45, no, but I look around and recognize I’m better off than at least 90% of men so I’m just beating myself up unnecessarily. Then again, that internal criticism is probably why I’ve done so well, so maybe I should keep it.
Pushing 40 and no, not even a little bit. At this point I’m confident that I’m never going to be happy, and I stopped looking for ways to be happy a long time ago. Not everyone makes it in life, just how it goes.
40, I’m complacent. For a while I thought I was content, but really that was just me deceiving myself. There are parts of my life that I’m very happy with, but also a lot of things that I need to change.
30, single mom of two kids, and finalizing my divorce at the end of this month. Happy? Nah. However, it’ll get better once this month is over. I’m remaining optimistic.
Constantly outrunning the overwhelming feeling of being a failure/loser. Constantly convincing myself the next accomplishment will come with satisfaction. Never has.
Im 29 right now. Life hit rock bottom when I was 25. It’s gotten much, much better now. But it can get better, and im actively working on making it better.
Not really happy, no. Not really sure happiness is real. If it’s just the absence of bad things actively happening, then I don’t qualify that as happiness.
Good enough life. Job pays well, savings, girlfriend. I am currently in one of the most unhappy periods of my life. Hard to explain, burned out, motivation gone, don’t get pleasure from stuff I like, not much interest in things in general.
Im in therapy and take adhd meds but those only do so much. Some weeks are better than others. I have had a consistent baseline of depression for over a decade. But the current anhedonia/apathy is at an all time high.
If you’d have asked me two years ago, I’d have told you my life was shit and going nowhere, if I could be bothered to stop people-pleasing. I was heading towards suicidal ideations.
I got myself some free peer-to-peer mental health support and spent the time between encounters working on me and my situation incrementally.
Now, I’m 61. Although my life isn’t a riot of self actualisation yet, I’m not only very happy but I see optimistic and realisable scope for growth and development.
Mid 40s. My life is pretty dang good at the moment. There are always difficulties but I think we’ve made it past the most difficult ones so far. Kids are doing pretty okay so far too.
Granted my parents and in-laws are aging and that presents the next set of pain and fear.
But I have two boys that make life worth living. So, I keep waking up, going to work, and grinding towards a better tomorrow. Or at least, that’s the plan. Seems the goal posts just keep moving, though.
Have found out that health starts declining at this age, women hit menopause, and that if you haven’t made it in your career at this stage that you are in a constant battle. Bratty, back-stabbing, younger than me shitty humans manage me, I’m unhealthier than I wanna be, and sex has become fantasy. F@$&!
But I’m happy. Because f@#$& all of that, I want to be happy. I have awesome children that bring me joy, I can still self-pleasure, and I have a pug. Fuck yeah mang.
And I love laughing and people, they make my world go round. And I have the best mom in the world. Gotta count your blessings too.
I was doing great. Bought a huge house a year ago, wife, son, good paying job. But now currently going through a divorce so happiness wouldn’t be the word to describe my life right now.
I’m 26, I went through a lot, parents passing, bad breakups, pregnancy scares and miscarriages, jail, anger, grief, a serious mental breakdown… I’m not where I want to be, I have a long way to go, I dreamed of having a degree by this point, publishing my writing, doing something I love full time, but all that being said. I just got a new gf, I am a lot healthier and have cleaned up my storied past, made ammends, worked on myself, my job isn’t the worst in the world and I’m doing things now. I don’t want to jynx it, but I think I’ve climbed out of the rubble and made good on myself, it’s onward and upward, and that’s good. I’m not the happiest I’ve ever been, but I don’t feel like I need to chase that, I can be content, i can find fulfillment, I can continue growing and maybe one day ill look back and say “that was good”
Late 30s very happy hit all of the I guess traditional life milestones minus the kids but also that’s part of the happiness.
Personal goals on track and evolving, gym, hobbies, friends.
All going good… for now.. 😉
The depressed me in his 20s would be glad to know all the struggle paid off…for now…
Tomorrow is lurking though and it is always uncertain.
Turned 35 last week and yes, im happy. I went through hell for 6 or so years in my 20s and it’s given me gratitude that I made it out alive.
