Never dated anyone my whole life. Always thought that dating felt useless back in my highschool days looking at how all my friends broke up and just become strangers like that. So most of the time I just focus on myself and treat everyone just as friendly.
Since Im a date to marry kind-of-guy, becoming an adult, ive been really cautious of Interacting with women cause Im scared of being too deeply attached to someone, to the point that my mind automatically refuses to see her in any other light. Where in the end, it turns out we have different feelings for each other. How to know whether a girl is actually comfortable with you and becomes romantically approachable?
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You don’t know. That’s why you have to make your move and find out
I think you first of all should relax and take a step back, because starting talking about marriage when you never even dated someone is to get ahead of yourself.
Second of all: how to tell if someone is into you? From my meager experience: they laugh at your jokes, they touch you, briefly probably if they are as nervous as you, and seems to hang around when noone else is, ie they enjoy your company.
It actually isn’t rocket surgery and if you meet someone that really likes you, you usually know rather quick, depending on how perceptive you are.
Become friends first.
My brother in christ, you don’t ask the easiest of questions, do you?
Check her social media. I know, kinda stalkery vibes, but give my two minutes i’ll pass the vibe check.
Most ladies will put their status (single/dating/married) in their bio more often than not. So, a good start to check there. Scroll or swipe around for a bit to see if there’s a common reassuring guy there. Might be a boyfriend/fiance/husband or it’s just Mark and he’s her gay friend! Who knows, more data points to reference.
Next, see if she is wearing a ring on her left hand ring finger, right side as you’re facing her, and if she is; abort mission. If not, go ahead and pass go and collect your 200 dollars. However, some women (and i learned this from a female relative) will wear a decoy ring to keep guys from hitting on them. Kinda ingenious to keep the creeps away.
Now, hypothetically, if she looks like she might be single after all that, go ahead and talk to her. Please understand (and a lot of people dont) that communication is key, and body language make up 80%-90% of it. If she makes eye contact a lot then looks away, smiles more, plays with her hair, laughs at your obviously unfunny jokes(old school ways of telling she’s flirting or open to you flirting), are some ways to tell if she’s into you.
That’s not a sure-fire way of telling, though. Not every woman is the same as every man is not the same. Just go with your gut as best you can. If it looks like she’s digging it, keep the course and perhaps you’ll get her number or even a date. If she looks like she’d rather be doing anything else or be somewhere else, or looks bored, dismissive, keeps looking at their phone and/or texting on it, turns away from you, etc… try again with someone else.
Don’t take it personal, she may be having a rough day, and you caught her at a bad time, or she wasn’t into you. Oh well, maybe the next one. Just be prepared for potentially a lot of rejection right off the bat. I’m not sure how old you are my friend, but many younger women are very shallow or wrapped up in themselves or their situations and will act (I honestly don’t know how else to word this,) flighty.
That’s my own personal experience with dating when I tried dating a few years younger than myself. Quite literally made the joke of “rainbows, tacos, doctor who, and homestuck!” but for today’s dating culture. Apologies for the dated reference.
All of that is to say, “Do a little looking and trust your gut.” Good luck friend. I was lucky to meet a wonderful woman and I love her oh so dearly, and think of how I’ll spend our lives together.
So when you do find a woman who like you and you like her, remember; a relationship will live and breathe and die on how well the both of you communicate.
Sometimes a woman just wants to vent about how her day was shit and her boss is a cunt (yes, and actual conversation I’ve had with her) and all you need to do is be an ear she can bend. Other times, you need to take an executive action and tell her what and when she needs to do something to solve her problems. Be very careful on how and when you exercise that power. She will be livid if you get it wrong.
Ask me how I know…
The best way to work around that is to ask the following question: “Are we stress relieving, or are we solving problems?” Wisest words i ever got from my grandfather and now I pass them willingly onto you. More wise words from him were “make sure what your feeling is love and not lust. The best way to tell is to think about her while having a wank! If you still feel the same way, do it again, and if then it’s still there, you might just be in love.”
He was a coal miner, not a gold miner, fucking funny though. Hope this helps, and if it left you more confused than anything else, I hope it made you laugh. Cheers Lad!
A big part of dating is gaining experience. Most people don’t spend their whole lives with the first person they date, but that first person teaches them valuable lessons about who they are, what they’re looking for in a partner, and relationship skills in general. A good rule of thumb is dating for at least a year before moving in together, and then living together for at least another year before thinking about marriage. (Dating for at least a year teaches you whether you actually love the person, and living for a year shows you who that person actually is, not just what they choose to show you when you’re meeting up).
If you at 25 can’t pick up on romantic interest from a woman, and are serious about marriage, consider using a matchmaker. Old school, I know, but it works much better than randomly dating hoping for a spark.
Ask.
Practice flirting.
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