I would say there is no exact amount. It is best if You match with your partner in how much sex You need. There is nothing wrong with having sex once a year or once a day as long as You both feel comfortable with it.
At least once a week dependant on if it’s with a women her time of the month but if circumstances like mine where i only see her on the weekends and parents are home and such then as long as spending Time together that’s fine too as long as the period isn’t too long for intimacy on a physical level
For me it really depends, I have weeks where (leading op to my mentruation) that I have a very low libido and I barley have sex. But there are weeks that I have 3/4 times a day with the right guy
That depends entirely on the relationship. Some people want it often, some not as often, and some not at all. I think communication is key to make sure you and your partner are on the same page.
this is a big reach but i’m german, and many of these threads remind me of the dr. sommer questions in the old bravo magazine, anyone know what i’m talking about?
I don’t count the days — I count the devotion. If we’re aligned, once can feel like a ritual… and twice like worship.
More is lovely, but meaning is mandatory. 🔥
You need to have no sex in a relationship. So to answer you question: 0 times.
However, you can do it as often as you both want to.
Some couples want to do it no more than 0 times ever. Some want to do it multiple times per day. Others want it somewhere on the line between those two points.
I don’t need to but I would like to. If my partner is unhygienic or if I’m doing all the work I’d rather just rub one out instead and have a lot less cleanup.
As often as it feels natural, but I would say once every 1-2 weeks. There’s always the caveat that me and her are into things that are sexual but not sex, like, penetration (oral, masturbating together, masturbating along while the other watches or encourages, watching poem together, and so on). If we’re doing those sorts of things, then I could go a few months without desiring actual intercourse.
So many low libido people in here. Good for you that it’s not a big deal but that’s never been my experience and doubt it ever will be. It must be nice actually
Once a week. We’ve been together for 14 years. Quality over quantity. There’s been times where there was more (a few times a day), and times where there was less (once a month). Long term relationships of over a decade have an ebb and flow when it comes to sex. There are times when you’re more in love with each other, and times where you’re better friends. Sometimes there’s more sex, sometimes there’s more intimacy. It’s a very normal thing.
Obviously it depends on both partners libido/drive.
I’d say that (even though its a joke) it usually depends on the woman. And/or if you’re married, have kids, or are in general a busy person with work or other activities. Also you and your partners age, religion… etc.
Typically its around 1 – 4 times a month I’d say as a guesstimate for a middle aged couple with a kid or two.
I’m sorry for the rambling. Hope I didn’t bore any of yall!
This has fluctuated over the years. But at 50, I would say my preference would be 5 or 6 times a week. But in reality I think I’m OK with closer to 3 or 4. However, most guys I’ve dated have thought once or twice was fine. 😭
My boyfriend and I used to do it 2-3 times a week but my dad recently died so it’s gone down to maybe once every other week. I’m hoping that once I get through the initial shock/depression of it that I’ll be back to having a higher libido, but it’s just not happening right now
I’m also a person who can’t have any stressors really or I’m completely taken out of the moment, and he’s been making some not-so-great financial decisions lately so that’s contributed to it as well
Ideally every other day or so. Minimally at least once every two weeks or so. If it starts to get into monthly territory without an actual reason, I’ll probably go look for someone else.
2-3 times a week is golden. If we’re busy I could honestly do once a week tbh. I tend to be a giver so sex is a lot of work for me lol. But I get off watching her get off so I think me being ‘selfish’ regarding frequency is fair play.
depends on the phase of my cycle; if i’m in ovulation or luteal phase i’ll say every other day; if i’m in the follicular phase don’t touch me but sometimes i get randy if i don’t get cramps
I don’t feel like I “need” sex. But that’s likely because my relationship with my wife has been incredibly healthy for 14 years. Sexless marriages (relationships) are rarely one person’s fault. What I tell most men in my life who ask me about this I usually tell them the first step to fixing this issue is buying a mirror and evaluating themselves. We often forget that women crave intimacy differently from men. We can’t just show them our ankles and expect them to be ready to rumble the way we are.