I try to keep that perspective, but as time goes on, it gets hard to stay appreciative sometimes. But I’m beyond happy with how my life turned out thus far.
Now I’m just wondering what the next adventure is since I just closed on a house this year. What now?
Life is good but man, it gets tiring at times. I hate how adulting basically means losing touch with people you were so incredibly close to, simply because priorities change. And i also hate how my encounters with people are only gonna worsen from college to work.
47 and absolutely not. Its about now when you realize you’ve been working 30 years of your life and still have a decade and a half to go and it sucks every ounce of life out of you every day
Yes, I’m very happy. I’ve made mistakes. I’ve had dark times. I have regretted. But I live in the moment as much as possible and I’ve started surrounding myself with as many positive people as I can. It works!
7 year old daughter and 1 year old son. With my wife for 15 years. Found out she was having an affair. Now separated and raising my kids alone. I’m dead inside.
I am 30. My life is far from perfect but I am happy which is an improvement from a couple of years ago. Ironically enough I didn’t even change much just realized I was fixated on what I didn’t have rather than appreciating the good things in my life. Granted since I started feeling good about life I have started eating healthy and working out so that is an improvement. Turns out that when you are depressed you don’t really care about taking care of yourself. Once you are haply you want to take care of yourself so you can continue to enjoy life.
42 male and getting there. Working through some breakup emotions and getting to know myself better and better. I started some therapy to help with that and just going to therapy was a huge step for me. I need to learn to set boundaries and not be afraid of losing people.
I have a lovely daughter and a nice and well paying job. I started to work out more which helps too.
I turn 37 in a couple of days, and no I am not at all happy with my life. It’s ok for the most part, but I have had some major responsibilities thrust at me that is testing my limits and endurance.
I wake up incredibly stressed some days, I find myself in irascible moods more commonly, my patience with people is pretty much nonexistent. I swear, the saving grace of my life is that I keep to myself for the most part, and the principle people in my life are amazing.
Nothing lasts forever, and these burdens/responsibilities will come to an end soon enough. I do know that after this phase of life passes, I will go buy myself a nice home in the great plains of America and live out a quiet existence.
I’m 39. I’m healthy. I have good mental fortitude. I like my job. I’m really grateful and enjoy the little things. No one in my life is suffering horribly. I think it’s okay.
I just graduated and I am going to start working and living in the “adult world”. I feel like I had a stolen childhood early on in childhood and had to face depression all throughout my highschool years.
It’s only now that I feel “alright “. But after everything that I went though and how behind I feel, it’s really hard for me to just suddenly”man-up” and start doing things all on my own.
Currently as of writing, I am not happy and I am just exhausted with everything.
42M. I’m content, nor extremely happy but I’m fine. My social life has been completely empty for years (no wife, children or friends),but everything else is great. I guess you can’t have everything in life
I’m 31 going on 32. I’ve been unemployed since April since I moved across the US from WI to ID with my partner and our cat. I’ve been trying to find a job, and it’s made me depressed because I can’t find work. Though I recently got engaged, so I guess a little happiness has come my way.
Things can be a lot worse(only know cause they have been), but I have issues I can’t seem to rectify. On top of the fact that my marriage isn’t where I want it to be and I’m not sure it can get to that point. I also can’t seem to actively work on these issues. I feel paralyzed until shit blows up in my face. THEN I react. Kind of frustrating, but whatever.
I just discovered I might be autistic a week ago, so there’s that. I had a conversation a week ago, and all you smart people can grill me on it I really don’t care. I was speaking to a fellow divorced man. He said something in regards to intimate relationships that I agreed with: “Some people chase happiness. Happiness doesn’t exist because happiness is based on external circumstances”. Ei, the pursuit of happiness. The conclusion I came to is this: Joy is how you take life and decide what you will do with it. You can focus on all the negatives, what you don’t have, what your weak areas are, the lack of love in your life, or whatever. Or, you can be thankful for what you do have.
I went through a divorce a year and a half ago, got into two car wrecks, found out I have a large benign tumor and after a high risk surgery I may be incontinent for the rest of my life. Or I can let it grow and become cancerous.
