How often are you called beautiful, pretty etc. I’m not talking about compliments on clothes and hair.
(Not including compliments from your partner, close friends or dating apps)
Edit: to those saying daily, please give an example of how a stranger is complimenting you everyday because that’s crazyy unless you’re some kind of Victoria secret angel or live somewhere where everyone is super friendly.
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More often than I’d expect, but it’s often difficult to believe—I was bullied pretty intensely and that shit sticks with you.
Never. I personally like my face and my hair but generally I am not someone who gets complimented on my appearance, lol.
I used to get compliments a lot but then I gained a lot of weight rapidly during a depression slump and now all I get are dieting tips
A few times a day. I think where I am people are just nice. I try to compliment people as well and be friendly.
I get complimented on work outfits almost daily. But I don’t get complimented on my physical looks very often. I’m a younger woman in a male dominated office so I’m actually happy I don’t get complimented on my looks very often lol.
While travelling – multiple times a day. At home – usually just when I hit the bars and pubs, but I do sometimes get hit on just tuning errands or at the dog park.
Thanks to my miracle worker of a stylist, I get compliments on my hair about once a month. Today, I noticed an older woman in the parking lot with a great cut, so I told her that her hair looked fantastic. I think she was very happy to hear that (as I am whenever someone says it to me 🙂
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Depends where I am who I’m with
Maybe a few times a month
Maybe twice a month, by a colleague usually. The same one, who gives compliments to everyone and brighten people’s day. And then occasionally when im dating someone but not very often.
Often. In public from random people, my coworkers, family, etc. I do put a decent amount of effort into my appearance tbf
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Never. I’m not what’s conventionally and traditionally considered and accepted as attractive.
I really wish people could see past that as I have so much to offer.
Every day over and over, on dating apps.
Rarely
Not often at all. I think it happens maybe once last year.
Basically never. Got complimented on looking good in an outfit at work once and rode that high for a couple weeks.
Never
Never. Which is fine with me. I know I’m not ugly, I’m just pretty lowkey with the way I present myself and I don’t like attention anyway. My husband finds me attractive and compliments me, and I’ve had friends and acquaintances say nice things, and that’s certainly enough for me.
Our culture is very much set on not really saying stuff like that. We dont talk much, so a random compliment is rare. That being said, i get complimented by foreigners. And that more often than i am comfortable with.
A few times a week. I wear colorful cartoon scrubs to work and change my hair up quite a bit.
Never. But this is also a cultural thing I think. In Canada we avoid commenting on people’s physical appearance, positive or negative it’s viewed as rude (other than maybe saying someone’s eye colour is pretty).
Clothing and hairstyle are often stylist choices and are more socially acceptable to be complimented.
I get compliments on my smile constantly
All the time, but I guess you mean not my kids?
Not very often. I’m fat and old and don’t wear makeup or style my hair (leaning heavily into my bog witch era). I do get ‘you look lovely today’ comments from my female friends and co-workers, but that’s usually when I’ve put an ounce of effort into my appearance, so whilst it’s a general compliment, it’s usually supported by clothes and hair.
However I do subscribe to the idea of getting back what you put out into the world and I give a lot of compliments. It feels nice. And the other day it prompted a conversation with a girl in a shop that ended with my lovely new dungarees!
I live in Germany so let’s say NEVER 😄😄
I get complimented a lot by strangers or when I’m traveling. When I was in Europe it was nonstop which was really nice ✨
Well my hair actually does get majority of my compliments (I have locs) but I’d say on a weekly basis I am called pretty maybe 40% of the time, which is when I’m outside of my work space. Sometimes I’ll look my very best and not get a single compliment tho lol.
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A lot recently. I had a baby 8 weeks ago and lost the weight pretty quickly. Many people (strangers included) are saying how good i look and they can’t believe I just had a baby. I thought it would be great to be complimented so much, but for some reason it just makes me uncomfortable.
Daily.
From both women & men.
From other women, I absolutely love it and appreciate it.
From (straight) men, I don’t. It’s never just a compliment.
Never. Unless you count my mom 😂😭
I (68) hear all the time “you don’t look your age”. Thank you intermittent fasting and walking daily
Precisely once, in like, 5th grade. It was another kid in my class and i’m reasonably certain it was a pity compliment.
Lol My husband calls me stuff like that all the time though. 🥰
Quite often, and I love when it comes from other women. 🥰
Rarely
When I was younger and used to leave the house more, I would get called beautiful or pretty often. Now I barely leave the house other than for work so not as often anymore. I’m a veterinarian, so I find it inappropriate and demeaning if clients comment on my looks tbh.
