Hi Reddit,
I am 27M, from India, I have not been very serious about my life and how I would want to built it for me. I was taught very early in my childhood that my chioces didn’t matter as much. Slowly as time has gone by and I have become more and more aware of the need to make all / major decesions of my life on my own – asking for help / suggestions to others is okay.
But in general, my parents have not been the kind who have encouraged autonomy and conviction. I have always wanted them to change but they also cannot change, is what I have realised. I also want to change myself but I have been a kind of person who falls back on parents or someone whenever I am in stress and in a challenge. I am guessing, I have not learnt to establish conviction in myself. Maybe it’s because I was asked to be a topper and for after being a topper, I never engaged in proper self reflection. As the quote goes “Who am I ? What do I want ? ” so now I have grown a lot, yet a lot of times come out as clueless or confused.
What I would like to do is to learn and earn that conviction in myself so that I can align myself with my life energy. What would be the process to work towards that ? Especially, as I am aging, I am coming to understand the set of experiences that I chose not to purse is something I can never get to again, even though I always thought that I could do it later – but In reality stability is a myth and you have to always learn & keep growing across and somehow manage across the chaos that life is.
Dear serniors,
Can you please help ? I would like to build a strong anchor in myself as a human being, as a man – so that I never ever blame anyone and learn to make my own choices and walk the paths of life that are true to me.
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The first thing to do is get a job. Second, move out on your own. Then you will experience what it is like to struggle. That struggle will fuel your fire to grow