My partner comes over my house twice a week. We make or go out to dinner, he spends the night, and leaves around noon the next day. Recently he started staying over three nights. My friend said that’s a lot and asked if we are getting sick of each other. It made me wonder, how much do people see their partners? If you live together, how often did you hang out before you moved-in together? Does it matter?
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If you’re serious about a person, and your goal is a life partner/marriage… you’re eventually going to see that person every day. So, it makes total sense that you’d see them multiple times a week for an increasing amount of time.
When I started dating my spouse, I was working full time and was also in grad school, so twice a week was about all we could handle. By the time we moved in together, we were seeing each other almost daily, anyway.
To me, what you are doing makes total sense. If it feels right to you, I don’t know why a friend would shake you!
Well, my boyfriend and I are long distance so we see each other every few months or so for as long as I can swing. I’m traveling down this week actually and will be there for a while. When we are together, it’s basically 24/7. When we aren’t in person, we do still talk a few times every day and hang out in voice chat on discord most evenings doing our own things.
2-3 nights a week doesn’t sound like a lot. Just sounds like you like each other. Everyone is different though. Some people like more me-time, others like to have a companion the majority of the time. It’s whatever works for you two and is healthy for you both. Your friend probably has their own preferences and needs, but doesn’t understand that everyone is different.
How long has it been?
I do casual mainly, but I like a consistent casual partner. Usually its once a week and occasionally twice a week.
Right now I’m seeing someone and it was once a week, but last week it was twice and I have a feeling we will see each other twice a week. I do spend the night at his now. Tomorrow will be our 6th meet up and I think (no set plan yet) we will be seeing each other Friday.
I may also drunk text him Wednesday lol
Even when my husband and I were a new couple we spent most days together.
The only opinions on this that matter are yours and your partner’s. How long have you and your partner been together? How serious is the relationship? Do YOU feel like the time together is too much? Unless you’re rushing things or have concerns about it then don’t worry about it. A better question is why is your friend giving an unsolicited opinion on how your relationship works?
I see my partner most (but not all) weekends fri-sun because that’s the only time we can spend together due to our schedules and distance. We’ve been together over two years and if we could spend more time together we would.
My boyfriend and I live about 45 minutes apart and we both have pretty busy careers so we sleep over once a week but meet up for lunch during the week once or twice.
Well, we’re both introverts and need our space and don’t live terribly close to each other so this might be slightly skewed. We take turns each weekend going over to the other’s place. There’s usually one weekend a month where we do something separately. So, three times a month on average, and then when we are together, it’s for about an entire day (afternoon through mid-morning the next day).
I think as long as you are seeing each other for the amount of time that works for both of you, it’s totally fine. Two or three times a week would be a lot for me since it doesn’t align with our work schedules either, but I don’t think it’s too much if it doesn’t interfere with your life and you enjoy them there. I think your friend might just need more personal space from their partner than you do, haha.
I met my husband at work… so we pretty much saw each other at least 5days/week… We’d lunch together, maybe had dinner every 2-4 times after work, I’d probably go to his 2-3times/week, and gymmed together 3 times a week.
Usually would meet/stay over for the weekend when we were official as well.
We saw each other a lot… lol. Definitely more than now (not working/gymming together anymore, but live together).
2-3 nights doesn’t sound like a lot to me and this is coming from a person who was married for a decade btw…..
If you’re in a serious relationship with someone who lives near you, the goal should be to spend as much time together as you can. How else will you know compatability?
Your friend is jealous. It’s 3 nights a week out of 7. Whatever works for you, works for you. You’re allowed to see your boyfriend every single day if you wanted to. Don’t let other people make decisions about YOUR relationship.
Current bf first week was twice.
Second week 3x
Been 3-4x a week since, usually 4
We can easily spend hours together, spend the night, do it again the next day and not get tired of each other. And this is from someone who usually wants her own space and needs time from ‘people-ing’
I’m a believer that everyone’s timeline is different. What works for your friends isn’t what’s right for you and your partner.
we see each other both weekend days. he takes a bus, a train, and another bus to get here and again to go back to his place. he visits for about 7 hours too.
currently, im temporarily in a housing situation in which i can’t leave the grounds or have overnight guests. soon ill be able to see him more (✿◠‿◠)
I’m currently wrapping up grad school so I meet my boyfriend once a week. We usually talk on the phone every other day and play video games when I’m not too busy. We have met twice a week here and there. When I graduate, we agreed to meet twice a week until I get a new job.
Almost every day, we met in January and it’s been p nonstop ever since. He also lives 2 blocks away so that makes it easy.
One mid weekday and on the weekend usually. Sometimes one or the other will stay over.