Once or twice I think. It‘s usually about my make up or clothes, so I rarely get compliments about my appearance apart from that. One of the most significant compliments that I ever got was when I was 13 y.o. and was told by my older female math teacher that I’ll grow up to be very beautiful. I felt like such an ugly weird teenager back then and school was not a safe place for me by any means. So this was very kind of her to say that and felt so nice to hear.
Unfortunately or fortunately, it’s normalized for girls to say that each other are gorgeous and pretty. Even if it’s not true. I personally haven’t been complemented unless it was in a group setting where the compliments were just going from person to person. Doesn’t mean me or others are not pretty just means that beauty standards are a thing.
I once was stopped by a woman at Walmart who said ur so pretty!! I started CRYING.
My hair gets loads of compliments, probably like 3 or 4 times a week, but “you’re pretty/beautiful/etc” from strangers is pretty rare. Maybe twice a year. Personally, if I’m complementing someone’s appearance in any way I hope they take that to mean that I think they are pretty as a whole and that’s how I feel when I get compliments on appearance of any sort (except shoes maybe lol). One that I love is “that color looks great on you!” it means “you look stunningly beautiful today! Partially because that color complements you but also because you are naturally beautiful”.
Everyday. Someone told me yesterday in the chick fil a drive thru that I am their entire Pinterest board
It’s been at least ten years.
My fella calls me beautiful at every opportunity—both because he means it, and because he knows how much I appreciate hearing it.
It’s been incredibly healing to have someone in my corner who looks at me and always sees beauty. I wish we all could have that.
Often enough. Whenever Im dolled up. I would say more than once a week by a stranger
Daily
Alot more than I expected now im two years away from forty
I always return it with one to them too
Rarely. When I am at home, I am almost always in super casual loungewear. When I am at work, I’m in my uniform and I do not show up at work to look sexy. Only practical. So unless my hair is down for some reason, I usually don’t get complimented because I intentionally look “bland”.
When I am out, occasionally, if it’s a special occasion, I will pull out the stops and dress up. I can think of one instance, a few years ago, at a wedding, a friend commented that I looked awesome. That friend had never before seen me with makeup or in a dress, so he had a little bit of shock when he saw me.
I know that I am beautiful. I also know how to make myself look “hot”. But I don’t want to expend the effort to attain someone else’s definition of attractiveness. It’s just not who I am. Never has been.
My ex always did and my family sometimes , but never a stranger
About twice a week. It always makes me melt!
Maybe a few times a week.
On a daily basis
Daily 😘
Pretty often when I go out. I remember being told I was pretty on Friday by a woman and Saturday by a guy.
Not often, but people do get very surprised when I express I’m insecure about certain physical traits of mine (uneven skin tone, the small weight gain I’m dealing with, bad nails etc)
Looks as a whole? Never. My eyes? Often-ish. They’re a deep blue
Mostly when people meet me and then after that, occasionally
I dont get compliments on my looks.
Most days and I’m 60
Often, pretty much every time I am out and encounter people. I guess I appreciate it but it’s so constant it’s kind of become meaningless. Also heavily depends on the source.
Fairly frequently but all of the compliments on my appearance that aren’t clothing related are compliments on my tattoos. I don’t ever get compliments on my face, hair, or body
Not very often or almost never. I’m never told randomly while I’m in a drive thru or anything “omg you’re so pretty” the most I get complimented on are my nails
Never… IDK who would even do that other than partner/close friends.
Pretty often, actually. My husband tells me how beautiful I am everyday. When I go out with my friends it is not uncommon for at least one to tell me that I’m pretty. I am non-monogamous and do date other men. Many lead with telling me I’m beautiful (of course) but also very specific compliments about my smile, skin, etc. And of course my family often tell me how naturally pretty I am. Writing this out I realize how fortunate I am in this regard, and am sad to see other women say they don’t experience that often.
Daily. I think it’s because I have unique features. I agree with another comment – women giving a compliment feels genuine, I’m often not trusting when men compliment my looks randomly.
Rarely. It happens once in a while but not enough to get used to it.
I only get very specific compliments. “You have great skin, how do your pores look so small and there’s no texture?” I’m often told I have beautiful skin, by coworkers, random people I meet in the hospital, even at a Starbucks drive thru.
Almost daily. Mostly from women which are the most important/meaningful compliments, imo. When men compliment me I get a little uncomfortable, tbh.
