How often does you significant other get you flowers? How do you feel about it?
How often does you significant other get you flowers? How do you feel about it?
r/AskWomen
How often does you significant other get you flowers? How do you feel about it?
Comments
Never. He’s got me one plant in a pot because I like live plants and it smelled good. I loved it the first day then I didn’t really like it anymore because I’m pregnant and dealing with nausea all the time so the smell was too much. 🥲 but I kept it because he wanted me to smell something nice. I just clipped all the flowers off because “they were wilting”
Never and I’m okay with that! One of the cats would likely knock them over or eat them anyways. Lol
Valentine’s Day and our anniversary. It’s sweet
Very rarely. It’s been a few years for sure. I feel fine about it. My love language isn’t gifts or things like that, so it works just fine without flowers!
We agreed on biweekly.
I have a beautiful garden filled with roses, peonies, lilacs, dahlias and others during summer. So none during summers he and the boys just pluck them when we are watering the garden and we make a bouquet.
Being a mother of two boys I have asked / demanded my husband to get me flowers biweekly and my kiddos take turns to give them to me. We are creating next generation of flower gifter men!!
Makes me immensely happy I divide them in two vases and take one to my office where I work from home and see them often during the day.
The other case stays in my kitchen and I keep commenting on how beautiful it is so my kiddos find joy in small things and stop to smell the flowers while cooking and eating. Small pleasures in life for most happiness!!
Only a few times, like hes gotten the flowers delivered to the house. Other than that, no, as i like to create a bouquet myself and cheaper. Jewel Osco had the 3/$15 flowers and i like to build it myself. I also dont have flowers alot anyway as surprisingly the smell of real flowers doesn’t smell the best in the house.
Never. I wish he did sometimes.
Every V-Day, birthday and Mother’s Day. It makes me feel valued and considered. It’s a thoughtful gift of almost always roses. Roses aren’t necessarily my favorite, but I acknowledge that it’s the act that is a thoughtful gesture.
I also buy myself flowers (the kind I like) whenever I like.
ETA my relationship stats: Married 15 years, together close to 20 years. In our 50s (me early, him mid).
Boyfriends never I had to beg. Random men I went on dates with bought roses on the first date plenty of times 😂
Never. But he grows me many things in our garden and cooks me dinner most nights, so I think that’s a reasonable trade off!
I love flowers and my husband has been bringing me bouquets since we were dating. He was known as Mr. Flowers at my work place back then. We’ve been married 34 years and I still get flowers almost every Sunday.
They can do that?
It’s adorable; he adds them to the shopping list. So I buy them. HOWEVER, every single time I am out of town for more than a day, I come home to fresh flowers and freshly washed towels. Every single time. Also, every holiday. And the add to the grocery list is ‘flowers for xxxx’ (me). That’s what almost 31 years of marriage looks like in my world.
Frequently, pretty much any time we shop for groceries together at a place that sells flowers he asks if I want to pick some out.
It feels romantic and cozy
Maybe once or twice a month. I’m fine with it. We’re semi long distance so it’s a nice gesture.
For anniversary/ birthday. Maybe 2-3 times a year randomly or if I’m having a tough day. My favorite is the random times. Just a sweet way he shows that he’s thinking of me. He knows I love flowers.
Last week I had a really hard day emotionally and had been texting him that I needed to decompress and chill with him that night and just hold the dog. I got home and he had a beautiful bouquet of flowers and Milano cookies for me on the counter. He did the grocery shopping and took me out to dinner so we didn’t have to cook. Just took everything off my shoulders. I’m really lucky to have him.
always, like once every week or 2 weeks –
Ive never been with someone like this and after years on years of toxic partners I truly appreciate and love him as he does me. we’ve been together 8 years now.
He does randomly a few times a year, usually if he’s picking me up from the airport or does a grocery store run. Usually just the $5 grocery store ones. It’s super sweet and I love the shit outta it.
My hubs and I both agree that flowers are a waste of money… I don’t ask for them or expect them. But he also knows I love tulips and he will occasionally come home from the store with a bunch of them for no reason. They’re all the more special because he got them randomly and I love it when it happens! (Even if they are still a waste of money!)
Never.
He knows that flowers or veg to plant is the way to my soul.
Or not being a bother at the farmer’s market while I browse.
Cut flowers are a waste.
Let me putter in the garden.
Probably a handful of times a year and just for special occasions. Mother’s day, valentine’s day, birthday, etc. I don’t mind because I’ve never cared for flowers (I prefer something I can eat lol) so I find it sweet and I appreciate it when it happens.
