Hi 26F here, 100% confident I will be single for life, because of several reasons. I’m currently trying to get used to it and would like to get some advice: What do you live for that has nothing todo with love or children? How did you accept being single forever and what motivates you in life? I’m really struggling to find sense in all this and all answers are appreciated.
How to accept and be happy with a loveless life?
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I’m also single and 27. I fill my life with hobbies like hiking and art. Finding joy in small things helps. Have you tried exploring new interests?
Can I ask why you’re so sure you’ll be single for life?
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OP – Would you be so kind as to help me to understand what “because of several reasons” means for your chosen singleness? Then I can offer some thoughts. Thanks.
You need to find out why people of the opposite gender are not attracted to you.
It could be physical and you need to lose weight. It could be personality or character issues. Maybe ask some friends of the opposite sex if you have any
Once you start loving yourself, enjoying your own space, enjoy doing your hobbies, going out with friends and family you’ll definitely see someone who will love you genuinely.
Feeling this hnrd rn, OP. Listen, I ain’t no guru, but IMHO I reckon being single ain’t a life sentence. It’s a chance to explore YOU, y’know? Get on good terms with yourself, chase after your dreams, ideas, n’ hobbies. Shit, you could even rescue a dog and find a new bff to chug beers with. Love, relationships n’ all that jazz, they’re just a slice of the whole life pizza. You’re the whole damn pie. Idk, maybe I’m just talking outta my ass, but tryna find the point of life without love or children seems like a trap. Life ain’t gotta be about one thing or another. It’s about what YOU make it. So, embrace the freedom and make it something sick 🤘.
Hate to be the downer. I’m your age (26f) married and have a kid… my life is still pretty loveless in the people aspect😂 Love from other people isn’t everything. Find something you’re passionate about that lights your heart on fire! For me, it was dogs and dog training. I’ve built a strong career and business on it! In other areas where my life isn’t so great, my passion for dogs and training gets me motivated. It’s been the most rewarding and fulfilling thing in my life.
Do not rely on people to be your fulfillment and joy. You’ll often be let down.
Military, dedicating yourself to something so much larger than yourself might set you free of your self hate
what kept me going when i felt that way was my friends & my cat
my best friend does stand-up and i started going to more of her shows to support her. i adopted a cat (well, more like he adopted me) and he became my world. i started spending more time with other friends too. took myself on solo dates to the beach, the art museum, local coffee shops, the movies. i learned to feel comfortable doing things on my own. i felt insecure as f*ck at first but i got more comfortable & confident the more i did those things.
after a couple years like this, i eventually found someone & we’re due to be married soon, so- not all hope is lost, OP! just take some time to learn to live & love yourself 💜
I’m in the same boat too (30F). I stopped waiting for love and started building a life I actually enjoy being in, books, solo travel, painting, weird hobbies, and friendships that feel like soulmates. I still get lonely sometimes, but the freedom is priceless tbh