18M
tomorrow i go to Spain for a week,this is my first real vacation without my parents or family members,there is only me and 2 other friends of mine,and I want to have fun at clubs and of course with girls.
but ive never had a GF or i never approched a girl in my life,i know it is kinda sad lol, but since i will be there alone i really want to have fun and maybe have some other kind of fun after clubbing
so im asking you how i can make this happen sucessfully without making a fool of my self
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Your mindset is sad but kind of expected. It’s absolutely not sad that you didn’t have a girlfriend at 18. Men bullshit on this topic as much as they bullshit on their dick size. I’d tell you not to worry about it but you will as we all did. I just hope you have good role models.
I cannot give you any specific advice except for don’t be needy and try to have fun & be confident.
Picking up girls requires confidence and experience, especially if you’re looking for casual hookups. This takes time. If you’re looking for something more honest, there are more important factors like being yourself and honesty.
Anyway you’re probably going to suck but I’d try with low expectations and not making everything about girls. Go be young and have fun & be smart.
Don’t.
Honestly don’t take my advice, I’m too timid and need to be tipsy to come out of my shell. Confidence is the name of the game and you can’t be scared of rejection. Compliment them, use your environment to get conversations going, don’t overstay your welcome. If it starts getting dry, thank them for their time, ask for a number maybe, and be on your way. It’s only going to be weird if you think it’s weird or you make it weird.
Just try to make eye contact and smile. If she smiles back, approach.
Confidently. Honestly ngl, I’ve had the best luck walking up to a girl, introducing myself, and asking if I could buy them a drink. No pickup lines or cheesy shit. Just be confident.
Remember one thing, a bad sex is not better than “no sex”.
Your energy speaks louder than whatever approach, keep your goal to have fun and good time, not to hook up, enjoy ur own self and ur company, everything else will follow.
Never push to do it, the more you push the less attractive ur energy is.
Hookers.
It’s Spain, if you’re halfway decent looking and having fun the girls will hit on you. Don’t worry too much about it, just do your thing and it’ll happen naturally.
Drop your calculator out of your pocket protector in front of them then bend over and pick it up and say oh excuse me
Honestly just focus on having fun and you’d be surprised the girls that’ll come up to you. If you notice women lingering in your general vicinity or bumbling into you, don’t be afraid to playful tease them about it. Basically if there’s a women near you making repeated eye contact and smiling then she wants you to approach. If women weren’t interested at all they wouldn’t even be in your vicinity, let alone checking you out and smiling whenever they get caught. You got this brah, just go out smile, dance, and have fun. That’s the only way to get girls. Who wants to be with someone who isn’t already enjoying themselves?
You was at the club
Just walk up to them and introduce yourself. Do you speak Spanish? That might be an issue if you don’t. But either way just play the tourist card. In the club ask if they want to dance. Outside the club ask them for recommendations around the city. Don’t overthink it. Don’t expect sex. Just enjoy the engagement.
Don’t be afraid of rejection. If you have a feeling a girl might be giving you some attention then go and try to make conversation. Worst case she just leaves with her friends and you continue on with your night.
Don’t worry about girls , just one ur own business and enjoy yourself on the dance floor they come up to u.
Edit: JUST DONT BE AFRESK RESPET THEM
Don’t.
Run towards them, scream to assert dominance. Then start your mating call. Good luck.
Don’t!
Don’t ruin your holiday by thinking about whether you may or may not fuck someone. I ruined mine when I was 18 going to Spain (well, Magaluf) because I was so obsessed with pulling and thought it was a “bad holiday” because I didn’t pull. Despite the fact that there were a lot fun times.
Just enjoy the fact that you’re on holiday in a different country. By all means be open to chatting and charming if the opportunities present themselves but don’t focus on it. It’s a great way to make a great holiday a miserable one.
So the best way, is to approach your holiday with the mindset that you’re going to enjoy yourself as much as possible regardless of what happens. Because that way, you’re enjoying yourself which may result in some fucking or may just result in a great holiday.
Be respectful is probably the most important thing, also be ready to get rejected, some guys don’t take rejection well.
Don’t forget that as an average looking guy your success rate might be somewhere around 20% (if its a decent night). Don’t expect much and just try to strike a conversation, give some compliments (maybe a bit flirtatious if you are a bit tipsy) and if it feels uncomfortable or if she gives an uncomfortable vibe just say it was nice to meet her/get to know her and move on.
