Hi
I’m a 20 Y/O female, and I want to move out for university so that I can finally get the freedom I’ve always wanted for a while now.
My parents are from the Middle East and have adopted their own norms of how I should behave and live my life, especially my mom.
I don’t even have space to place my belongings and I also come from a low-income household where I would probably be getting little to no financial support from them.
As well, I then start feeling guilty if I don’t listen to my mom, and I just hate having to people-please her. I want a better life for myself, and for a while, I’ve always felt the need to people please. I don’t want to be controlled anymore, especially about my whereabouts and clothing’s I want to buy that would be deemed as to short to her.
How should I go about saving money so that I can move out? I come from a place where rent is expensive. Thank you in advance 🙂
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Are you allowed to work? Do your parents pay for your schooling and if you move out would that end?
Assuming you can work, I’d save up for at least a year. I’m assuming most of your money could be saved instead of spent. Make sure to have your own bank account and that your parents don’t co-sign. Don’t give them any legal leeway to access that money.
Look for roommates. Sometimes random roommates suck, other times you gain new friends.
Do you have a job or some sort of income? That will give you a possibility to save up some money.
Do you have a person to share a house with for in the beginning?
Is it possible to get a job and tell your parents that you are doing some extra “school” activities? So you can save the money.
I obviously don’t know how the rules are in your country because you said you come from middle east but I hope you can have the future that you want.