I’m thankful I can walk and enjoy my life now. It’s not all bright and fun but there’s plenty to enjoy when your life might expire soon.
25, most days I’m happy but I get the random shocks of “holy shit in aging and I’m nothing at all in life. Will I be one of those homeless old people omfg will I ever be married and have kids omg”
21, I’m not happy but things are looking hopeful in the next year. About to graduate with a bachelors debt free, just have a $4,000 hurdle left to jump, my car is only $3,000 away from being paid off as well.
My problems are that I hate my job but I need it to pay for college, I am in an unfavorable living situation, and I don’t exactly know what I’m gonna do with my business degree but I don’t want to have wasted the last 3.5 years of my life and $16,000 (sunk cost and all that). But once all my problems are solved, then maybe I can be happy.
Happy with many aspects of my life but deeply unhappy in others.
I didn’t go to uni and bummed around in my 20s.
Eventually I decided to do something with my life and managed to weasel my way into an unbearably successful career. Currently earning 10times more than I could have ever imagined was possible. And more than anyone in my extended working class family has ever dreamed of earning.
Nice house and car. Good country living.
Spent much of my 20s and 30s overweight and unfit. Recently lost 45lb and got muscle. Feeling great.
But I chose the wrong woman to settle with. Every day is a battle.
Idk man just wanna kms and guess what even after multiple attempts I alive and kicking… it’s a freaking curse I’m telling yall someone make assisted s—cide legal here so that the survival rate is zero for sure atleast!
I’m 31, some days I feel content with how far I’ve come, but other days I question if I’m where I should be. Still figuring things out, but trying to stay grateful.
I’m in my 20’s & Nope. Life is overwhelming with no luck & many disappointments. I have been a good guy all my life . I dedicated so much of time to studies by sacrificing everything & the end results aren’t fruitful like my parents & lecturers told me & promised me.
57, and I’m good. Work for a great company, have an amazing wife, my daughter is out of home and happily married, my son is at university. My hobbies are going well, and my health and fitness are not bad.
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I’m 64 and no, not at all. I am the architect of my own demise.
37, im alright.
45, no, but I look around and recognize I’m better off than at least 90% of men so I’m just beating myself up unnecessarily. Then again, that internal criticism is probably why I’ve done so well, so maybe I should keep it.
34 – absolutely not!
Pushing 40 and no, not even a little bit. At this point I’m confident that I’m never going to be happy, and I stopped looking for ways to be happy a long time ago. Not everyone makes it in life, just how it goes.
34. Yeah, I’m doing fine. Wife, kid, house, decent job. I have gripes like everybody else, but this is about what I’ve always wanted from life.
40, I’m complacent. For a while I thought I was content, but really that was just me deceiving myself. There are parts of my life that I’m very happy with, but also a lot of things that I need to change.
43m…some aspects yes, some aspects no
I’m 30. My life is so-so. I’ve got ulcers but I’ve also got kittens. Etc. etc.
34 and I’m happy. I’m healthy and don’t hate my job everyday.
44M I should be happy, on paper. But I am not somehow.
30, single mom of two kids, and finalizing my divorce at the end of this month. Happy? Nah. However, it’ll get better once this month is over. I’m remaining optimistic.
I’m early 30’s.
I’m not where I want to be but I’m not where I was either, and I’m proud of that.
Hate it, wish it ends this seconds
Im 29 right now. Life hit rock bottom when I was 25. It’s gotten much, much better now. But it can get better, and im actively working on making it better.
For the nazar, 🧿🧿🧿
27, feeling kinda lost but im working on finding my way
Im not unhappy though
Im in therapy and take adhd meds but those only do so much. Some weeks are better than others. I have had a consistent baseline of depression for over a decade. But the current anhedonia/apathy is at an all time high.
If you’d have asked me two years ago, I’d have told you my life was shit and going nowhere, if I could be bothered to stop people-pleasing. I was heading towards suicidal ideations.
I got myself some free peer-to-peer mental health support and spent the time between encounters working on me and my situation incrementally.
Now, I’m 61. Although my life isn’t a riot of self actualisation yet, I’m not only very happy but I see optimistic and realisable scope for growth and development.
