How much detail does your friend group get into when talking about your partners?

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Could be about your spouse or someone you just met.

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  1. Vegetable_Lie_1194 Avatar

    We could be a throuple at this point

  2. Affectionate-Alps-76 Avatar

    The group, not so much, some individuals more. really depends on the person and the issue 😅 but not one friend knows “everything”.

  3. goddamnladybug Avatar

    It depends. I have some friends who will literally go into details about EVERYTHING without even being asked, friends who are completely private, and friends who will just blush at the topic and maybe make a comment or two.

  4. tinfoilhattie Avatar

    We don’t have any casual discussions about anything private or intimate about our partners. We talk about our life together, our adventures, interesting things we’ve discussed, etc, but we don’t discuss anything sexual, intimate, or private about any specific partners without their express consent and a reason to do so.

  5. Connie_Damico Avatar

    It depends.

    I have one friend that I’ve known for decades and we talk about details of our relationships but with all my other friends I don’t really care to discuss intimate or a lot of details. It’s not that I don’t trust them I just feel it’s private and also they’re too prone to give their unsolicited opinions, which I don’t want because I rarely relate to the way that they look at relationships so it’s of no value to me.

  6. slypool Avatar

    Everything is shared, reenactments an everything💀

    censorship is not a thing

    EDIT: For the weirdos DMing me, we are not touching each other like that, it’s a dramatisation, Jesus

  7. MeditativeMama Avatar

    My core friend group shares everything, sometimes too much. Outside of them, it would never come up.

  8. goosebuggie Avatar

    It depends on the friend, but only my closest friends get any details and even then it’s not detailed. I’ll talk about if we did something new or something, but I keep it pretty vague and would never talk about very specific details that could be invasive of either mine or my partners privacy.

  9. bikinifetish Avatar

    Every single detail is shared. But not to a group. I tell one or two friends.

  10. Basic-Remote-1053 Avatar

    I go into a lot of detail with one friend in particular. She’s the one who introduced us, has known him longer than she’s known me, and was the maid of honor at our wedding.

    She was there all through our relationship, from first date planning, to help keep me grounded as I fell hard for him, to celebrating with us the day he proposed. I wouldn’t have this phenomenal marriage without her standing behind us all the way from the beginning.

  11. LustBeALadyTonight Avatar

    No detail, ever.

    I would never share that with anyone. It’s really disrespectful. My partner never so much as mentions our sex life to his friends, I and do the same. The stereotypical girls night where everyone spills the beans has always seems contrived and gross.

    But I’ll share with random internet strangers! We fucked like 10 minutes ago! I love Friday afternoons!

  12. Geologyst1013 Avatar

    I’m the only one in my friend group that has a partner. He obviously comes up if I’m talking about something we did over the weekend or something we’re planning to do that’s pretty much the extent of it.

  13. ThrowRAboredinAZ77 Avatar

    When our whole group gets together we don’t talk that much about our husbands/partners. We mostly talk about books, politics, current events, work, and our hobbies.

  14. canthaveme Avatar

    My close girl friend and I talked about banging just today and she did get many details

  15. ladylemondrop209 Avatar

    Not much, we’re all also very good friends with each others’ SOs and in my case I worked with most of them…

    Even if there’s trust, we have our boundaries. While we generally don’t mind if we tell whatever back to our respective partners, if there’s something specific that is just between us (a friend/the friend group), they’ll specifically say so, and I keep my word.

  16. AdCandid192 Avatar

    We share a lot! The good, the great and the not so great. It’s mostly encouraging and sex positive so we all feel comfortable

  17. Old-Pizza-3580 Avatar

    I have one friend who knows everything. Everything. Probably too much, to be honest, haha.

  18. Rare-Cucumber-1652 Avatar

    I personally don’t talk much about that as I’m a very private person especially when it comes to dating and partners, one of my friends doesn’t understand why and is always pushing it on me and it makes me uncomfortable because she knows k don’t like talking about it. Some of my friends are very open about it and goes into heaps of detail but I do have a couple of friends who keep stuff private or they won’t go into much details. I guess it depends on personality’s honestly.

  19. littlemybb Avatar

    They tell me a lot about their problems and their sex life, but nothing personal if that makes sense.

  20. anguiila Avatar

    We don’t go into a lot of detail, unless we feel uncomfortable/unsure about something our respective partners.

  21. After_Equipment_4473 Avatar

    Intimate things are off the table, I don’t discuss it outside of the relationship. I share happy things because I want my friends to see I’m happy and love him like I do. We haven’t had any issues particularly but if we did I would primarily discuss it with him and if I still felt a bit stuck I may confide in someone I trust for advice.

  22. kzweigy Avatar

    Hardly anything. With my first boyfriend, I shared a little and it immediately got used against me/thrown back in my face. So I just decided never again. I’m a pretty private person, so this feels most natural to me anyway.

  23. Spiritual_One126 Avatar

    When I had my first bf and was preparing for sex the first time. (Very scary for me). I had candid discussions with my best friends about what to expect since they had bfs before me (and we ended up watching the sex ed show on Netflix). After that stage we don’t need to talk about sex anymore.

  24. ComplaintExotic9901 Avatar

    The Chaos Chat has no boundaries and no judgment.

  25. centerfoldangel Avatar

    Not much. Normal stuff. Nothing sexual.

    I’d be horrified if he talked to his friends about our sex life. I can talk about sex in the abstract but I only talk about the sex I’m having with the person I’m having it with.

  26. At-this-point-manafx Avatar

    Depends the friends. I have friends who tell me wayy too much information about their sex life and their partners genitals. Others who will tell me about the relationship but not the sex and others who won’t say anything unless they break up.
    It’s depends the person

    I personally don’t like sharing details of intimacy.

  27. Affectionate-Low5301 Avatar

    Answer is the same as u/tinfoilhattie .

    Anything private or intimate is for partner discussion only.

  28. MarzipanSharp1843 Avatar

    excruciating detail lol, TMI doesn’t exist in my friend group