I keep getting called cute. It annoys me so much at times. I know they mean it in a good way but sometimes I want to be called pretty or beautiful.
I don’t even understand what they mean by cute.
Not at all anymore. In my 20s, all the time. Didn’t realise I had pretty privilege til I lost it.
More often than I’d expect.
From random strangers, co-workers, highly respected relatives, sales lady hahaha. I find it hard to believe and accept these compliments. I brush it off sometimes.
Growing up it’s just my dad, his friends, mom’s friends, who told me that I am pretty. Never heard it from mom. Now, I have kids of my own, I make sure I do tell them they are pretty and handsome kids. Which they are really. They get compliments from strangers, neghbors a lot.
Sometimes. I’ve had random men I meet at events or through friends or whatever who will always compliment my eyes or my tattoos. Women in the wild either usually compliment my hair, my makeup/outfit choice, tattoos, or something else.
The best compliment that I received lately was from some guy I met at a shop in Mexico. He said that he thought i looked like a model or tv star. I’m pretty sure he was trying to sell me something though lol
Literally never…
Very rarely
I get it often. Sometimes none if Im just running to the store. Sometimes several times a day if Im out and about with a full beat. It started when I had a glow up at 19.
That has never happened in 26 years of my life. I get complimented on other things usually from people close to me and sometimes even strangers. But I’ve never heard anything about my appearance and that includes friends and family. Tbh I’m not good looking so it makes sense
The last time it happened to me by a stranger was by a young teen girl in soccer uniform and braces at Aldi waiting in the checkout line with her mom. I told her she was pretty too! I was super surprised and flattered and that gave me a high the whole night. I don’t look anything like an insta model and am well into middle age and 20 pounds overweight so hearing I’m pretty by someone random is rare.
Unfortunately constantly, which I absolutely hate because I’m a very shy introvert and don’t like attention. Also, I used to be an ugly duckling, so I still find it hard to believe when I’m called “beautiful”. I don’t trust men at all either, as I’m unsure if they actually like me for me or just for “my looks”. Its strangers and colleagues who call me “beautiful”, yet funnily enough, my family never have. I think it’s because we don’t prioritise looks in my family, and why I actually don’t put any effort into my appearance, well apart from wearing jewellery.
This isn’t a brag as I’m constantly frustrated and upset by it.
Never/rarely. I remember walking on the street once upon a time 20 years ago and some guys were walking nearby and one said you’re very beautiful. He wasn’t catcalling or anything but just stated a fact. I remember thinking pity he wasn’t interested in dating me!
A lot. People of all different cultures and ages stop me to say kind things. It’s more my energy than anything. I make nice with people lol
Never. I’ve actually questioned if im pretty. I don’t think I’m gorgeous but I don’t think I’m ugly. Im content with my looks I guess. I’ve always wondered why even in college no one ever came up to me 🤷🏻♀️
Not often, but I’ve noticed that people tend to compliment the same thing – most commonly my eyes. It’s a bit interesting, because my eyecolor isn’t unique. I have greenish blue eyes (I’ve given up on figuring out the color tbh)
Never.
Just the other night one of my female friends’ boyfriend called me pretty. We were talking about how my dating is going, how I should go for some guys rather than others (he says I should stick to British men 😂), and he came out with that. I don’t think he’s trying. He and my friend have a relaxed view of things. She’s not the jealous type.
Anyway, it cheered me up, especially as I was having an off day.
I’m learning to accept compliments about my looks. Recently a guy said something about my profile pictures being cute and I didn’t get defensive as usual 😂
Multiple times daily if I get out of the house. I used to think they were just polite
More often than not
Only been complimented on my hair (it’s pink) and my outfit a handful of times.
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A couple to a few times a week.
Fairly often. My looks will nearly definitely be commented on/complimented by someone meeting me for the first time.
pretty often people tell me im pretty in a casual conversation and say how lucky my partner must be and i say thank you then they start complimenting my body then i think thats when i start getting weird
Less as I get older but that’s I hope the times changing I don’t compliment looks unless I am super close to someone anymore .
When I’m near drunk men, a lot. When I’m shopping alone, a lot. When I’m with my partner, never.
My clothes or glasses or similar—a lot, probably at least once a month (and I work remotely so I don’t leave the house many days in anything but workout clothes so that’s a lot).
My actual features? Other than a romantic partner, a few times a year. Usually my smile or I also have very striking eyes so sometimes people comment on that. I have put on a lot of muscle the last few years so sometimes people who haven’t seen me in a bit will comment that I look jacked.
