In a relationship, or the beginning thereof… when do you consider a partner’s effort good effort and when do you consider that way too much? (Example: reflecting on the relationship, not just calling, etc.)
How much effort in the relationship is too much effort?
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In the very beginning, imo texting/calling/facetiming everyday is overkill and annoying. I prefer to get to know someone in person so I prefer to just text/call to make plans & maybe chat here and there. Any “I love you” -like sayings are way too much. Expecting sex- too much. Flowers are great, maybe a small gift. Anything beyond that feels like it comes with expectations.
Anything that is not reciprocated with the same enthusiasm one way or the other.
I don’t think there anything as too much effort in a LTR as long as efforts are reciprocal and appreciated.
But in NEW relationships I would say that too much means they’re moving too fast and are not matching my energy. (Ex.They’re calling too much or doing too much) Or if I’m doing too much I will feel drained and like I’m chasing. Never good.
I thinking mirroring/matching effort for at least the first six months is the way to go.
My last potential girlfriend ditched me because I asked her too many questions. Apparantly, I’m supposed to ignore and respond slowly and keep everything mysterious
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