Before I say anything more, I want to make it clear that I take full responsibility for the issue and I now understand that I am mostly, if not fully, at fault.
This is mainly geared towards men, but any and all comments are appreciated.
My boyfriend (23m) and I (23f) have been together for almost a year. Our relationship has been gradually declining ever since we got together and I (a psychology major in college) couldn’t figure out why. Well, I recently fell into a rabit hole of how men process things and it is COMPLETELY different than women. Upon discovering this, I came to the realization that I have been absolutely horrible to my boyfriend by disrespecting and demasculating him almost every chance I get without even realizing it, and he has been contemplating leaving me for a month or two because of it.
That being said, he never opens up to me or talks to me about our relationship, and when I ask questions his best response is “I don’t know babe.”
Now that I know what I know, it’s clear that the issue is me. How can I show him that he can trust me enough to open up if I’ve previously given him backlash for it unintentionally? Is it possible to revive my relationship?
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Own your mistakes, give him space, and prove through actions not promises. Trust grows back like hair slow and only if you stop burning it.
Please tell me how you accidentally emasculated him all the time.
Make him feel safe to express himself by not reacting emotionally when he upsets you. Fix problems together. It’s not you versus him, it’s you both versus the issue. NEVER emasculate a man you’re dating, I’m surprised he’s still with you. I’ve had a couple women do that to me, and honestly it left wounds that required years of healing which is still ongoing. Please do not contribute to misandrist Kardashian culture.
I’d say the best way to heal is to just be genuine in your appreciation for him. And apologize for past behavior, he remembers.