Im 22, and honestly yeah I am
Got a great woman at my side, a job that I’m happy with and pays good, cut out all the toxic bs with certain family members.
So definitely im happy
56 and yes.
Honestly, never thought I’d live past 21-22. So I kinda feel it’s all on borrowed time.
(PS, don’t tell my amazing wife)
Mid 40s. My life is pretty dang good at the moment. There are always difficulties but I think we’ve made it past the most difficult ones so far. Kids are doing pretty okay so far too.
Granted my parents and in-laws are aging and that presents the next set of pain and fear.
But I have two boys that make life worth living. So, I keep waking up, going to work, and grinding towards a better tomorrow. Or at least, that’s the plan. Seems the goal posts just keep moving, though.
32, and every day after 5/14/2010, I’ve wondered something. Wondered: how tf is this still happening?
60/M Not much happiness the first 40 years of my life, but the last 15 have been much better….despite the fascist bullshit going on here in the USA.
I made so many mistakes over the years, have many health issues, and may be too old to do what I thought I’d do decades ago.
25, single, i make shit money and can barely live paycheck to paycheck. I don’t believe i’ll ever afford a house.
32 is pretty good! I feel like self actualizing kicks in and it helps if you have life partner/best friend with you! 30s are pretty dope so far.
37, not really. But I’m trying to do better. Just… Don’t really know what to do.
But I’m happy. Because f@#$& all of that, I want to be happy. I have awesome children that bring me joy, I can still self-pleasure, and I have a pug. Fuck yeah mang.
And I love laughing and people, they make my world go round. And I have the best mom in the world. Gotta count your blessings too.
I don’t typically chase happiness, but whenever happiness finds me I embrace it.
I would however say that I am very content and satisfied with how my life has played out so far.
My only real regret is that so many of my childhood friends and mentors aren’t here to share in my success.
Sometimes I go back to old ghetto to explore our old haunts, or I’ll visit them at the places where their ashes were scattered.
I try not to dwell too much in the past, gotta keep moving forwards, lots to see and do, I’m not done yet.
24M and no. Bipolar with no access to healthcare which means no meds
Bipolar and no meds is not fun
Im 46 retired and generally, yeah. Happiness ebbs and flows like I assume it does for everyone. But overall yeah.
Life is complex and funny. It’s soo beautiful and at the same time so…bland.
35, fucking miserable. I’m really just sticking around for GTA VI. After I’ve had my fun with that, if things haven’t changed, we’ll see.
66, my life has never been any better- I would never want to go back and relive one second of it over now.
30
It could be better. But it could also be worse.
I’m happy at this moment. I wasn’t happy before. I don’t know if I’ll be happy tomorrow.
In many ways, that is enough.
Just got back from three months in NZ and Australia which was amazing.
We own a house by the beach so we are here for the summer, hanging out and swimming every day.
I have a solid core group of friends as well as a lot of other people I am close to.
I am fit and healthy. No issues there at all. I can’t think of how things could be better.
I’m 26, I went through a lot, parents passing, bad breakups, pregnancy scares and miscarriages, jail, anger, grief, a serious mental breakdown… I’m not where I want to be, I have a long way to go, I dreamed of having a degree by this point, publishing my writing, doing something I love full time, but all that being said. I just got a new gf, I am a lot healthier and have cleaned up my storied past, made ammends, worked on myself, my job isn’t the worst in the world and I’m doing things now. I don’t want to jynx it, but I think I’ve climbed out of the rubble and made good on myself, it’s onward and upward, and that’s good. I’m not the happiest I’ve ever been, but I don’t feel like I need to chase that, I can be content, i can find fulfillment, I can continue growing and maybe one day ill look back and say “that was good”
Kinda just bored with the human experience overall. I can’t believe I potentially have 40ish more years of this.
Late 30s very happy hit all of the I guess traditional life milestones minus the kids but also that’s part of the happiness.
Personal goals on track and evolving, gym, hobbies, friends.
All going good… for now.. 😉
The depressed me in his 20s would be glad to know all the struggle paid off…for now…
Tomorrow is lurking though and it is always uncertain.