honestly i need loads lol like i’m such a touchy-feely girl it’s actually unreal… it just makes me feel proper close to someone y’know? but every couple’s different, some are fine without it all the time, some are like me n need it constantly. as long as you’re both into it and can chat about it, that’s what matters really 💕
Been married 18 years. At one point a few years back it was monthly at best. That wasn’t nearly enough for me so we talked it all out. Now probably 3x a week, which is almost enough lol. But compromises ya know? Incidentally, we’re definitely closer now and more affectionate outside of the bedroom. Overall, 9 outta 10 development
Bro my last partner had medical issues happen that killed our bedroom, i stuck it out for 4 years. I dont think i could do that again. I was starting to resent her, and i didnt like that about myself. My primal brain was like “but she’s better now, why doesnt she want me?” And it was really a “i dont want anyone anymore right now, dont even touch me.” And no matter of therapy, service, acts of love, boundary respect, patience could fix their mentality towards it. And i stayed for a while hoping it would get better. Then one day i realized in like a reddit quote “dont wait around for people that dont want you.” And that was a mixed bag decision for me. Im still healing from it because every relationship before that i was just used for sex, no one wanted to be in a relationship with me. They thought video games and nerd shit sucked. And any girl with those hobbies were taken already that i met. Makes it hard for me to let people in anymore emotionally. But im glad i found myself through that journey.
I used to have a gf who would come super fast, so it was easy to do it twice a day. Now I have a gf that takes so long to climax, it’s quite a workout for me lol. Once a day is what I want but some days I am really tired lol. 3-4 timer per week is enough.
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Depends what said relationship is predicated on.
If ur sexually attracted as much as possible 🤷🏼♀️
If ur not sexually attracted once a month 😂
Me and my grandma only do it a few times a month but we still have a pretty solid relationship.
I think it’s important to have sex at the very least once a week, given this couple values sex.
It’s important for your bond, physical health, mental health. Lack of sex can absolutely lead to “roommate phases”
Now… now… now…
How long is a piece of rope?
There is no set answer for this, it is entirely dependent on that specific relationship.
As long as both people feel content.
I would say there is no exact amount. It is best if You match with your partner in how much sex You need. There is nothing wrong with having sex once a year or once a day as long as You both feel comfortable with it.
35 times a month but for 32 of those it can be by myself
Once a day at least
At least once a week dependant on if it’s with a women her time of the month but if circumstances like mine where i only see her on the weekends and parents are home and such then as long as spending Time together that’s fine too as long as the period isn’t too long for intimacy on a physical level
Very often.
For me it really depends, I have weeks where (leading op to my mentruation) that I have a very low libido and I barley have sex. But there are weeks that I have 3/4 times a day with the right guy
Like 3 to 4 times a week
However many times the people in the relationship mutually decide they’d both like it.
As many times as you both want it
Everyday, twice a day.
Twice a week
Often enough to prevent resentment on one side or the other, that’s the basic.
Beyond that, the intimacy builds and strengthens the whole relationship I believe.
Minimum 4, but sometimes we’ll be really horny and fuck everyday or a few times a day for a few days.
Personally, every day
Everyday.
Once every week or two?
As much as my future partner wants. I have a super high libido, I am always down lol…
Every 3-5 days
3-4x a week. It’s not hard to carve out 40 seconds a day for it
I like at least three times a week and I push for almost every day lol
Until it falls off
That depends entirely on the relationship. Some people want it often, some not as often, and some not at all. I think communication is key to make sure you and your partner are on the same page.
With my barber, never. With my girl, as often as she’s interested.
about 2-3 times a week. Everyday when we’re on holiday tho :))
Mostly daily.
Never
Prefer before bed every night. Need? Twice a week or im questioning things. We dont got kids
Need or get. I need it 2-3 times a week, get it 2-3 times a year maybe.
Long-term, once or twice a week is good enough for me. More than that is great, but once a week is a must to keep a relationship happy if you ask me.
It depends on how much you do personally.
And then find the person that agrees and wants the same.
I would every day if I was able to. At least 3-4 times a week will do for now though.
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Daily
Daily for us! It’s more about the connection though than “finishing”
As much as is required to keep you from cheating.
I want and need sex 2-3 times a week!
Well I’ve had a great friendship since college and never felt the need to fuck any of my friends so I think never is a great answer.
And since OP didn’t specify which relationship I’m terrified to ask how things are going with their parents.
Now that we’re married I can have sex anytime she wants.
Need, 0 … but I’ll still be happy with 1-2 times a day. I enjoy masturbation too, love the convenience of only having to focus on yourself.
I would need a relationship to be constructive…
But if we imagine that I have one, I’d assume it would be several times a day 50% of the time…
A lot
2-3 times per day
who starts all these threads?
this is a big reach but i’m german, and many of these threads remind me of the dr. sommer questions in the old bravo magazine, anyone know what i’m talking about?
