Hi all, so my MIL luckily lives on the other side of the country (my once long distance boyfriend moved from the east coast to west coast to be with me) and I always had a decent relationship with her although I only saw her about once or twice a year. Well now I’m 6 months postpartum, we’re so happy with our new baby. MIL flew here for the baby shower a few months before baby was born and acted SO ecstatic calling me “mama” and rubbing my belly. Fast forward a couple months and baby is born and I hear absolutely nothing from her. Months go by and I still hear nothing from her, no congrats, no check in.
Two months after my baby is born I decide to call her and out of nowhere she says mean and honestly super random things about me. Comparing me to her daughter saying how she’s more independent than me and I need to be doing more (her daughter is a stay at home mom and I have a masters in engineering and worked full time for years and throughout my pregnancy making more money than my BF..I recently got laid off though). She said that if me and her son ever have any problems it must be my fault or something I did. My mom is currently going through cancer treatment and she shamed me for caring for my mom saying that I need to chose between my mom or my baby? I started crying when she brought that up and I guess she noticed and she said you’re crying now you have to throw away your breastmilk, it’s trash now. It felt like she was holding in how she really feels about me all these years and she finally let it out. After that I told her I had to go and I hung up and told my BF and he called her and told her to apologize and this lady LAUGHS about it. It’s been months since then and just silence from her. She does speak to my BF occasionally on the phone and he has asked her multiple times to apologize and apparently she says “ok” to him but I still have not heard anything.
Well now it’s my sister in law’s son’s birthday and we are unfortunately flying there for a week. We usually stay at her place when we go but my BF understood that I didn’t want to so we’re staying somewhere else but we will have to spend time with her and introduce our son to her. How on earth am I supposed to act around her after all of that? I don’t even want to bring my son around her but I don’t want to put strain on my relationship with my BF.
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