It might be worth asking them for a heart to heart talk about it, depending on your relationship with them of course. Tell them exactly how you feel about the criticism. They might tell you why they feel the need to criticise too. But, if it’s a calm chat, it should help both sides.
I’m not sure of your age but if you’re an adult living on your own your best bet would just go no contact with these people because it’s going to just keep trying to bring you down
I saw in a comment it’s family and parents right. I don’t know you but you could try saying this is not motivating me…if there’s any validity to any of it.
If they’re just terrible people, I’d spend as little time as possible with them, and bring over friends to buffer… who might say you’re parents are tools. I’d also talk to a school counselor
We do however, have the power to change how we react.
People who constantly criticize others often suffer from low self esteem and the only way they can feel better about themselves is to hurt others.
When I first learned this, it didn’t help very much. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that their opinion really didn’t matter. In fact, no one else’s opinion of you is relevant, only yours. The philosophy of Stoicism can help you learn this, and there’s a lot of free info about it online.
In addition, this short, inexpensive, and brilliant book can change you life: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant
If you learn this now, while you’re young, you can save yourself a lifetime of pain.
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Can you give an example of this criticism?
I like to mix up my techniques, really depends on the situation.
It might be worth asking them for a heart to heart talk about it, depending on your relationship with them of course. Tell them exactly how you feel about the criticism. They might tell you why they feel the need to criticise too. But, if it’s a calm chat, it should help both sides.
Remind yourself of your own value and that their opinions don’t define you.
I’m not sure of your age but if you’re an adult living on your own your best bet would just go no contact with these people because it’s going to just keep trying to bring you down
I saw in a comment it’s family and parents right. I don’t know you but you could try saying this is not motivating me…if there’s any validity to any of it.
If they’re just terrible people, I’d spend as little time as possible with them, and bring over friends to buffer… who might say you’re parents are tools. I’d also talk to a school counselor
I once said ‘I’m not looking for a performance review. Thanks’ and walked away.
We cannot change what other people say or do.
We do however, have the power to change how we react.
People who constantly criticize others often suffer from low self esteem and the only way they can feel better about themselves is to hurt others.
When I first learned this, it didn’t help very much. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that their opinion really didn’t matter. In fact, no one else’s opinion of you is relevant, only yours. The philosophy of Stoicism can help you learn this, and there’s a lot of free info about it online.
In addition, this short, inexpensive, and brilliant book can change you life: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant
If you learn this now, while you’re young, you can save yourself a lifetime of pain.