my son came back from school today asking where babies comes from. I tried explaining it but I don’t think he understood anything
If it could help can someone also recommend cartoons or videos to explain it easier? my son loves them and I think it could explain it much easier
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my son came back from school today asking where babies comes from. I tried explaining it but I don’t think he understood anything
If it could help can someone also recommend cartoons or videos to explain it easier? my son loves them and I think it could explain it much easier
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Fairly easy to just say they come from their mommy’s tummy.
You don’t. Too young for that crap. Come back in 3-4 years.
Keep it simple and honest—like, “Mom and Dad’s bodies work together to make a baby.” For vids, check out “Sex Ed for Kids” on YouTube, it’s pretty chill and not awkward. Cartoons make it less weird for kids.
I saw a child therapist said as far as ages to explain what sex is: 8 is best, 9 is ok, 10 is too late. I wouldn’t use a video or cartoon unless it’s part of an active discussion, I highly resent the video rental with no context explanation I got, it very much felt like a signal that the parents weren’t comfortable talking about it. also be very clear that it can be an ongoing discussion if they have questions.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/development/sexual-development/sex-education-children
And if circumcised now is the time to explain it, I’ve known a few friends who became adults before recognizing it, and without any indoctrination it is hard to come to terms with the downsides. My trauma would have certainly been lessened if this had occurred as I had already recognized the damage but was too scared to ask about it. What seemed like secrecy about it only added to the trauma.
I never had that conversation when I was a kid or at all really. I think I was like 10 or 11 and some older kid had a penthouse on the bus ride to school. My dad did open the door and throw a box of trojans at me once. So like you can’t possibly be worse than that.
We had a book called Where Did I Come From that was a great introduction to the topic
tell him you don’t know. or that it’s a secret until he gets older.
He doesn’t need or want the icky details…stick to the basics. (Physical expression of love, then babies)
My son is 5, and he knows where babies come from. He knows the babies grow inside a woman’s belly. He knows that a grown man puts a seed in there.
He does not know what sex is.
You can explain a lot about babies, about the body, and not talk about sex.
Your kid IS GOING TO LEARN about it. You can’t avoid that. BUT you can choose whether he learns from a trustworthy source (you) or out there. It is your choice.
Wans’t there a program on karrewiet that according to them was tailored for children, or was that more targetted at the middle school aged oens
“Where do babies come from” is a lot easier than “why”. for the former “When a mother and father decide to make a baby, its grows in the mothers belly for a while until its ready” should suffice. I didn’t get any info on the subject until the puberty video they showed at the end of 5th grade so i dont know how schools are handling it these days.
Kids encyclopedia of human body did the trick. There was even a very tame depiction of sexual act and then everything with the sperm and an egg and the stages of a baby. A bit of a commentary was needed but the pictures help a lot.
Let the school system do it ? Here, it’s part of 8th grade biology classes.
Better than what my Dad told me and my brother’s. “You stick it in and nine months later, you’re fucked for life” my Dad the Philosopher.
When you talk, try not to be too blunt. Try to find a midway point in terms of the terminology so he can understand and won’t get lost in the explanation
I was raised by my mother and my mom never had one conversation with me about sex or where babies come from growing up. I just learnt it all on my own. So I definitely recommend talking to him about it. I don’t have kids so take what i say with a grain of salt but when I have kids I’ll be pretty open about where babies come from and the names of body parts. I’d start by establishing a foundation of what the parts are called, and who has them. Then to answer the question of where babies come from, I’d be honest. I’d say “a baby comes from when part of a man and part of a woman come together to make a baby”. At age 8 I’d be fine adding if there’s a follow up question “they do this in an adult activity called sex. Sex is a special hug adults do when they love each other.” I’d keep it simple but clear. I found pornography for the first time when I was just about to turn 9. (And i didn’t even have my own phone by the way). If you aren’t talking about this to your son he will learn from somewhere.
Not a man BUT I took a grad level reproduction course and when I asked my professor for book recommendations on this topic she enthusiastically pointed me toward “What Makes a Baby” by Cory Silverberg.
I have since gifted it to multiple parents and everyone LOVES it. It’s very accessible to kids and also the way that everything is laid out is very comprehensive/inclusive of various pregnancies (IVF, etc.) There is a super helpful parent guide as well that will help you have informative, age-appropriate conversations with your little. Highly recommend!
You say boys have a penis, girls have a vagina and explain from there what they do.