Struck up a convo with a girl at my gym, wanted to ask for her number but I pussied out because asking for someone’s contact 5 minutes after meeting them might make them uncomfortable
What’s the best way to approach this? I got the approach part down but I can’t finish lol
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Struck up a convo with a girl at my gym, wanted to ask for her number but I pussied out because asking for someone’s contact 5 minutes after meeting them might make them uncomfortable
What’s the best way to approach this? I got the approach part down but I can’t finish lol
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I just give them my number.
Just slow play it, talk to her when you see her for a while and eventually get some balls .
let her do it. most women are there to work out or if she approaches you then you can make the move
Be calm and collected, play it cool and just straight up tell her, “I’d like to get your number” 50/50 she says yes or no. If Yes, say awesome and wish her a nice work out and you’ll hit her up later. And ACTUALLY WAIT to text her. If she says no for what ever reason, say that’s okay and wish her a good working out and whenever you see her and make eye contact, smile and GO ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS!
“Hey I would like to grab a drink with you some time”
Her: “yeah, sure!”
You: “awesome, what’s your number?”
Cmon dude, its not that hard
Good on you for getting this far man. It takes a lot of work. I too have only recently gotten to the stage where I can approach girls and have a convo, and struggle for the number part.
I’ve messed it up a couple of times so far, and I think my mistake has been overthinking it and taking too long to get to the point. Next time I’m in that situation I’m just going to try and be a bit more direct and simple. And will try to be respectful and prepared for her to refuse.
Anyway hope this helps, let me know if you figure out a good trick
walk up to her and drop one compliment then let her know youd like to get to know each oher better and ask for the number, if she give you or not still drop a second compliment
Break yo digits! 🔫
Ask for Instagram ?
Just walk up to her with all the confidence you can gather, hand her your phone and ask her to put her contact info in. 60% of the time, it works every time.
Maybe talk to her a couple of times more before u ask ?
Or ask for insta handle or something the next time u speak
“I will say this once. Give me your number.”
Step 1: don’t approach women at the gym. It’s off putting to say the least
Give her your number. Then the ball is in her court.
“I lost my phone number, can I have yours?”
I’d say just ask her, but at the same time it’s easier said than done. Because women are scary, and it’s a scary world out there
Just go for it, the only wrong way is not doing it.
If she finds you attractive it won’t make her uncomfortable . There is no strat or game just be relaxed whatever happens the choice was made before you even asked your just finding out if she liked you or not. You could do a workout then ask if you wanna do something later then phone #. But asking girls out where you be at especially gym can get awkward when you have to see each other. Keep that in mind
“can I have your number?”
Maybe make it a game. Next time you see her and making some small talk. Ask her if she wants to play a lift-off ( “Do you like competitive games?”) – each person does a specific lift with 3 attempts, whoever loses, buys the other one coffee/tea. Let her pick the lift.
Give her a handicap of 50 lbs. If she agrees, you are pretty much in. If not, she is probably not interested.
If the date does happen, go on a date and pay for her – you can pretend that you got confused and the winner was paying.
I used to have business cards for one of my fun side gigs. Artist, illustrator, animator. “Here reach out! This is mostly my personal contacts, you seem really cool, I’d like to hangout more, but I’m in a rush” always leave right after you get a laugh. Not just for women, in general. Leave on a high note, and ideally without answering a question/explaining something neat. Hand feeding them the ice breaker if they make first contact.
I treat it like jumping in a cold pool…
The more you think about it the worse it is & the less likely you’ll do it.
Just leave your feet & take the decision out of your hands. Even a simple “hey can I get your number?” puts you in a place where you know where you stand one way or the other.
Yes or no: either result is better than not knowing.