I occasionally get compliments from strangers on my smile, but I think that’s it. Honestly I think I’d find it a bit too forward/creepy for someone to compliment my actual looks outside of a dating/flirty context so I’m glad it doesn’t happen. It’s not really a social norm imo.
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Pretty much never🤷🏻♀️
I’m on the dating apps so that means daily throw away compliments centred entirely around my looks & I hate it! I’d much rather hear about my sparkling wit!
A few times a month, sometimes weekly depends on how many people I interact with. My coworkers are frequently complimenting me in passing tho lol
From my boyfriend and friends, often. From strangers, idk depends how much I go out. Maybe once or twice a month. Besides work I don’t go places much.
Rarely since I went from a size 8 to a size 14, but I still get compliments on my style and personality which is much better for me 🙂
Never by other people, but always by my girlfriend and that’s all I care about 🥰
At least a few days a week. I’m terrible at accepting compliments and never know what to say so i usually just mumble a “thanks” and walk away as quickly as possible.
Rarely.
Never. Just my family tells me I’m pretty. Lol.
I know I ain’t ugly but damn, approach me.
I’m 28.
Never. I am objectively ugly. I’m complimented on clothes very occasionally.
My partner calls me beautiful but I also get complimented on my hair a lot – I am fair and I dye my hair a medium copper colour that looks natural that people comment on a fair bit. (Naturally very blonde)
Literally never. Does that really happen to people?
Almost everyday.
The compliments usually pertain to looks, not much of anything else for me. But I put the most effort into my looks, not my clothing or other things.
Almost daily, very blessed although I know I’m pretty I don’t think I necessarily stand out. Yet I never meet men and have had terrible success in the dating world.
Not often lol but a random man said “you’re really beautiful you know that?” as I walked past the bus stop the other day and it honestly made my night because I was feeling a bit insecure in my outfit and was headed to a party lol the party ended up being a blast
I used to get it constantly, even as a little girl. I actually found it disturbing because I was shy. Now I’m officially an older woman and it’s rare, although I get compliments on my hair often and the occasional general comment, usually from younger women or older men.
I’m 61 years old. Those days are pretty much all finished. Although the other day I was in a gas station and some drunk walked up to me and said ” hey gorgeous !!” I had a mask on though so if he had seen me without it he might not have been so nice.
I’m complimented on my looks quite frequently, which I find surprising because I think I’m pretty weird-looking and not that attractive.
Never. Even my ex didn’t compliment me. Not looking for pity, just stating the facts.
I work with a lot of customers so a handful of times a week, maybe 3-5
Never. I crave validation in this area so badly, too.
lol never
Never. I don’t think I look terrible but I never get complimented lol
Regularly from friends and acquaintances. They like my style, whatever that is. I get admiring looks from strangers but I don’t get close enough to let anyone talk to me. This is all while never being conventionally attractive. Just very average but I’m in this stage of carefree serenity in my 40s and I guess it gives off a radiance or something because I get more attention now than when I was in my 20s. Go figure.
Maybe once a day on average? I mean if I leave the house and interact with people, I’ll get complimented maybe 2-3 times for my looks. If I don’t leave the house, it’s usually just like randoms on the Internet lol.
Oh it’d be like if I’m buying food or shopping at a store and I’ve paid and about to leave, the sales assistant would say something like “you’re really pretty!”
Orrrrr mostly they are teenagers – I feel like the young girls nowadays are more forward with their compliments. I get them quite a lot in the toilet LOL when I’m doing my make up or washing my hands :’)
I definitely am not a model or anyone extremely gorgeous or something hahaha
A couple of times in the week.
lol I didn’t read this past the question bc I was going to talk about my hair.
Hardly ever.
Like almost daily I’d say, at least once or twice a week
every time i leave my house tbh
Basically never, the only types of compliments I get every once in a while is on my hair. I’m just not pretty so that’s that.
i get compliments fairly often, it heavily depends on what i’m doing if i’m at work or events then yes i get compliments however if i seem to be in a rush or looking quite stressed then probably not.
a more recent example is i was helping a guy find something on the computer. he almost unconsciously came out and said i was beautiful and thanked me for helping since he really needed it!
Never
I get them some times from my bf but it’s rare
Almost daily now but I was a homely teenager and lived in my sister’s shadow. No one ever noticed me. Thankfully, we grow into ourselves.
