How old were you when you lost your virginity?

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I feel like I’ve never been able to ask someone this because I lost mine young and it’s not fair to ask and not answer yourself. So what age did you lose yours? To who?

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  1. Elisterre Avatar

    19 to my first girlfriend

    if you don’t count horny explorations with a male friend when I was about 13

  2. Regular_Durian_1750 Avatar
    1. I’m a woman btw. Kinda regret it tbh. Should have done it sooner, it really wasn’t as big a deal as I thought.
  3. ficskala Avatar

    Depends what you classify as losing virginity, if it’s just any sexual experience, then 15, if it’s specifically PiV, then 18

  4. CurrentRisk Avatar

    I’m 28 but well, I’ll tell you when it happens.

  5. IceKareemy Avatar

    22, college party, was such a hopeless romantic thinking it would be this magical experience.

    Instead it’s with some girl who’s name I routinely forget and it was a horrible experience that made me literally question my sexually for like two hears till I had really good sex and was like oh yeah I’m straight that was awesome 😂

  6. iOawe Avatar

    21 to my boyfriend (now fiance) 

  7. literarytrash Avatar

    14, female here

  8. ScarcityBrave2035 Avatar

    14 to my 15 year old girlfriend. Was the coolest guy at the bonfire after that.

  9. GreenWoodDragon Avatar

    When I was 20, to a woman 29 years older than me.

  10. Nikyht Avatar

    First time with a man I was 21, first time with a woman I was 31

  11. CruelTasteOfLust Avatar

    15, and about 35 years later he married me

  12. AccomplishedRow6685 Avatar
    1. My girlfriend was 21 at the time. Now I’m 39, and she’s my wife.
  13. Zenai10 Avatar

    23/24 I don’t remember. That was also the first time I did anything more than kissing

  14. p0tatoontherun Avatar

    I was 22, to the guy I was dating at the time. It wasn’t a big deal at all. And he was very bad at sex so I was completely underwhelmed.

  15. _HOBI_ Avatar

    14, but I was egged on to do it by the guy (a childhood acquaintance that I wasn’t remotely interested in). He would not take no for answer and kept pestering me and I gave in when I didn’t want to. Definitely wish I’d been braver to stand my ground and say no.

  16. icedcoffeeheadass Avatar

    18, first week of community college. Tried all summer to lose it before starting CC. Had ok sex in the back of a mini van in a parking lot in the middle of the night. Neither of us came, classic.

  17. demuro1 Avatar

    I was 8. There was a girl my age in an apartment complex I lived in and she initiated. I never thought girls were “icky” or whatever phase boys go through. I have always been physically attracted to girls but at 8 I didn’t know what that feeling meant. Then this girl I liked more than the other girls took me to a secluded spot and initiated.

  18. PaddyP0207 Avatar

    I was 16, with my girlfriend at the time, literally outside in broad daylight by a library.

    Interesting times

  19. wheelcent Avatar

    41 years. It was cool to finally experience it. It wasn’t as mindblowingly great as younger me had expected it to be, but I had tempered my expectations since, so I wasn’t disappointed or anything. I had a good time.

  20. MrTeeWrecks Avatar

    I was assaulted repeatedly from age 9-12 by my neighbor and her daughter.

    Personally, I do not count that. 15 would be the true answer to me.

    Don’t worry though she died of a brain aneurysm & the daughter returned to prison at age 22 (unrelated charges) and has been there since.

  21. famousanonamos Avatar

    Full sex, 15, almost 16. I had boyfriend who was a little older and also a virgin and figured it was a good opportunity for both of us since there was nothing to compare it too. I do wish I’d waited though instead of just trying to get it over with, especially since he went and told everyone we worked with. First sexual experience I was 14. 

  22. DeaddyRuxpin Avatar

    18 to a friend who wanted to cheer me up after my sister died. I didn’t feel the need to point out I hated my sister and was not upset she died.