He gets me them for special occasions but I literally always find a way to kill then within a few days.
Every Sunday. I love it.
He never gets me real ones, because I get very emotionally attached to things and am devastated when plants inevitably die (especially because I suck at keeping them alive). But he does occasionally get artificial ones.
He used to get them for me frequently but the cat started getting too comfortable parkouring to where we put the vase (out of his normal reach) to feast upon the bouquets lmao after the third or fourth time of him spilling water everywhere and puking up petals, we decided that we won’t keep flowers in the house anymore.
Rarely because I’m not a flower woman. He will bring home things like chocolate or snacks instead that he knows I love. I’m rather spoiled actually.
My x-husband usually for my birthday, anniversary, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, and just because it’s Tuesday.
My new guy so far Valentine’s Day and one random Sunday while he went grocery shopping.
Monthly and it’s always a nice surprise 💛
On special occasions (birthdays, female specific holidays, anniversaries), then there are the occasional “just because” times.
So I’d say he probably gets me flowers 6 times per year. I might pick up some flowers just for fun for myself in the in-between time.
valanetines day and mothers day. it’s enough
Pretty frequently but it’s always random. I got sick recently and he brought a care box with medicine and food and flowers to my work and I fell even harder. But we both get them for each other often.
Never.
Because he knows I don’t like them – I get indie horror games as small gift.
I bring him flowers sometimes because he on the other hand does like them.
Never and I’m okay with that. But only because I explained to him that I can’t smell flowers. A) I have a serious pollen allergy and B) they just smell like grass to me and is quite frustrating when people rave about the smell of a flower and I can’t smell anything but grass.
Ha ha. Once in a blue moon. If that 🙂 and on valentines.
It doesn’t bother me that much because he’s a good guy and makes up for it in other ways (helps with housekeeping etc)
But I think if he gets you a bunch once in a blue moon but it’s a nice florist bunch then lovely. But if it’s a ten-dollary number maybe not so much.
Once or twice a month. He always replaces the flowers by my workstation when he notices the old ones are wilted or gone.
At first I thought it was silly and a little bit much, but now I enjoy having the seasonal colors and something pretty to look at while I’m WFH. They’re just grocery store bouquets so nothing fancy, and I even pick them out sometimes 🙂
Never but I’ve told him not too. He does bring me a snack every time he goes to a store. He makes sure my car has gas, air, oil and on time tune ups. He builds pens for every random critter I bring home. He makes sure I have tea in the fridge. He parks with the passenger side door closer to the house if he knows I’m going with him.
He does so many things just because he wants to but flowers never.
Oh wait! He brought me a tiny purple flower from the yard a few weeks ago, but store bought, never.
Probably 10 years ago. Been married 21
He used to in the beginning but I asked him not to. I don’t want to see flowers slowly dying.
Never, it’s just not my thing. I hate seeing them die slowly in a vase and I don’t want him to feel like I need to be regularly getting gifts like that.
We do get stuff for each other pretty regularly; but it’s things like food and weed. Never flowers though.
Never because I specifically told him I did not want him to do that, and I feel very positively about him listening to my preference over a stereotype about What Women Want. However judging from how often he randomly brings me other non-flower small gifts (chocolate, trip souvenir keychains, a cool rock he found,,) I assume that if I had a different preference he would probably get me flowers all the time, so in the broader sense I also feel positively about how he is very much doing the underlying good partnership behavior that unprompted romantic gifts of flowers are cultural metonymy for, you know?
Very rarely on his own. The last time we went grocery shopping I got a dozen roses. I usually look in the clerance section first. My flowers have lasted 3 days snd I will keep doing this. I love the little things when he does them and I show my gratitude.
Not often, maybe 2 times a year but he smuggles cinnamon candies to me past my son all the time. Lol
I love flowers 💐 from my husband 😍 He buys them sporadically and on my birthday, Mother’s day, Valentines day etc. However I’ve already told him to never buy them full price. Please don’t waste $40 on a bouquet just because its Valentines day. He buys them the day after when they’re cheap!!! Sometimes I buy them myself too.
Not currently in a relationship but I’ve never had somebody get me flowers outside of one Valentine’s Day “just because” and I honestly think I’d cry if somebody ever did without me hinting ahead of time or asking.
Every 6-8 weeks. I actually think it’s something that matters more to him than to me. He loves picking out a bouquet with our daughter. I love it mainly because of the example it’s setting for her.
5 or 6 times a year and I love when he gets them because it’s always a surprise and always just a random day that he’ll show up with roses, or daisies, or cornflowers. They aren’t ever elaborate arrangements, just flowers he thinks are pretty that he thinks I’ll like. Almost always they’re from the grocery store so just a few bucks.
