sophomore year of high school, i developed really serious feelings for this guy that i met/“dated” (if you can even call it that) in middle school. he’s exactly my type and i’ve never met anyone like him before.
i don’t know exactly how he felt about me, but there were some feelings. we messed around with each other during junior year. that’s when it got really serious for me, even after we stopped talking.
his friend asked me how i felt about him one day and i was perfectly honest with her. even though we didn’t talk anymore and we had our ups and downs, i liked him a lot. a few weeks later, she starts dating him.
i know it’s not fair for me to feel this way, but i hate her. it’s already been 2 years since they got together, but i am still so hurt that she did that to me. even if she didn’t do it in spite of me, i still cannot believe she would enter a relationship knowing i felt that way.
i need advice on how to get over him. it hasn’t gotten any better and i mourn what could’ve been. i just wish we could’ve worked out. it’s wrong of me to want someone who is in a relationship and it’s even more wrong to hate his girlfriend. i’ll go months without thinking about him and then it’ll all come rushing back to me and suddenly he’s all i can think about again. i just want a solution for this.
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Your feelings are valid heartbreak takes time, especially when it’s unresolved. It’s okay to still care, but you deserve peace and love that chooses you back. Healing isn’t about forgetting it’s about choosing yourself, a little more each day.
You’re not in love you’re stuck in a memory that never became reality. Grieve it like a loss forgive what broke you and then choose yourself before your heart forgets how.
Accept your feelings without judging yourself they’re natural.