  23. clod_firebreather Avatar
    1. I was so worried I would never lose it, and when I did, I realised it wasn’t a big deal.
  24. nivekreclems Avatar

    We were both 13 it was on her 13th birthday it probably lasted all of 30 seconds but it was the best thing that had ever happened to me at that point admittedly looking back now we were probably too young but it felt right at the time we had been “dating” for 2 years or so

  25. Momoreau Avatar

    31, certified late bloomer. I had chances before, but I am glad I waited. Still with the person.

  26. moto626 Avatar

    22 on my wedding night. It was more difficult than I thought.

  27. Insomniac_ThatDraws Avatar

    People saying they regret waiting, like damn bitch you chose to wait? I’m just not getting none.

  28. Jaguar_556 Avatar

    My 17th birthday lol. My girlfriend gave me one hell of a present that night.

  29. letschat66 Avatar

    I was 15 and it was with a long-term boyfriend. I wish it was with someone else though.

  30. ForceRoamer Avatar
    1. I look back fondly
  31. REidson89 Avatar

    15, nearly 16, which is the age of consent here. To my first boyfriend I’d been with since 14. I felt I’d really waited, horny horny teens and all that.

  32. Stray_God_Yato Avatar

    20 to the girl of my dreams i wouldve regretted doing it sooner

  33. CoyoteMother666 Avatar

    14; raped by my homecoming date.

  34. SeveralConcert Avatar
    1. To my then boyfriend (both gay and both virgins). He was 19.
      It was awkward and sweet and we were very much in love.
  35. languagelover17 Avatar

    I was 23 and I don’t regret a thing (30F now).

  36. corndog2021 Avatar

    7-ish, had a sleepover friend and we got curious, which resulted in us having sleepovers more frequently.

  37. cheshirekim0626 Avatar

    Truthfully? I was 10 and lost it to my 16 year old cousin. But I don’t count that. I chose to lose my virginity for my 17th birthday with my high school boyfriend.

  38. quadruple_b Avatar

    I’ll let you know when I do. I’m 20 atm tho.

  39. StrandedTwist213 Avatar

    22, last year of college. I’m glad I waited and it was to a girl I went to school with. I didn’t actually know her until the year before.

  40. nicaddic2002 Avatar

    15 to my 16 year old girlfriend, who this fall will be my wife <3

  41. MisterPuffyNipples Avatar

    I’m still a virgin

    I’m 33

    Just going to get a hooker at this point 😅

  42. That_one_attractive Avatar

    25, and we just got married last weekend!

  43. Any_Individual4272 Avatar
    1. My bf at the time was 17. I was pressured to do it because he said things like, “If you really love me, you’d do this.”🙄
  44. Grebnaws Avatar

    15m with a 15f. Totally consensual. There wasn’t much pressure from either side but I would say she was probably more eager than I was. She had some aggressive tomboy tendencies. As I’m told, after graduation she joined the Army and went on to ahem serve her country in many ways.

  45. BonFemmes Avatar

    I was a HS freshmen. He was a senior, buff and gorgeous. Waiting for someone special never occurred to me. I’m glad I got it over with and learned my way around before I got involved with relationships.

  46. StockBoy829 Avatar

    25

    I’ll just say the actual act of it isn’t a big deal. What makes it a “big deal” is how much of your self esteem can be poured into wanting to feel attractive and lovable. For a long time I felt like I couldn’t be either of those things, but I met my person and it’s great

  47. arswiss Avatar

    26 to my first and still current bf. I’m glad I waited. No one before him deserved it

  48. ShaggyLlamaRage Avatar

    12, and she was 14, we both had parental issues.

  49. kstaxx Avatar

    I was 20 and I felt so behind. I wasn’t behind and, frankly, could have waited longer for someone who was a kinder person. I don’t regret what happened but if I went back with the knowledge I have now, I’d make different choices.

  50. Cirqka Avatar

    12 or 13. I can’t remember. It really skewed my view on love = sex from an early age. It took years to undo that connection.

