This is a weird situation that I don’t know how to approach. So I (23f) have been sensing some odd vibes going on between my boyfriend (24) and his friend’s girlfriend. Every time we go over to their house, she needs constant attention from my boyfriend. Like we were sitting down once and she walks over to stand directly in front of us and then starts bending over for no reason? Like in a big empty room and my boyfriend and I were in the back. She puts her ass right in front of my boyfriend’s face any chance she gets, It’s not subtle at all. I’ve seen him looking, but at the same time it’s kind of hard not to when she’s just got it all out right in front of you. She compliments him and only talks to him, never says a word to me. We’ve never even had a real conversation before and we go over to their house at least once or twice a month. I brushed it off at first but this has been going on for a while now. Now I know my boyfriend’s friend (her bf) can see this happening and he doesn’t care. Its just pissing me off now. My boyfriend can read people easily so I know that he’s not ignorant to this either, but I’ve never brought it up with him. He goes over there often to hang out and even sleeps there sometimes. So either they’re doing stuff behind my back, or my boyfriend is just going along with her flirting. Either way I don’t like it. There’s nothing on his phone, but he has her contact. I know things can be deleted. I know that she’s insecure about herself so she could just be trying to make me jealous? But still…he’s just letting it happen. I’m not sure how I should go about approaching this situation. My biggest question is what exactly should I say when I bring this up to him? I feel like he’s just going to act like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about if I bring it up.
He’s never been unfaithful as far as I know, but I’ve been obliviously cheated on before and I dont like feeling paranoid. How am I supposed to trust him if he doesn’t shut down obvious flirting? Or am I supposed to keep ignoring it and hope that nothing is going on? I’m not going to stay with someone who entertains this, but is it possible that he’s actually innocent? We’ve been together for 3 and a half years.
Tl;dr Boyfriend’s friend’s girlfriend needs constant attention from my bf
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This can’t be ignored, you’re not crazy, your intuition is sounding the alarm, and all of your concerns are valid. Listen to your gut, create boundaries that make you feel comfortable, and if he has a problem with them, take off.