Lets be honest for a second: If a woman has stretch marks, loose skin or any imperfections, would you still be willing to look past that if her character checked all the boxes (e.g. caring, loyal, smart) and everything else that truly matters? Ive always been told that my character is strong for todays world and Im already working on my looks as Ive rarely got any compliments based on physical appearance. But does that really matter in todays society or does it feel like its still all about appearances?
Would love to hear your honest thoughts.
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Lets be honest for a second: If a woman has stretch marks, loose skin or any imperfections, would you still be willing to look past that if her character checked all the boxes (e.g. caring, loyal, smart) and everything else that truly matters? Ive always been told that my character is strong for todays world and Im already working on my looks as Ive rarely got any compliments based on physical appearance. But does that really matter in todays society or does it feel like its still all about appearances?
Would love to hear your honest thoughts.
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Perhaps it’s because of my age (49), but I prefer women with a little wear and tear on them. Signs of a life lived, not one spent focusing on aesthetic perfection. As long as she is taking care of herself, it’s not even a question of overlooking these things, but admiring them. I want a partner, not a Trophy.
In my eyes its equally as important.
I can’t date someone I don’t find physically attractive just like I can’t date someone that I don’t like their personality.
At the end of the day sex, kissing, cuddling etc.. are all important and we all deserve to feel wanted and to want our partners and just like I can’t date my best friend because I am not attracted to men even though he is an amazing person I can’t date an amazing women who is not attractive in my eyes
That said some physical attributes are less important to me then others.
Stretch marks? No big deal.
Being obese? Thats a big deal to me.
Character matters more than looks but for someone who doesn’t know you it’s the looks that get people’s attention at first.
Both matter quite a bit. Very, very, very, very few are going to get to know the person’s character if they don’t already like their looks.
> stretch marks
It’s honestly very rare that stretch marks look gross.
I have to a have certain level of attraction to pique my interest. Her personality, character, etc. are what locks me down, but I have to be physically attracted to her.
Extremely, but if your look is repulsive it’s rather difficult to reveal your character.
Looks mean almost nothing to me.
Nice, smart and funny are much more valuable.
Being a bitch or stupid is an immediate turn off.
For me it doesn’t matter, we all have imperfections, the soul is what’s important
Stop it about the stretch marks. That alone tells me all your thoughts about this are based on what’s going on in your own head and not based on listening to men.
That said, appearance for me (and many men) is mainly about meeting a bar that’s not especially high. There does have to be some physical attraction, but you don’t have to be a 10.
The other distinction about appearance and character, though, is that one you can assess in 5 seconds while the other may take weeks to evaluate.
Imperfections are good. Its what makes you human, and not a doll.
Its the overall physicall beauty that matters. Face especially. Being curvy is close second. Looking cute is important as well.
For girls, the ugly truth is that looks are more important then the character. Simply because if I’m not attracted to you, you can have the best charater in the world, I would still just like you as a friend.
On the other hand, if its reverse, and you are really hot with a bad character, then sex is all I would want from you.
So if you are looking for a serious relationship, you simply need both looks and character.