Basically my child’s father does the bare minimum…sends 100 a week…doesn’t call often, visited only 2 last year for one day each etc. I already applied for child support it’s just a long process because they are trying to verify his address. I can’t wait for that to finally go through to save me the stress of ever having to ask him for anything again. Today I asked him for a few bucks to get our kid some thing’s from Walmart. He responds “okay when I get home I will” as if you can’t just send it where you are currently but ok. Hours later he still haven’t sent anything so I text him to see if he still was…no response. I’m tired of him picking and choosing when he wants to do for his child & see her. His mom asked me the other day if she can take our kid to see him, I said yes but I’m having mixed emotions because I don’t like the picking and choosing…would I be wrong to say no?
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I couldn’t offer any opinion without knowing a lot more. But I do notice that you say “his child” when it comes to his obligations, but then say that you should get to decide when/how/if he sees his child. How old is “his” child, and did he have any say in the birth of “his” child?
He doesn’t get to be a when-its-convenient–for-him dad, but at the same time you can’t prevent him from seeing your daughter when there’s no court mandate in place. I say put a tracker on your kid, have a texted/emailed outline of times and pickups, and by whom set up. This will be a paper trail you’ll need. Good luck.