I’m 16 and I’m going to sleep with my girlfriend for the first time, and I’m really scared that I might get a boner and make her weird out, what do I do?
How to avoid getting erect while sleeping with girlfriend
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I’m 16 and I’m going to sleep with my girlfriend for the first time, and I’m really scared that I might get a boner and make her weird out, what do I do?
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Talk to her about it. Tell her you’re worried about it. See what she says
Young man, you don’t need to do this. It’s your and her nature to be exactly the way you are. If it happens, say that It’s unintentional and only because you’re attracted to her, that’s how your organism works
It’s gonna happen. Even morning wood. Just share with her all the info and it should b fine
Yeah don’t worry about getting erect with her, that’s natural and you shouldn’t be worried about it
Dude, chill out. You’re both humans and bodies do stuff. She’s probably just as nervous as u are. Just be open abt it n laugh it off if it happens. It’s natural, ntbh she might even take it as a compliment! 😉👍 Also, respect her boundaries always, consent is key bro. Good luck! 🍀👊
If you’re really 16 and somehow sleeping with your girlfriend, you should be getting erections. She would probably feel bad about herself if you didn’t. Don’t you get hard when kissing her with your clothes on?
Bro you most definitely need to let baby shine and see how it plays out lol.
Dude, nocturnal erections are completely normal and needed for proper penile health. It is very hard to avoid such a thing.
I suggest what the other reply said. Have a conversation about it.
You can’t fully control it, it’s normal. Wear loose clothes, sleep on your side or stomach. Don’t stress… most girls understand.
Think she’s your wife
She knows about boners.
Dude, don’t stress too much. She’s your gf, so just be real with her. We’re humans, stuff happens. If it does, laugh it off together. No need to make it a big deal. That’s my 2 cents, anyway. A lil’ awkwardness now & then keeps things real, y’know? Remember, communication is key! 👍🤷♂️
There would be a problem if you weren’t getting boners
Buddy, I’ve been waking up with a boner EVERY DAY since puberty. I’m 38
Just wait till you have to take a pee first thing.
Yo, dude, just chill. Gettin’ a boner while spooning is like, totally normal. It doesn’t always mean u want the sexy times tho. Just be open abt it. If she’s cool, she’ll understand u ain’t weird or anything, it’s just biology doin’ its thing. And TBH, she might even take it as a compliment. So yeah, communication man, it’s key. Good luck!
Tell her you are only 16 and as embarrassing as it, that you’re just attracted to her
Lmao it’s gonna happen even if you don’t want it to. Just letting you know. Can’t really control boners like that kid
It happens.
I just tell them “hey, I’m not trying to poke you, I promise.” I have had no issues or push back (well, I have had some of them push back……) so I think the best way to diffuse it is to simply acknowledge it, and then go to sleep.
You’re 16, it’s gonna happen. If you’re worried, put the blanket between you guys or simply roll over until it goes away. But if it happens, she’ll understand bro. Just have a good time and don’t be weird about it
Be the little spoon?
I assume you mean sleep-sleep right? Like not sex, sleep. You can masturbate before the sleep over to avoid boners, but if it happens it shouldn’t be that big a deal right? It happens dude, and she’s your girlfriend, it isn’t weird you are attracted to her.
You’re supposed to get a boner… wait until you’re 60 and you can’t get one when you want to…
Think of your grandma or action movie to distract your mind… Hope it helps…
no girl would feel bad about it unless you’re making her feel responsible (and guilty?)for it/or that she should do something about it
Unless you are spooning her or laying flat while she is wide awake (and looking at it), she won’t know unless you tell her. I suggest explaining that it happens to you naturally because you are attracted to her, but let her know it isn’t something you will act on without her consent. I don’t know how close you two are or if you’ve been intimate with her, so I’m basing it on basically a blank slate here.
27M and married. It ain’t happening. If she points it out, just say “sorry, you’re hot, what do you want from me?”
If you get hard tell her to put just the tip in her mouth and it will go away 🤪
Ah the good ol days. The real trick is keeping calm and keeping it in your undies 😉
Just tell her ahead of time so she isn’t shocked. Most likely she will just laugh.
Either don’t sleep with her or be facing away. There you go champ.
You don’t understand- it’s literally not something you can control. You’re unconscious when you sleep. Literally. No one in their right mind could judge you if it happens. It’s completely out of your control.
Don’t worry abt it. It’s normal and she will probably understand. Because it will happen 😭