It’s not about the cost, it’s that he sees them and wants to share something pretty with his best friend/wife. I’ll do something similar if I’m at the thrift store and I see some golf balls or a tee shirt with his fav sports team on it. Just a little thing that I think he’ll like. We just threw out one of those shirts over his protest bc it had holes and was covered in paint. Similarly the flowers I keep until they are obviously past their prime.
I don’t think, or at least for us, it has to do with what it is as much as we want to make the other person happy.
I don’t really like cut flowers (I’ve told him this many times ) otherwise he would… i take my cute acts of appreciation/affection by way of sushi or coffee 😝
2 – 3 times a year, and I feel great about it!
Never. I am okay with it I guess. I would like it once in a while though. Cheapest ones would do too lol.
I love flowers but I’ve never had a romantic partner buy me flowers. I buy my own at least once a month, especially if none of my plants are in bloom .
Though I did have a lovely experience at the grocery store once . I was buying some flowers with my groceries and the man waiting in line behind me bought my flowers for me . He said, ” a lady shouldn’t have to buy her own flowers ”
Valentine’s Day and sometimes other days. I buy myself flowers almost bi weekly because I love them. Also started planting a ton so no buying necessary
I’m not big on them but I appreciate them once or twice a month just the thought that counts. I prefer jewelry and artisanal chocolates..
Never. I hate flowers and prefer plants because they live. He doesn’t get me plants either lol.
He never does, no matter how many times I gave him the hint. I still feel loved every day, though!
Every few months or sometimes twice in one week, it’s pretty random and unpredictable, which I love, and he gets them sent to my office sometimes
I think once…
About four or five times a year, usually for romantic holidays/occasions but not always. I’m always pleased and I feel like it’s the right amount.
He’s a sweetheart. I could tell him I wanted ten times as many flowers and I think I would get them. I prefer the other ways he shows his love.
Never, but we have 2 cats who love to eat them so I really don’t want any! About once a month when we are at the store together and walk by the flower aisle he will grab a bouquet and give it to me and give me a kiss, then put it back since we know we can’t bring them home
Almost never, I prefer it and he understands it. I’d much rather him get me my favorite snack, or even a houseplant.
Once, 10 years ago, for our first Valentine’s Day.
Now, he’ll randomly surprise me with a thoughtful gift. Big or small, there is no set idea/price. Just something he saw and thought of me or might solve something I’m working on.
Never. I’d appreciate them if it ever happens, but idk what I’d do with them honestly. My bf has gotten me other kids of thoughtful gifts on occasion. Mostly related to hobbies that we can do together. Hiking shoes, controller for gaming, most recently roller skates ❤️🥺
Once or twice a year, he’s super allergic to pollen though so he snores more the first few nights…they’re pretty but not worth it more than a couple times a year. 😅
Not often lol. We’ve been together 17 years & he’s done so like twice. I don’t think he even knows my favorites lol
Have a cat, so we don’t want flowers in our home. It’s great!
I personally don’t like flower bouquets. And I literally told him not to waste money on it. We are more than fine and okay with it.
me and my girl exchange flowers every anniversary (monthly) and special occasions like bdays, celebrating an accomplishment etc.
about monthly! but really he started doing it once he found out I loved it. communication helps a lot~~
My husband has a job that sometimes requires him to travel. He gets them before each time he goes out of town, sometimes randomly, and then birthday, Valentines, and anniversary.
I love flowers and he knows that so it works for us.
He’s never gotten me flowers. I love flowers and would love for him to get me some but he does other lovely things for me and treats me very well. I’m not upset he hasn’t gotten me flowers.
Birthday, valentines, anniversaries, and when he feels he should.
I’m big on flowers… so I’m always happy to receive them.
I can’t remember the last time. But boy, oh, boy does all the other shit he does for me make me zero fucks about flowers. Right now he’s building me a wall AND fixing a staircase for me. That is way better and hotter than flowers.
Almost always for special occasions, like Valentines day and birthdays. Otherwise it’s kinda a spontaneous thing that happens probably around every other month or so, I like to get him flowers too. Occasionally he’ll want to bring home flowers but the ones at the store don’t look great so he gets me a chocolate rose instead. His favorite flowers are sunflowers and we both like carnations because they are vibrant, budget friendly, and last a long time.
Not often, but that’s fine. I don’t need or expect him to. His company and time is more than enough.
I don’t need him to shower me with material things.
It’s not an issue to me.
