This guy from my high school is like a superhero or something—aces his studies (going to the same top college as me, which is my only claim to fame), good at sports, has girlfriend even after breakup he made new one, stays cool, always confident, manages his time like he’s got a secret time machine, he can make friends anywhere. Honestly, sometimes I can’t help but feel a little jealous of this guy lol.
How some Men are good at everything and very focused ?
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Some are just born like that
Stop focusing on others and focus on yourself, he’s focused on himself and not others.
Some people just have that charm and have a good hand dealt to them but there is always something behind closed doors that you don’t know about.
My Valedictorian in HS was a jock type, great at sports, smart, confident, and got all the girls. Turns out that he also liked to fuck dogs because he got arrested for that and had a history of doing so that his parents hid.
There’s always something people do wrong whether it’s minor or major.
I’m gonna tell you a secret. Work on you…. If you’re good with you… Everything in life seems easier.
Took me years to start caring about my physical health but it makes a difference all around
Physical and emotional exercise is needed to be complete
Thats what you see, you can’t know what is going on in his head.
He seems to just put in the work regardless of anything. Even those that look to be cool and collected at all times don’t necessarily are inside. They just understand that you can’t choose how to feel, but you can choose how you act
The magic formula for life is:
effort + consistency + time = improvement
He just applies that formula to everything.
He probably has “it”. Or you could just be seeing someone at their peak.
First of all, high school is not real life. There are people who seem like that when they are young and then burn out and crash out. Also he may be screaming internally. You never know.
Not to get too dark but there was someone I knew who seemed very similar to your friend and ended up committing suicide in his thirties. From the outside he had it all, was unstoppable, but inside he was facing a very difficult struggle and nobody knew.
Secondly, it takes all types. My brother is very type A. Very outgoing, makes friends everywhere he goes. All the women flirt with him. Married to a wonderful wife and has wonderful kids. Successful in his career. Is always busy doing things, going on vacations, starting new businesses, extra curricular activities with the kids. Busy busy busy.
But damn dude he like cannot turn it off. When I have gone on vacations with him it’s too much. Itineraries and schedules and all that. Rush rush rush. Do do do. Looks great in the vacation photo album but is stressful as fuck. I don’t go on joint family trips with him anymore cause it stresses me TF out.
I am the exact opposite. I am relaxed and more easy going. I don’t mind being alone or wasting a day here and there. When I’m on vacations I just relax and see where the wind blows.
We are both very successful in our careers and our lives. We are both very good Dads to our kids. We just do it in different ways. I love my brother. We are very close. He has some things I don’t have. Sometimes I wish I was as outgoing and social as him. But I have things that he doesn’t as well. I am very thoughtful and creative. I read lots of books. I enjoy art museums. That shit bores tf out of my brother. But those things give me joy and meaning. I don’t think my brother is capable of just sitting and watching a sunset. And he struggles to understand people who enjoy that. And like he’s never going to sit down and read philosophy or classic literature and think about the world deeply. There are certain things that he just can’t do. He’s not dumb. He’s extremely intelligent. But he looks at the world differently than someone who spends a lot of time quietly thinking.
And we need people who do quiet thinking as well. Some of the most important people in history were this way. We need people like Turing and Einstein to quietly and thoughtfully explore our knowledge.
We also need people like my brother. We need the Teddy Roosevelts and the Augustus Caesars.
It takes all kinds.
I think the real problem is that our society values the type A personalities far more these days. Everything is hustle culture and do do do. But being quiet and slow is important too. We need everyone.
And that’s my thoughts on that.
Most people are as deeply troubled as the average person
>has girlfriend even after breakup he made new one
If your excelling in every other part of your life this shit just happens so ignore this bit.
>he can make friends anywhere
Is a natural consequence of
>stays cool, always confident
>aces his studies
And
>good at sports
Are both a result of
>manages his time like he’s got a secret time machine
he achieves those because he is doing it for himself, and he is only in a competition with himself not others, like you are, firstly you gotta stop the jealousy and start acting.
be in a competition with yourself from yesterday try to get better step by step and don’t compare yourself to others, cause I believe he does not do that.
how do you want to get better at all those other things when you’re too busy riding his dick
Happens when you don’t mind your business long enough.