But most importantly, enjoy the night! Look for a decent crowd, not a place that’s to expensive and pregame at a bar, there you can make friends/find out about the local night scene in the city, which will help you a lot!
Do not try too hard.
Focus on having fun first.
Be confident without overdoing it.
Smile and smell nice.
If all else fails, go back to number 2.
You start off by saying “Hey baby”
Instead of approaching women at a club, just focus on making more money and getting in better shape. You’ll end up with the hotter girls that way anyways. If you go to the club and get drunk with your boys, if you get laid you get laid.
Smile, be nice, be genuine and don’t be out of it you get rejected. Just relax.
Your chances are slim compadre but here’s my advice. Just be confident and make eye contact. Also, if you cast a big enough net, you’re bound to catch something. Good luck and have fun.
Assuming there’s no physical barriers between you and them I imagine a straight line sprint towards them should be easy
one thing that’s worked well for me so far is just trying to establish eye contact (in a flirty, not creepy way, know the difference), then go to them and talk for a sec and offer to buy her a drink. You’ll naturally get talking while waiting on the drinks, from there on it’s easy game
Don’t get drunk or high. Just have a couple of drinks to loosen up then go onto some soft drinks. The more drunk you get the more of a twat you will make of yourself and the more likely you are to do or say something stupid, aka, tank your odds.
Speak to girls casually and conversationally. You’re not after marriage, just have a laugh and a giggle with them. Remember they’re human too and they don’t want some weirdo trying for sex within 5 mins of meeting them.
Be positive and relaxed. Don’t slag anyone off or try to give it billy big bollocks. Just talking about interests, jokes, fun things you’ve done or places you’ve been etc. listen to them. Actually listen. The more you listen and show you’re listening the better. Ask them about them. Have a little dance.
Loosen up.
Read their signals. If they’re not giving you much to work with or they don’t seem interested, don’t bug them, just move on. If they’re actively engaging with you and seem interested, take it steady and only ask for a number if you really feel like she’s fun and a good match for your energy. If she still says no, just be polite and move on. It’s a bit of a numbers game so don’t take it personally if you crash out a few times. Perseverance is the name of the game.
If it comes to it that someone actually does want to do squishy stuff on holiday or that night, wear a fucking condom. No don’t argue with me, wear a fucking condom. Take it easy – you’re not a pornstar. Stick to basics, communicate what you like, ask what she likes, and no don’t ask to stick anything up her arse. If things go a little wrong or not as expected (can’t get it up, can’t shoot or just do something embarrassing) just relax and don’t freak out. Laugh it off and see if she’s up for trying again another time.
You’ll be fine. Remember you’re young, and whatever happens it’s all part of the learning process.
You got some living to do if girls intimidate you.
“Just walk up and say hi, but don’t be a creep” has, is and always will be good advice
Honestly? Talk to them like people. Don’t make it a transaction. Don’t allow then to make it one either.
Less honestly? “Hi! Do you believe in love at first sight, or do I need to walk past you again?”
I’m not a club dude so take everything I say with multiple grains of salt. I got a homeboy in the military that was stationed in Spain and he got a good view of the club scene out there.
What he’s told me is that it’s similar to American clubs where having a section and bottle service is a cheat code for getting girls to crowd around. Just then being in proximity in large numbers is gonna boost your odds of success. Also the prices aren’t nearly as crazy as they are in the states, so you’ll still have to drop some cash but not to the same extent.
Also don’t be afraid to use what Spanish you know to try to communicate. He tells me that they find it endearing when you try to speak the language.
Once again, take the advice with a grain of salt because 1 it’s second hand and 2 my dude was in a military town. The local girls knew when ‘fresh’ American military dudes were coming into town and they know a lot of them are ready to spend money and party so the ladies are low key hunting for em.
My real advice would be fuck the club, experience the city and have a good time regardless of what the local women are doing. If you connect with someone, great. If not, also great if you’re having a great time
Assuming you are like 95% if guys –
Dude your 18, your probably going to suck at it, your going to get nervous, you’ll probably say things your going to cringe over. It’s fine, you’re 18, you are still learning, takes years to get comfortable in your own skin.
My advice would be to not get your expectations too high. If you don’t get a hook-up, it’s fine, I (and 95% of men) have had many of these events be a let down. And if you do get a hook-up – Kodus to you mate.
Typically you walk into the middle of the dance floor, push people back to form a circle around you and start air humping wildly while slowly rotating your head and locking eyes with each female in your vicinity