22, life is great, I feel immortal, however, I’m tired all the time. There’s so much I want to do but I never have enough energy
Turned 35 last week and yes, im happy. I went through hell for 6 or so years in my 20s and it’s given me gratitude that I made it out alive.
I try to keep that perspective, but as time goes on, it gets hard to stay appreciative sometimes. But I’m beyond happy with how my life turned out thus far.
Now I’m just wondering what the next adventure is since I just closed on a house this year. What now?
37, 38 in December. I’m fucking miserable. I don’t want to be here any longer, but I have pets who rely on me.
56 and sorta .. great kids, great job, terrible romantic life..
Late 30’s. Healthy, no kids, no parents, no wife.
I’m pretty fuckin happy. Wake up and go to sleep with a smile on my face
29 and I fantasise about dying everyday.
I have cancer and emphysema and it will be my cowards way out in time.
I could stop smoking and live longer but what’s the point.
Mid 40s
Yes, I’ve made good decisions, have a great wife and a nice family.
47 and absolutely not. Its about now when you realize you’ve been working 30 years of your life and still have a decade and a half to go and it sucks every ounce of life out of you every day
I’m 30 and it’s okay. I have no career but I’ll figure that out eventually.
24 and not really but I’m making radical changes so hopefully it works out.
38M, I’d be happier if I ate a bullet. ☠️
36, and hell no.
32, and I’d say as far as inner peace goes im content. I have my off days for sure but I am much more stable than myself.
I’m 28. Just had a crazy comeback in CFB 25 and I’m over the moon about it
Meh
late 20’s. I’m at the “mum would be sad” stage.
I’m 72 and generally happy. No mortgage, decent pension, lovely wife, loads of grandchildren and we still do loads of travelling.
I am 30. My life is far from perfect but I am happy which is an improvement from a couple of years ago. Ironically enough I didn’t even change much just realized I was fixated on what I didn’t have rather than appreciating the good things in my life. Granted since I started feeling good about life I have started eating healthy and working out so that is an improvement. Turns out that when you are depressed you don’t really care about taking care of yourself. Once you are haply you want to take care of yourself so you can continue to enjoy life.
42 male and getting there. Working through some breakup emotions and getting to know myself better and better. I started some therapy to help with that and just going to therapy was a huge step for me. I need to learn to set boundaries and not be afraid of losing people.
I have a lovely daughter and a nice and well paying job. I started to work out more which helps too.
I’d say 60/40 happy.
31 and yeah I’m pretty happy. Married house 2 cats first kid on the way(wildly scared) pretty decent job life is going better than I thought it would
18, I wish I did more
I turn 37 in a couple of days, and no I am not at all happy with my life. It’s ok for the most part, but I have had some major responsibilities thrust at me that is testing my limits and endurance.
I wake up incredibly stressed some days, I find myself in irascible moods more commonly, my patience with people is pretty much nonexistent. I swear, the saving grace of my life is that I keep to myself for the most part, and the principle people in my life are amazing.
Nothing lasts forever, and these burdens/responsibilities will come to an end soon enough. I do know that after this phase of life passes, I will go buy myself a nice home in the great plains of America and live out a quiet existence.
No I hate my life
28 satisfied
Career, living with girlfriend, financially stable, good credit, cute cat, hobbies, friends can’t ask for more
I’m 39. I’m healthy. I have good mental fortitude. I like my job. I’m really grateful and enjoy the little things. No one in my life is suffering horribly. I think it’s okay.
I’m not unhappy.
But I’m not happy either.
I’m kinda just cruising along. Going with the flow.
It’s only now that I feel “alright “. But after everything that I went though and how behind I feel, it’s really hard for me to just suddenly”man-up” and start doing things all on my own.
Currently as of writing, I am not happy and I am just exhausted with everything.
42M. I’m content, nor extremely happy but I’m fine. My social life has been completely empty for years (no wife, children or friends),but everything else is great. I guess you can’t have everything in life
I rather die actually
I’m 31 going on 32. I’ve been unemployed since April since I moved across the US from WI to ID with my partner and our cat. I’ve been trying to find a job, and it’s made me depressed because I can’t find work. Though I recently got engaged, so I guess a little happiness has come my way.
