My Stepdaughter just turned 10 today. I’m 38M & I’ve been in this girls life & helped raised her for over 6 years, now. I look at her as my own & she accepts & see’s me as her Daddy. Her biological Father passed away when she was 4.
My fiance had a recent discussion with her about boys. Anyway, getting to the point – we take her phone from her every night at 830pm. I already think its inappropriate for her to have an iPhone at 10, with minimal restriction. I unlocked her phone and saw she has been texting a boy.
There are “I love you” & “I love you more” messages. They are swapping pics….and I saw a video that HE sent of her (that she apparently sent him) lip-syncing a song by Doja Cat called “Wine Pon You”. I about lost my shit but my fiance doesnt see an issue & apparently Im overreacting.
Look up the lyrics to this song. NO. I understand she’s getting to an age of curiosity about boys but there has to be boundaries. My parenting style is not about being their friend. However, I am aware it’s a different day and age so I understand these things are hard to navigate due to technology. IMO she’s too young to even have a whole iPhone, unrestricted, and texting boys. They’re exposed to too much, too fast, too early – and this song, and video of herself, sent to some boy at school is proof of that.
My fiance frequently undermines my parenting & its really starting to make me feel some type of way. Thanks in advance!