He picks random times to give me flowers. It’s hard for him to surprise me because of our work schedules/responsibilities so he tries to sneak them into the house when he can. I usually get random flowers a few times a year.
Rarely, if ever. Personally I think flowers are a waste of money. I wouldn’t tell him that because I don’t want to discourage him when he probably spent a short while on it, but it’s so unnecessary.
Never, because i wouldn’t like it tho. I don’t like cut flowers 🙈
But I bring him flowers every other month, because it makes him happy 😊
Never bc I think they are a waste and I’m allergic lol I’d rather that money go towards other things!
Minimum once a month sometimes twice a week
It’s an extremely rare thing for him to get me flowers. I’ve had 2 bunches in 16 years. But those 2 times made me feel so loved. That probably sounds really pathetic but it is what it is. I absolutely beamed with happiness on those occasions.
We’ve only been together half a year but twice so far. Not for any special occasions- the first time he said he wanted to make me happy and the second time that the flowers made him think of me as he walked by so he decided to get some for me!
Every month. I’ve never been a flower girl but he never missed the opportunity to bring some lovely bouquets my way. I’m appreciative
Once a week and they are incredibly beautiful.
Almost every time I come to stay with my partner, we spend a week together and I have a week with my kids after.
He loves giving flowers and I love receiving them. I don’t care if plucked or bought, it’s just that the thought and the effort was there feels great.
My ex never gave me flowers, ever. Not even on my birthday. And yes, he knew I love receiving them.
My husband gets me flowers randomly, around once a month. Honestly it’s not necessary but at the same time, it’s been ongoing for so long I would think something’s wrong if he stopped 😂
I hate flowers. During covid I had four people close to me die. People were always sending flowers. No it’s just a constant reminder. I also don’t really think it’s the best use of money and i’m really against anything with unnecessary plastic. I met my now husband during covid. Often on valentine’s day he would get me a rose with all the plastic that cost way too much and died instantly. I eventually let him know how I felt.
never
Never. I’m not a flower gal.
My boyfriend gets me flowers like twice a year, always on my birthday and some other random time. But… I strangely don’t like it? Like I see it on IG and I love it when it happens for other girls, but when he gets me flowers…. Idk im so mean because inside i feel cringe maybe??? (I don’t let him know because I think it is a sweet gesture from him but idk haha somebody feels this?)
Rarely, but it’s because I said early on in the relationship that I’m not fond of the bouquets, and if he did give me flowers, even in small quantities, I’d probably keep them all. I love keepsakes from our relationship. I still have the rose he had delivered to me when we were still dating 7 years ago.
Never and feeling perfectly happy
Maybe a couple to a few times a year? It’s a nice gesture but our cats end up chewing on them and making a mess so I can’t even enjoy them. I’d rather a fake flower so I can build up a cute bouquet over the years or something
I love flowers. He used to bring some home every month practically. Now just a couple times a year— usually my birthday.
At least a few times a month. Sometimes weekly. Sometimes it could even be a solitary flower that he picked for me. I love when he picks one for me when we’re walking down the street or brings one home. I love the bouquets and even the flowering plants. Before him I wasn’t nuts about flowers as a gift for say birthday or Mother’s Day, always thought they were more special for the just because but I had no idea just how much more it means. I love that about him. I love him.
Never. Totally fine with it because he knows they’re not my thing. He’ll get me food or something with my favourite animal on it. Food more often, usually favourite animal stuff after I’ve healed or gotten better from some malady.
It’s cute when he does it and it’s always when I least expect it
I’m not huge on flowers. Don’t think gifts are my love language. So I can’t remember the last time plus they cost so much.
Once a month and I love it! I don’t think I could ever get tired of the feeling
At least once a month, he brings me flowers, and I find it sweet that he does it.
During the growing season, he will buy me potted flowers (mini roses, lilies, and other spring blooming bulbs) that I can plant in my garden bed, where I drink my morning beverage every morning from spring to fall. When the oriental lilies are in bloom, my whole yard smells heavenly, and I am especially reminded of his thoughtful gifts to me.
I’m shit at taking care of flowers so I’ll usually put them in a wine glass filled with water because I’m too lazy and too broke to buy a vase, and then they’ll die in like two hours. I’m not a very good tulip parent. I love the thought though
Never really.
We have cats and one of them is an real asshole, plus I don’t really have a vase. He is also not that kind of person. Though I wish he would come with anything now and then(I’m ok with if it’s only my birthday and Christmas) , just something little extra. My favourite chocolate bar would be more than enough to make me happy!
