I sometimes catch men staring buy they don’t approach me. I won’t act like I’m very inviting though since I really don’t even know how to react(I’m shy). And how to be more approachable?
How to know if a guy is interested or just looking?
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I sometimes catch men staring buy they don’t approach me. I won’t act like I’m very inviting though since I really don’t even know how to react(I’m shy). And how to be more approachable?
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Was it someone you just saw on a bus?
You won’t really “know” unless you have a conversation with them.
Plenty of people will look with no real interest. That goes for both genders.
Honestly with how society and social media views sex as such a casual thing, I would say the majority of guys are just looking.
“Just looking” to get laid and if there’s a better looking girl than you around, you’re totally disposable.
It’s all about energy. People want to be around people who make them feel happy. Exude genuine positivity, and folks will want to share that with you.
Nowadays a lot of men are “cautious”. Dont want to scare etc. just say hi or wave etc. give him a “green light”. He’ll go from there
A smile and wink! Maybe followed by a little eye brow raise. Then beckon them forward with a finger gesture. Lol jk I have no idea
The point of non-verbally initiating an approach as a woman is plausible deniability, which you can use if you soon want a way out of the conversation. Women used to drop a handkerchief, now it looks more like a prolonged glance with a smile. I’m sure there’s videos out there detailing this, but in 2025 most men won’t approach without a clear invitation. So I’d learn and practice doing that if I were you. As to your shyness, your shyness doesn’t define you. Most things people want in life are on the other side of a wall built by fear.
Good luck.
The number one mistake women make on this is thinking that if a man was interested, he would make a move.
And therefore if he didn’t make a move, he isn’t interested.
Not how it works.
If they are staring and you do not react positively (“I won’t act like I’m very inviting”) then they aren’t going to do anything. Why would they?
Guys are expected to approach first but you aren’t giving them anything to work off of. Try to be more obvious like smile and look inviting. Chances are they find you attractive if they are staring.
Well if a guy would actually be interested they usually would try and find a way talk to you unless they are too shy too. If a guy just stares and doesn’t approach they are most likely just looking and checking you out.
I think a way to be more approach and is the vibes you give off. So be very smiley to the people you think look nice or maybe even try talking to one of them and make the first move yourself if they themselves are too shy to make the first move.