32, and ehh?
Things can be a lot worse(only know cause they have been), but I have issues I can’t seem to rectify. On top of the fact that my marriage isn’t where I want it to be and I’m not sure it can get to that point. I also can’t seem to actively work on these issues. I feel paralyzed until shit blows up in my face. THEN I react. Kind of frustrating, but whatever.
31, I have a star-crossed lovers type of relationship with my box cutter lmao
I just discovered I might be autistic a week ago, so there’s that. I had a conversation a week ago, and all you smart people can grill me on it I really don’t care. I was speaking to a fellow divorced man. He said something in regards to intimate relationships that I agreed with: “Some people chase happiness. Happiness doesn’t exist because happiness is based on external circumstances”. Ei, the pursuit of happiness. The conclusion I came to is this: Joy is how you take life and decide what you will do with it. You can focus on all the negatives, what you don’t have, what your weak areas are, the lack of love in your life, or whatever. Or, you can be thankful for what you do have.
I went through a divorce a year and a half ago, got into two car wrecks, found out I have a large benign tumor and after a high risk surgery I may be incontinent for the rest of my life. Or I can let it grow and become cancerous.
I’m thankful I can walk and enjoy my life now. It’s not all bright and fun but there’s plenty to enjoy when your life might expire soon.
25, most days I’m happy but I get the random shocks of “holy shit in aging and I’m nothing at all in life. Will I be one of those homeless old people omfg will I ever be married and have kids omg”
21, I’m not happy but things are looking hopeful in the next year. About to graduate with a bachelors debt free, just have a $4,000 hurdle left to jump, my car is only $3,000 away from being paid off as well.
My problems are that I hate my job but I need it to pay for college, I am in an unfavorable living situation, and I don’t exactly know what I’m gonna do with my business degree but I don’t want to have wasted the last 3.5 years of my life and $16,000 (sunk cost and all that). But once all my problems are solved, then maybe I can be happy.
Mid thirties. 6/10.
yeah lifes pretty damn good
30 and I’m fucking miserable
Not so much. I am 40 and 3 years ago I moved to another country and I am regretting it a bit
32 and peaking over the last couple of years, so feeling like it keeps getting better!
Happy with many aspects of my life but deeply unhappy in others.
I didn’t go to uni and bummed around in my 20s.
Eventually I decided to do something with my life and managed to weasel my way into an unbearably successful career. Currently earning 10times more than I could have ever imagined was possible. And more than anyone in my extended working class family has ever dreamed of earning.
Nice house and car. Good country living.
Spent much of my 20s and 30s overweight and unfit. Recently lost 45lb and got muscle. Feeling great.
But I chose the wrong woman to settle with. Every day is a battle.
28, and uhh… No.
Well that depends on how the next 2 weeks shake out lol
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34, happy with the direction of some things but not others.
Idk man just wanna kms and guess what even after multiple attempts I alive and kicking… it’s a freaking curse I’m telling yall someone make assisted s—cide legal here so that the survival rate is zero for sure atleast!
I’m 31, some days I feel content with how far I’ve come, but other days I question if I’m where I should be. Still figuring things out, but trying to stay grateful.
20 and no I wish I could just suicide but i don’t want to hurt my mom
Happiness is subjective. You are only as happy as you make yourself.
Money brings security and nice things. Not always happiness.
True happiness is being content with a little and being grateful for what you do have.
In a world where people think you can’t be happy without money – be the change.
I’m in my 20’s & Nope. Life is overwhelming with no luck & many disappointments. I have been a good guy all my life . I dedicated so much of time to studies by sacrificing everything & the end results aren’t fruitful like my parents & lecturers told me & promised me.
I don’t know why I’m even born.
Not that happy. Single. Trying to lose weight. Been doing a lot of self reflecting as well. Going for my bachelors. Constantly thinking and…alone.
48 years and loving life
57, and I’m good. Work for a great company, have an amazing wife, my daughter is out of home and happily married, my son is at university. My hobbies are going well, and my health and fitness are not bad.