Lol man to me I need to have sex everyday
Time no dey
Every other day, if you’re trying for a baby
You guys are in relationships?
I’ll go with ‘what is the most subjective question ever asked, Alex?’ -some Jeopardy contestant
In my case, every day. Otherwise I’m better off single.
Every day or at least every other day so the PP doesn’t get sore cracks.
Need? 0
Want? Also 0
Need? At least once.
Everyday if possible
I have a higher drive than my wife;we go for it about once per week at age 60 after 25 years of marriage. It’s a compromise…
I don’t count the days — I count the devotion. If we’re aligned, once can feel like a ritual… and twice like worship.
More is lovely, but meaning is mandatory. 🔥
It tastes like purple.
You need to have no sex in a relationship. So to answer you question: 0 times.
However, you can do it as often as you both want to.
Some couples want to do it no more than 0 times ever. Some want to do it multiple times per day. Others want it somewhere on the line between those two points.
2x a week
At least once a week? I feel like that’s the bare minimum
Daily, twice on weekends/holidays/special occasions.
A man can dream!
3 times a week or more
I would have sex every day if I could but I have a high libido 🤷♀️
Get to and need to are very different things.
When libidos are not aligned relationships can become somewhat sexless over resentment, lack of effort, lack of intimacy.
I’d prefer twice a week, while my wife prefers twice a month, so we compromise on twice a month.
I don’t need to but I would like to. If my partner is unhygienic or if I’m doing all the work I’d rather just rub one out instead and have a lot less cleanup.
Not as much as this question gets asked on reddit.
For me personally, pretty often. Doesn’t have to be everyday, but for sure most days.
I have a high libido, would love to have it daily, hah.
I wish I could have sex daily or every other day, but it seems like its a couple times a week.
As often as it feels natural, but I would say once every 1-2 weeks. There’s always the caveat that me and her are into things that are sexual but not sex, like, penetration (oral, masturbating together, masturbating along while the other watches or encourages, watching poem together, and so on). If we’re doing those sorts of things, then I could go a few months without desiring actual intercourse.
My wife and I have sex 3-4 times a week. It’s a good number.
Been married for 15 years about 3-4 times a week.
Almost daily
So many low libido people in here. Good for you that it’s not a big deal but that’s never been my experience and doubt it ever will be. It must be nice actually
Whenever he’s in the mood
Once a week. We’ve been together for 14 years. Quality over quantity. There’s been times where there was more (a few times a day), and times where there was less (once a month). Long term relationships of over a decade have an ebb and flow when it comes to sex. There are times when you’re more in love with each other, and times where you’re better friends. Sometimes there’s more sex, sometimes there’s more intimacy. It’s a very normal thing.
At least a few times a week, tho I’d love to do it every day
If it’s up to me a couple times a day, but since it doesn’t work that way it’s up to her. 😂
No quotas or limits. You fuck as much as you both like to.
Need not sure. Want to? About 3-5 times a week.
I never *need* it but it’d be nice at a minimum of once every two weeks for me personally.
Obviously it depends on both partners libido/drive.
I’d say that (even though its a joke) it usually depends on the woman. And/or if you’re married, have kids, or are in general a busy person with work or other activities. Also you and your partners age, religion… etc.
Typically its around 1 – 4 times a month I’d say as a guesstimate for a middle aged couple with a kid or two.
I’m sorry for the rambling. Hope I didn’t bore any of yall!
I told her at lest 3 times a day while we were dating and it haven’t changed
Ideally? A couple of good ones per week.
Minimum once a week.
I am currently below that minimum.
This has fluctuated over the years. But at 50, I would say my preference would be 5 or 6 times a week. But in reality I think I’m OK with closer to 3 or 4. However, most guys I’ve dated have thought once or twice was fine. 😭
Over time I started to patch things up with my father. I would say we now have a really healthy relationship. We’ve never had sex.
My boyfriend and I used to do it 2-3 times a week but my dad recently died so it’s gone down to maybe once every other week. I’m hoping that once I get through the initial shock/depression of it that I’ll be back to having a higher libido, but it’s just not happening right now
I’m also a person who can’t have any stressors really or I’m completely taken out of the moment, and he’s been making some not-so-great financial decisions lately so that’s contributed to it as well
Ideally every other day or so. Minimally at least once every two weeks or so. If it starts to get into monthly territory without an actual reason, I’ll probably go look for someone else.
