How many times would you estimate you’ve been asked to prove that a selfie you sent was really you? And how many times have you asked someone else to?
How many times would you estimate you’ve been asked to prove that a selfie you sent was really you? And how many times have you asked someone else to?
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Never and never.
Once or twice in my nearly thirty nine years. Mainly when I tried the internet dating thing, they assumed I wasn’t tat good looking or a catfish or something.
Never and never. People have asked if I’m a catfish or accused me of being one. I don’t feel the need to prove it lol ok then š¤·āāļø
Never and never
zero and zero
A lot actually. A lot more when I was a SB but Iāve never asked anyone to confirm if they were real or prove they were real, besides you figure out who someone really is when you meet them in person anyway
never?
Never and never wtf
Oof, probably been asked like 4ā5 times? Especially when I look ātoo goodā in a selfie, lol. Some dudes just donāt believe girls can take fire pics without filters or tricks. As for me asking othersā¦ maybe once or twice? Only if the pic looked super fake or straight-up stolen from Google
Not even once
Never. But I have been accused of being a catfish using someone elseās photos. God knows why because if I was going to pretend to be someone Iād use someone a lot better looking than me lol
Neverr. I think I got asked once to prove I’m a woman when I was a teen and gaming online, but I just took a pic of my hand (done up nails) with my username written down and that sufficed. These days idc if people believe me or not.
Been asked plenty of times and I’ve never asked. it is an attempt to get into a live video call and pressure for more risque interactions right there. Shady people do it to prey on weak willed people to get easy amateur pr0n.
A couple of times. Never
Honestly, not since Gaiaonline Dot Com in the early 2000s. For both asking and being asked.
In our defense, we were all overly suspicious after one of our message boardās most popular users revealed that they were not, in fact, a darling cute emo boy. She was a girl who claimed she created the persona just to fuck with everyone! And it had worked! Betrayal!
After that we had a lot of people who thought that was a keen idea but it never quite worked again. One user claimed to be Allison Harvard, who had been a former member, but this was after her ANTM fame and I was not falling for that shit.
I’ve been asked for proof hundreds of times – as if a woman can’t just turn out well š
I’ve asked a couple times myself when realistically something was suspicious
Never and never. Thatās toxic as hell
It happened twice when I was on a local dating site. I sent the proof like requested. One of those guys turned out to be a very persistent stalker.
I never send selfies online anymore after that experience.
never to both questions
None.
Both never.
I would not even know why someone would ask me to āprove myselfā. And why would I do that?
And I am saying this as a gamer that has been playing online since Internet became a thing. So what, 30 years + ?
Iāve been asked plenty of times and it always annoyed me. When a man asked, I would usually comply but ghost shortly after. I tried the immediate ghosting but some weirdo continually sent me harassing messages for weeks when I said I wouldnāt provide proof.
I have never asked that a man provide proof, I guess I can spot a fake account better than most(?)
This was super common before Facebook was popular. Nexopia and MySpace, totally common occurrences. We sent “sign pics”. Probably hasn’t been a thing since like, 2007/2008?
0 times.
I don’t send selfies to people except if they know me well.
Not a selfie but a countable number of times I’ve been told that my dating profile isn’t me and I’m catfishing, even though it’s verified.
Wow never! Met the hubs at a poker game, in college in the 80’s.
Also, not a selfie person.
App dating I was once asked to leave a voice note to prove I was really a woman, but that’s it.
I got asked waaaaaaay more than I have asked others to. Especially when I was in my late teens/early twenties and single one the dating apps.
Zero and zero. I’ve also only been in a situation when that could happen like once, though.
Only in an official capacity. I sat some online exams and you had to submit a photo of you holding your ID so they could tell it was you online. I also had to do similar for access to a charity bank account.
If I was sending a picture for whatever reason I’d ask for something unique they wanted me to do or hold and send it. That was the one and only time I’d do that with a person, but wasn’t until long into some kind of established relationship of some kind.
I’ve never asked
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Once and it was reasonable! In high school a āfriendā of mine was suspecting her bf of cheating so she asked me to catfish him (since he knew what I looked like) and test him. Me being the friend that I am did that but Iām a shit liar (even over text) and he suspected since he knew sheād try something. Since I was not using my own photo he caught me and I told him the truth. I found out later that she was the one cheating, and ghosted him to get engaged to some other guy she never told me about. So yeah. Some time later one of my guy friends told me sheās been flirting with him despite being engaged and he was hella confused.
So Iād say he was pretty warranted to ask for proof, and he was right anyway. Otherwise nope, never again have I been asked to prove Iām real I donāt think. Most people I meet are in person tbh.
Never done both. I do not send selfies. People have been in my DMs asking if I am the person in my profile picture though, if that counts.
A few and never
I asked on guy bc his Bumble pic had an ig filter from the 2010s. He was really cute so I needed that confirmation lmao
Iāve never been asked. The times Iāve wanted to ask or did ask for proof, I was right and being catfished. So if youāre worried, stick with your gut.
That reminds me that in late 00s/early 10s it became a thing to take a picture holding a sign saying “I’m not fake.” Or people would ask others to make a specific, unusual hand sign. In the end, people stole and photoshopped those as well so there was no point. I was never internet famous so that was not an issue for me. When I think someone might be fake, I reverse search their picture. I think some people might have asked me for a video call because they thought I was fake, but they didn’t say so
EDIT: Just remembered I used to have an online friend who all of a sudden assumed I was a fake of his girlfriend. I never ever flirted with him (I was not interested at all) and I think he was just guilty he was getting a crush on me and made up that lie to feel better. I never proved anything, just cut ties
Directly sent in PM – never. But several times people wrote about my photo on the avatar, that I copied someone else’s from the Internet) Like “you’re so ugly that you downloaded a picture of a beautiful woman from the internet”
And it was very, very flattering. Buddy, in this photo it’s just me, I understand that I’m too fucking hot to believe it, but it’s true
I was once pressured into sending video because someone on the internet didn’t think I was real. I’ve never questioned anyone’s pictures of themselves & I don’t see why it matters.