2021, married October 2021.
I’m not going to include short highschool flings, cos, well they were never meant to be serious. So, 4. And interestingly, (at least to me lol) we’d previously had a situationship, nothing serious and ended said situationship due to distance and getting into a relationship was only cos I visited his country and him, we met up with vacation fling intentions, but after meeting we realised how serious our feelings were for each other. So we decided to give it a good proper try and here we are 7 years later.
My husband is my first and only. I’d tried the dating scene for a while before him but it never got past the first or second date.
Turns out my guy was right in front of me the whole time (I met him through work.) We were platonic friends for a while before we considered dating – but once we got past the blockers that kept us from dating, we whirlwinded.
Last month we got married! Wee!
Three but not sexually.
my husband is the only man i had in my whole life, and i’m proud of that
“The one” to me has always been the one in front of you. Whether it’s your mom, sibling, or partner. The one you’re present with at the moment. To answer your question though, 5.
None. She was my first relationship and here we are 8 years later.
Five. Not all of those fit your definition, but I say I have 5 exes.
Long term: 6
Under a year: 4
Four (somewhat – my first was a very casual high school relationship that only lasted a few months). So maybe 3.5. Married now!
There’s no such thing as “the one”. If anything, my one is my children or myself.
3 engagements, 2 marriages/divorces + 4 other serious relationships + a bunch of short term dating situationships later, I’m the one ❤️
Official exes? 3. Amount of first dates I went? Overall 60. Don’t give up!
Serious relationships? I’m currently in my 3rd.
Roughly 5.
First boyfriend at 15 just for the summer, then the next 3 at 16, 17, and 18 but they only lasted a few months. In college I had one boyfriend for all of a month who wasn’t a bad guy but we just weren’t super great for long-term.
I met my now husband towards the end of my freshman fall semester. Been together for almost 7 years now and married for 2!
.5 i’d call it a situationship lol
I had my high school boyfriend, college boyfriend, a lot of college flings, then my husband.
My mom always told me she dated to marry and didn’t date anyone she knew right away she wouldn’t marry. I was the opposite, I’d give any guy a chance at a long term relationship because it can still be a good relationship even if it doesn’t lead to marriage. I just always figured the relationship that led me to marriage would feel effortless and it really did. I got lucky that my husband showed his true authentic self right from the beginning and that he loved me for my authentic self.
2 serious ones (living together)
Like serious relationships? Two before I met my husband. I had several flings in between/before though. Definitely learned what I needed to from those past relationships. They helped me learn what I do and don’t want in a partner. And oddly enough I learned how to stand up for myself from one of my asshole exes lol. He was an asshole, but also didn’t put up with anyone’s shit and I sort of adopted that. He hated when I turned it around on him and started pushing back lol.
Serious relationships I’d say 3 before I met my husband.
Flings/one night stands/scene partners/fuckbuddies/etc…..uhhh I lost count. But no more than thirty.
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I’ve been in enough bad relationships to stop believing in “the one.” I’ve realized that for me, I am “the one.” Anything else is just gravy. I’m with the last person I’ll ever be in a relationship with right now, not because we’re married or have a family together, but because I’ve decided that however and whenever this ends, I’m never doing it again.
I was 31. By then I’d been married once and had had many boyfriends. I tried eHarmony and a month later, we met at Chili’s to have a drink. It’s been over twenty years of marriage. He’s my best friend. I’m very lucky. He was divorced too and we chose to grow together, support each other. My first husband didn’t want to see me grow or achieve success. The right partner makes all the difference.
I don’t really believe in the concept of “the one” but my partner now who I choose everyday is my most meaningful relationship so far and I’ve only had four other official partners.
Zero, I married my first boyfriend
2 ex boyfriends, too many situationships and hookups to count lol. I’m 34 and getting married in March.
Three official relationships between the ages of 25 to 30, with big gaps in between each of them. Prior to that I whored around in my early twenties and probably had a dozen varieties of situationships. Met my husband at 30, after a year hiatus from dating to figure out what type of life partner I truly wanted. I knew what I wanted and so did my husband, so when we found each other there wasn’t much hesitation.
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