2-3 times a week is golden. If we’re busy I could honestly do once a week tbh. I tend to be a giver so sex is a lot of work for me lol. But I get off watching her get off so I think me being ‘selfish’ regarding frequency is fair play.
I would have sex every day if I could. My girlfriend is more like a, 0-3 times a year type
depends on the phase of my cycle; if i’m in ovulation or luteal phase i’ll say every other day; if i’m in the follicular phase don’t touch me but sometimes i get randy if i don’t get cramps
All day and all night. And usually people with this answer would never meet that person. I think.
When she dosen’t have a headache… which funny enough its very often after having kids…
Some weeks 4 times, some weeks 2 times, sometimes once a week, you never know, its super personal
I want to do it 2 times a day at least. But my wife’s libido is dead (she’s 26). She just wants to cuddle and kiss.
At least 5-12 times a week.
If not, 2-5 week.
I want it everyday, my wife want it once in two years
That is entirely dependent on the people in the relationship.
I don’t feel like I “need” sex. But that’s likely because my relationship with my wife has been incredibly healthy for 14 years. Sexless marriages (relationships) are rarely one person’s fault. What I tell most men in my life who ask me about this I usually tell them the first step to fixing this issue is buying a mirror and evaluating themselves. We often forget that women crave intimacy differently from men. We can’t just show them our ankles and expect them to be ready to rumble the way we are.
Elevendy times per fortnight.
Whenever she wants.
Whenever the mood strikes.
honestly i need loads lol like i’m such a touchy-feely girl it’s actually unreal… it just makes me feel proper close to someone y’know? but every couple’s different, some are fine without it all the time, some are like me n need it constantly. as long as you’re both into it and can chat about it, that’s what matters really 💕
My wife and I have sex 5-6x/wk.
Honestly every weekend
At least once a week preferably, but I could go less if partner doesn’t want it as much
10 yearly sexual encounters with your partner(or less) is the clinical definition of a sexless relationship…so more than that.
Been married 18 years. At one point a few years back it was monthly at best. That wasn’t nearly enough for me so we talked it all out. Now probably 3x a week, which is almost enough lol. But compromises ya know? Incidentally, we’re definitely closer now and more affectionate outside of the bedroom. Overall, 9 outta 10 development
At least once
Bro my last partner had medical issues happen that killed our bedroom, i stuck it out for 4 years. I dont think i could do that again. I was starting to resent her, and i didnt like that about myself. My primal brain was like “but she’s better now, why doesnt she want me?” And it was really a “i dont want anyone anymore right now, dont even touch me.” And no matter of therapy, service, acts of love, boundary respect, patience could fix their mentality towards it. And i stayed for a while hoping it would get better. Then one day i realized in like a reddit quote “dont wait around for people that dont want you.” And that was a mixed bag decision for me. Im still healing from it because every relationship before that i was just used for sex, no one wanted to be in a relationship with me. They thought video games and nerd shit sucked. And any girl with those hobbies were taken already that i met. Makes it hard for me to let people in anymore emotionally. But im glad i found myself through that journey.
I used to have a gf who would come super fast, so it was easy to do it twice a day. Now I have a gf that takes so long to climax, it’s quite a workout for me lol. Once a day is what I want but some days I am really tired lol. 3-4 timer per week is enough.
If I had the option, 3 – 5 times a week, but then they would need to be sessions longer than 15 to 20 mins with plenty of foreplay for both sides.
Depends. I am pretty much ready every day. The missus once or twice per week
well the average for a married couple last i heard was1x a month, divorce rates are 40-50%
so more than 1x a month wouldnt hurt
There isn’t any obligation or rule for this, it’s all about the mood and the flow of emotions between eachother.
Read the room, pay attention and always be the best man you can for your loved one.
That will help you get the number you are looking for.
It’s whenever we want it for us, rather if it’s 1 day that week or 6 days. It varies.
If in good health, low stress…. everyday.
Otherwise a day or 2 break to heal is ok
Need for myself personally, often. I crave him, i desire him, but i also have an incredibly high libido and made sure i found someone that matches
By the looks of the comments, do women even like their partners?
As much as needed to keep both parties happy.
Varies greatly.
Sometimes it’s a couple of times a day; other times it’s 5-6 times a week.
At 44 years old, it’s nice on occasion but I’d much rather have a great dinner and 8 hours of sleep
My business relationships are anniversary only. Personal relationship are every day that I do not have a business anniversary.
Statistically speaking the average married couple has sex about once a week or more.
At least once a week