Depends on the context, I love to go out with big and colorful makeup and when wearing a look, since doing something different and putting effort is usually a motive for people to approach and say something, I get compliments on the makeup with the add up of they telling me I’m pretty/stunning and so on.
That happens often, usually in a friendly way from gay men and women.
day to day life, not so much.
I work with kids. They compliment me at least once a month lol
I get complimented sometimes but I don’t find myself pretty so it’s hard to believe.
Never because I’m not anything that could ever be considered attractive. The one time my grandmother said anything let alone positive about my looks, I looked at her like she had suddenly sprouted three heads because it had never happened before. It was a look of both complete and utter shock coupled with the possibility of invasion of the body snatchers coming to life. Turned out she was in the throws of early onset dementia so her compliment didn’t count since she wasn’t in her right mind.
I don’t go out very often so not much. But, when I’m out with my girl friends, I always get complimented. I do put a lot of effort in my appearance and how I dress. If I’m out eating alone or something, someone, usually a straight man, will tell me that I’m beautiful or pretty. Sometimes I feel the energy of another girl and just know when they’re gonna compliment me, it makes me smile so hard.
Once in the last year, by a creep.
Yes by old people and homeless people
In my life I’ve had three strangers come up to me and call me pretty. Most people compliment my clothing not my face lol.
Every day, multiple times a day, because I live in the Caribbean where the men blurt out what they’re thinking at all times like horny toddlers with no impulse control. It can be kinda nice, so long as they keep it respectful.
Never.
Somewhat often. I will get compliments on my clothing often in streets by strangers. Have gotten random compliments on my facial features from colleagues. Or if it’s a networking like event or meeting anyone first time it’s usually on my speaking fluency. But mostly on my clothing.
And also quite some catcall creepy ones
I get compliments on my glasses the most, sometimes several times a day.
but I get compliments on my hair, smile, eyes, clothes/shoes, and accessories several times each month/week.
It’s just “I like your ___” mostly. But when I’m in a rougher part of town it’s usually, “do you have a husband/boyfriend” and then a follow up line about how they do not care about the husband/boyfriend.
Maybe 3x a week – sometimes everyday if I’m going out (travelling). It’s often on my face, and then style/clothing, hair. It’s flattering but I remind myself it’s an extra – it’s more important to be kind, interesting, respectful. Sometimes I’m taken aback by how many people will stop me on the street to tell me – but looks fade! Integrity doesn’t.
Daily from my family, at least weekly from others
Maybe more often if I tried harder, but I just put face lotion and concealer on and go..
Sometimes from family, friends, co workers, etc. it’s just hard to believe
ETA: my husband as well ofc.
I actually get complimented by women on my hair pretty regularly. I wore a casual dress the other day and I was reminded that that is my color because I got compliments – one on the dress, by a woman, and the rest were in the pretty category, from men.
My (STBX) husband hasn’t given me a genuine, off the cuff, feel good compliment on my body/looks in 8 years. I held onto that one for a very long time; I never realized it would likely be the last one I’d ever get from him without basically begging. (And he’s an avoidant with a victim complex, so as soon as I ask, it’s taken as an attack and then doesn’t ever happen.)
I compliment people out in the wild too. Watch how much a man will smile when you tell him how good he smells.
Semi frequently, I guess? But I go to a lot of events that are geared towards that type of flirting.
I occasionally get the “you look so nice today” from coworkers.
I dont count the “hello gorgeous girl, what are you up to later” messages from my FWB.
Multiple times a day. I live in NYC and walk everywhere. I have men/women compliment me, usually from men it’s “have a great/blessed/wonderful day, beautiful” or “you’re gorgeous,” whereas women will tell me that I’m really pretty.
Very often still it i don’t really know to thank them i just have a smile automatically and just say you are pretty.
Whenever I leave my house and I’m in my early 50s.
my looks? not so much.
my tattoos? often enough that it makes me feel good.
Every other week. It’s more genuine coming from women and I feel more comfortable accepting the compliments from them. The men give off cringe vibes I don’t want any part of.
Barely. Even if I get, it’s come from older ppl like moms, grandma grandpa and I think they are just being nice. 😂
almost anytime I go out. I went to the beach yesterday and got so many compliments on my set bc I crocheted it :3
I suppose pretty frequently. I work a job where I meet 100-300 people a day. And it’s a kind gesture, and I always smile and say thank you but just that. My looks don’t define my self esteem or who I am.
not that often tbh, maybe like once every few weeks from a random older lady or cashier people don’t really go out their way unless it’s bold men or drunk girls in bathrooms lol
Never, if I’m being honest.