My husband hates buying flowers as they are extremely expensive here and don’t last very long. Instead he buys me potted plants for the special occasions since they last longer. Some of the plants he has gifted me have lasted years which is nice.
Hardly ever. It does make me sad but gift giving isn’t their love language.
He doesn’t, I don’t like watching them due and throwing them away. So one year he had the great idea to get me dried flowers for my birthday and I adore them.
I have bought him flowers a couple times, though, just because his reaction was so cute
He never has. Just not that kind of guy.
To be fair, we have a cat that will stop at nothing to eat flowers and plants. We can’t have them in our house at all.
All the time. Loves to buy and casually pick flowers for me. Pisces man is a dream for this Pisces woman
Only once…on our wedding day. 😂 guess he’s not much of a flower person.
26 years, he’s never done it once!!! Lol
Once in a blue moon. I actually don’t like getting them at all and so the 3 times he’s gotten me any, it’s like okay thanks but I also told you I don’t care for them… so I just said thanks. First time, I was having a really rough week with my car so he got me them and it was just really sweet. 2nd time, we hadn’t been getting along well for about a day and he came home with them since I had gotten a vase (that wasn’t going to be for flowers), and final time he included a rose with my valentines ask. I appreciate them regardless but I am not a fan as I have a bee allergy and prefer to stay farrrrr away from flowers. I also hate how they’ll die shortly after since ya know, they were cut.
But he does know what I prefer to receive instead of them and he’s gotten me that plenty as a just because or to cheer me up/ make up after an argument so he’s not dumb at all 🥰
[removed]
[removed]
Not my thing personally. For a long time I felt like I should want my husband to get me flowers because that=thinking about me, right? but then I just realized I feel sad as i watch them die (for me).
Almost never because I don’t like them. I fail to see what is romantic about being gifted something that you then put in a vase of water and watch them die. How depressing. He has bought me rose bushes which I enjoy every summer.
Never 🤣
Once a year. He knows I love flowers. Always the same day, when we first met. No big words, just a quiet smile and my favorite blooms. Simple but it means everything.
Whenever he fancies. Or he has been left alone too long and gone shopping.
I feel loved & not forgotten.
At least once a month, usually when the red wave is upon me, and I love it. It’s an incredibly sweet gesture.
Once every 2 months or so.
I’m thrilled he thinks of me and cares to bring me something to make me smile.
Sporadically. Last bouquet was 8 years ago, give or take. I used to get them on our anniversary. Now I have to buy my own. I really love reading all the responses here, sounds lovely.
I felt each time depressed if a guy or anyone else bought me flowers for whatever reason. No living organism should suffer for anyone’s ego, for commercial reasons, or any other. So I try to communicate my wish, but many people didn’t respected that and bought me anyway some what put me in a lot of distress each time.
I tried to care for this poor plants as good as I could just to see them slowly fade.
I’ve never gotten flowers in my current 8 almost 9 year relationship.
Probably like 2-3x a year – my birthday, Valentines Day, just because he felt like it. Tbh, I don’t care about getting flowers though, I appreciate when he does get them, but I am terrible at keeping flowers and they’re too much work to keep up with. We have a weekly date night where we go out to eat, I prefer that over flowers and he knows that.
I do for a holiday but that’s about it. I’m not bothered by it though because flowers don’t last too long anyways
LMFAO! I can’t even remember the last time a man bought me flowers. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Once or twice in 5 years. We talked about it, he doesn’t like to buy flowers that have been cut off to give them to me so they will be dead in a few days. instead he gave me two beautiful plants that I have had for a few years and still enjoy and we have a garden together with beautiful flowers 🙂 on the other hand flowers are often imported and I don’t like that
From a florist, never. From the wild, when in season. I love it.
My husband will usually bring me flowers about once a month. I love it. When it’s not flowers, it’ll be my favorite chocolate or something he knows i like or have been wanting. I absolutely love it, it reminds me that he’s always thinking about me.
Never in 10 years but the first two were great. Guess he figured flowers are small and new electronics or furniture is better? I’d still love to get flowers from him.
He never has and never will – he buys me cheese and wine instead. We have two cats that would eat the flowers and I would never want to risk poisoning them for the sake of flowers! But he knows I appreciate coming home to a little treat so he will buy me wine and cheese. It makes me feel very loved
Maybe once a year. He’s never been very giving in that sense though. My kids would joke that our roles are reversed because I tend to get him flowers at least every other month. I’m don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. I’d rather we wake up early and go get coffee, which we do often. He knows I like him driving me around and drinking our coffee, talking about nothing and everything.