  51. No-Fault1530 Avatar

    16 to my best friend who I had a crush on, we had sex twice in a week and both times I realized I was not attracted to her or into the sex at all, which was kind of a shock. It took me a while to finish bc of that so she enjoyed herself but I instantly realized that sex and the big buildup in your head can be very different, best to just get it over with with someone you trust and have a good connection with it doesn’t need to be true love, marriage or destiny.

  52. azzgrash13 Avatar
    1. On my wedding night.
  53. Kanojononeko Avatar

    I was 18 because I was convinced I’d be unlucky and get pregnant and didn’t want to involve my parents if I had to deal with it.

    Now I’m 47 and I’ve still never been pregnant 🙂‍↕️

  54. karimpai Avatar

    Idk still counting

  55. TheStubbornIntrovert Avatar

    30M loser here… Haven’t interacted with girls due to my ugly face. Not sure what future holds

  56. Exarkuns Avatar

    M40 here. I technically lost it when I was much younger (age 8), but I do not count that due to the circumstances. I haven’t had consensual sex in my life, so I still consider myself to be a virgin. Also, I am not really seeking/wanting to, if that matters.

  57. hotfiremixtape98 Avatar

    Freshman in highschool. Walking home after 6th period pe with 2 friends. Matt and Maya let’s say. Well once we got to Maya’s house, we all hung out till she legitimately kicked out Matthew and jump on me. While we were kicking it we were all eating Takis, and she also popped some butter scotch candy In her mouth before kissing me. Wild fucking flavor, and not a fan of it. Also put me off eating out for like 4 years. Happy I’m over that now.

  58. Next_Advertising873 Avatar

    27! Waited for the right guy, got cheated on by this sad excuse for a guy for 2 years, said “fuck it” and decided to try something casual for a change, gave my virginity to this certain casual someone, theeen married him 2 years later hehe

    Everything worked out for me anddd guess I really waited for the right guy to give myself to

  59. secretvictorian Avatar

    17 with my first long term boyfriend.

  60. dearmrsoup Avatar

    13… dont recommend.

  61. Sun_Mother Avatar

    I was 18. Lost it to my BF (of 3 months) and he was so respectful of my feelings and comfort. He was not a virgin at the time. Now we are 32 and married.

  62. MsTerious1 Avatar

    Vaginally? 14, date rape.

    Other ways? Younger. Incest.

  63. _grim_reaper Avatar

    Lost? I never lose.

  64. Squishmallowgirl92 Avatar

    I was 15, my mom wouldn’t put me on birth control because “she didn’t want to condone that” and my dad secretly got me the pill because he didn’t want grand kids that early and I was dating 😂

  65. vegetaloki Avatar

    18 y/o to my then 26 y/o boyfriend. Funny enough he was a virgin too. We’re happily eloped now, both finished college, now planning our honeymoon/wedding/first home/ first new car 🥰

  66. wantstolearnhowto Avatar

    Never happened. Will never happen.

    I used to think this was a good thing but nowadays I regret closing myself off from love and sex.

  67. karsizzle Avatar

    17, to my then boyfriend. Honestly a solid age to lose it. Any younger and I would’ve felt weird, and as I got older I would’ve started stressing out about not losing it lol

  68. HamletHarkins Avatar

    The day before my 24th birthday. Our mutual friend group was out at the bars together, as 3 of us had birthdays within a week of each other in June. I went home with a guy with which I’ve had an on-again off-again situationship lol. But we decided to stay friends after (separate story) – not super close friends though, we would just hang out in our friend group. I mostly did it because I always found him attractive, he made me feel safe, and I really wanted to FINALLY see what the deal was after quite some time DIY-ing it LOL. It was definitely not some kind of magical experience or whatever, but I felt cared for and ready for when I meet someone I’m really really into.

  69. AutomaticCupcake33 Avatar
    1. I thought I was behind at the time! Yikes.
  70. slarti98 Avatar

    Both 18. I’d known her since 11. uIfortunately we’re still married 42 years later !

  71. LackTails Avatar

    Haven’t yet, I want to get to 30, so I unlock wizard powers!

  72. Naxeti Avatar

    I never lose 😎